Leave. Me. Alone!!! - Page 2

[alyrie]

I will be talking with my sister tomorrow about her role at the birth. She used to be the little over-reactor when we were kids, and I was always the calm one. I need to know that she's going to stay calm, even if something unexpected happens (like meconium or a shoulder gets stuck or something). I plan on telling her that the midwife is in charge completely, and no one will attempt to undermine her authority, as I have complete faith in her. She knows my wishes and I know she will honor them. My doula will ensure this as well. If she gives me any indication that she will deviate from this plan, I plan on telling her that I cannot be constantly worried that she will flip out, call 911, etc, and I'd rather she wait with mom and dad for the invitation to come see baby when she's born.

Again...I really appreciate your replies, ladies.

[Plaid Leopard]

Wow! You are dealing with a lot! Kudos to you for not completely flipping out and disowning your whole family!
I'm glad you are able to talk calmly with your family and tell them what you need and expect. I think it is VERY IMPORTANT that you assure them that you know they are excited and eager to see their first grandchild, but you need to rest and relax, you cannot know how things will go, and you certainly cannot be worried about other people's feelings at this point, and it is possible that you may not want to see or even talk to anyone immediately after the birth. You need to think about yourself, concentrate on yourself, and also on your baby.
ALso, you should remind them that after the birth mama and baby awake and alert for an hour or so but then YOU BOTH NEED TO SLEEP AND RECUPERATE and you should not be playing hostess. And even if they would all go to the hospital right away to see her, we are talking about your personal home and space here, which is a bit different.

More big hugs to you. Maybe you will birth in the middle of the night and the labor will be sooo fast you won't have time to call anyone but the MW.

[gina871]

I am sitting her cry as I read your post becasue I feel like I am in the same boat You are not a lone. I wish you the best. I have at least had a couple other birth, but this on has been the worst for waiting. Be thankful that your not feeling pressure from your midwife to induce. Mine asked me yesterday for an end date, which means if I either go into hiding or give up any plan to have this baby at home if I have not deilver by that time.

[alyrie]

I'm so sorry your midwife is trying to pressure you into that. I would say "October 15th is my end date, as my EDD was Sept 4" See how she likes them apples! My MW hasn't suggested anything, as I measured 40 weeks by fundal height this week at 41w1d, baby is moving just fine, etc. We think my EDD is off by a week or so. Besides, she can't deliver me in a hospital (I don't think there are any midwives in Arkansas who have hospital priveliges?), so she's not pit happy. What if you tell your midwife that pitocin isn't in the cards for you, and you will not consent to it?

Today is better for me for some reason. I think it's because I really didn't answer my phone yesterday when the aunts, cousins, and friends started calling. I didn't just not answer, I picked up/hung up. lol. No callbacks either! Woo! Rude? Maybe, but I don't care at this point.

[beautiful_mama]

[QUOTE=alyrie;9173073]I didn't just not answer, I picked up/hung up. lol./QUOTE]


oh HILARIOUS!

That'll teach 'em

No seriously, I have a few well meaning friends today ask if I am having and strong contractions...I pity her, she has never been pg. She's lucky I am being nice today because otherwise Im ight rip her head off and eat it for breakfast

major labor vibes to you Alyrie