Thanks for the responses.It helps a little to talk about this,and figure out what to do.IRL it seems as if everyone has closed up,and no longer wants to hear there is a problem.Being the *only parent to complaint* I am being viewed now as some sort of control-freak mom. I am pro-hs,so maybe people think I am *looking* for a problem,but really I would be happy for the kids if they are happy.No reason I still can't provide lessons outside of school. Dh is gone most of the time(with work),and grandma is an hour away,so it leaves me to deal with this daily.
I would love to pull ds,but he actually wants to remain in ps.I spoke with someone from an ATA martial arts school,and I will sign him up there so he has some confidence building.Lol, I think I need some building up as well to deal with the district and my family!
After I drop the kids off I will look for the board of education to get a copy of the district anti-bully policy...if they even have one.All I got so far was a student handbook. I found a model policy online for Ohio,and was just wondering what the difference is with a formal and informal complaint.Does anyone see a difference? I have written 3 letters so far.One to the teacher,and 2 to the principal regarding ds being pushed,hit,grabbed,and knocked down. I can not tell if they are formal or informal.Ok, I think I see it now.Formal is student or parent,and informal just says student complaint.
http://www.ebasedprevention.org/pdf/...v03_051407.pdf
<<<<i.Formal Complaints
Students and/or their parents or guardians may file reports of conduct that they consider to be bullying. Such written reports shall be reasonably specific as to the actions giving rise to the suspicion of bullying, including person(s) involved, time and place of the conduct alleged, the number of such incidents, the target of such suspected bullying, and the names of any potential student or staff witnesses. Such reports may be filed with any school staff member or administrator, and they shall be promptly forwarded to the Building Principal for review and action in accordance with Section VI.
C. Informal Complaints
Students may make informal complaints of conduct that they consider to be bullying by verbal report to a teacher or administrator. Such informal complaints shall be reasonably specific as to the actions giving rise to the suspicion of bullying, including person(s) involved, time and place of the conduct alleged, the number of such incidents, the target of such suspected bullying, and the names of any potential student or staff witness. A school staff member or administrator who receives an informal complaint shall promptly reduce the complaint to writing, including the information provided. Such written report by the school staff member and/or administrator shall be promptly forwarded to the Building Principal for review and action in accordance with Section VI.
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I did go up to the school at recess time on Friday.I have many times before.Can not go on the property,but I watch from the road even though parking is illegal. If ds is on the black top area(k and 2g kids are seperated) I can not see him.Friday 2g kids were on the playground so I did not see ds,but dd did see me and waved.I was there just 5 minutes or less,and I did see a boy jump and head lock/choke a boy.It certainly did not look like that boy was having fun. So I don't care what the principal says-bullying is happening at his school,but no one wants to talk about it.
I am starting to look into local charter and private schools.He is only 5 so I could pull and start him in K at 6 somewhere else.That or hsing would be what I want at this point.
The sitter example is good.I certainly can not think of any situation where we would continue to send our kids into a place where they get emotionally/phyisically traumatized. I am probably going to get that book Bullycide in America.Though it is typically older kids in the story most dealt with bullying early on.I remember reading a new study on K bullying,and it went on to say that kids that were bullied in K tend to be bullied throughout their school years. I have mentioned this study over and over,but no one seems to get the implications of what I am saying...nip this in the bud now or my child could be a bullycide statistic in a few years.
