Is this babe your last?

[mighty-mama]

Just wondering..

Gavin is probably 99% our 2nd and last child.. Dh and I feel blessed with the healthy children we have, despite all our struggles, and feel like our family is complete..

I honestly thought I'd be really emotional over it, but surprisingly I'm not. Maybe it hasn't hit yet?... I'm actually excited to get rid of my maternity clothes..

[stacyg]

We've always wanted a big family...but we are happy with what we've been blessed with...so we just wait and see... How's that for a round about answer! We're awaiting number 3 to join us!

[Plaid Leopard]

I'm pretty sure this will be my last. DH wanted to stop at 2. Then #3 came along and I thought that would be it. But I kept feeling like there NEEDED to be one more child. So here I am waiting for #4.
I really hope I don't get baby fever again! I want to continue my midwifery studies do other things...

[sunshine's mama]

I honestly don't know but prolly???

The Hyperemesis this time made me hate so much of my pregnancy that now I feel this awful guilt about how much I talked about not even wanting to be pregnant, hating how I was pregnant and now I have this fantastically beautiful little girl who I love more than ever.....that I don't know if I can go through that again.....it just emotionally broke me and I am trying to recover from it the best I can without alot of support right now (except for you guys!!!!) and it's hard...

I was never supposed to be able to get pregnant without lots of outside help and they are still kinda baffled at how it happened......

So who knows....

I spose if it's meant to be....

Right after delivery I wanted to be pregnant again.......the HG was out of my head and I just looked at her and my oldest and wanted another.....

So, we'll see what the future holds.

At 3 months PP, I have an appt with my endocrinologist for testing to see what's going on really......and we'll go from there.

I am pretty sure Dp thinks we are done...He has a first who will be 8 in december.....

[beautiful_mama]

a big huge...YES

We were open to a large fmaily ( and now border close to extra large )

but dh and I have been doing this for no kidding almost 14 yrs now, ...I am only 32, and I feel VERY blessed to have so many and am glad that we did it younger (versus older) because I know there is no WAY I could handle having had this many being older. This pg has kicked my UU

I will always get baby fever...but for us, we need to move on

I too have been feeling alot like you, but I have had moments where I morn that feeling of being pg being gone forever.

Granted....I don't really even LIKE being pg, seriously but I love the miracle of life from test to first breath In a perfect world where I had unlimited resources, help....a FULL TIME MAID dh and I would have a TON more. He is actually having more issues with it than me he loooooves the babies!!

Anyway, I realized today that while I will miss it, I find myself way more impatient this time than previous pg's because I know it is my last and

I am SO. DONE.

[lactivist]

I am SO done! I knew this would be my last baby and then I had such a miserable pregnancy (I really wanted to be pregnant so it isn't your fault Sunshine bad pregnancies just happen) and that made it that much more clear. Hubby is getting a vasectomy in the next couple months. I am 38 and have been doing this for 16 years. I feel like my family is perfect and complete and I am ready for the next phase of my life. I am having some bittersweet thoughts about how I won't be pregnant ever again or this is the last time I have a week old baby but I am really content with my decision and just worship my new baby.
Wendi

[*jeanine*]

If you asked me before delivery (and a couple days after) I would have said I AM DONE!! I really felt like i do not need to be pg again. but we've been talking about birth control, and i'm *not* ready for a permanent solution just yet (and to my surprise dh feels the same way). and i won't be getting rid of the maternity stuff i really liked - just in case. we'll see how i feel when this one becomes mobile
(ftr, irl i'm sticking to my "i am done" story. less pressure that way, i guess. but it's nice to have someone i can be honest with.)

[jazzybaby9]

I hope not! As much as I hated the hypermesis I experienced for the first 5 months... & all those other lovely things that accompany pg...I really want more kids in the future...I'm still so young so I'll be waiting a few years before hopping on the bandwagon again.

[bhawkins]

I'm pretty sure 3 is it for us. DH seems to think we need at least one more, but he's not the one doing any of the work! Mind you, I'm not so sure about it that either of us is getting "fixed". So, we'll see. Right now I'm happy with what I've got.

[gizzyntaz]

It's likely.

We always said, 2 or 3. We'd love three, but the emotional and financial toll may be too much to overcome to "make that decision". I will be so happy with my 2. In a small way I hope #3 comes as a "surprise". That way we don't have to decide. Because right now there's only about a 25% chance that we would plan a third.

Either way, I'll need to get pregnant right when my fertility returns, or not at all. We won't be waiting awhile before a 3rd, because we are eager to move past the "baby stages" for the whole family.

[stefka]

Originally Posted by gizzyntaz

We'd love three, but the emotional and financial toll may be too much to overcome to "make that decision". I will be so happy with my 2. In a small way I hope #3 comes as a "surprise". That way we don't have to decide. Because right now there's only about a 25% chance that we would plan a third.

That pretty much describes us, except substitute "I'd love a 3rd" for "we'd love a third" (DH is feeling like this is it), and probably less than a 25% chance we'll really do it. The cost of living around here and my attempts at work/ life balance will probably be the deciding factors. Plus our general sanity level. I'd say if #2 is a super easy baby, we're more likely to seriously consider a 3rd due to temporary insanity, but I'm working on the assumption that this won't happen.

[littlecityfarmer]

I'd love one more, but I think our third (16 days old today!) is our last, because DH is ADAMANT that three is plenty-- he's the youngest of 8, I'm the oldest of three, but my mom is the oldest of 6, as was her mother... Anyway, DH doesn't want a huge family, and we're not particularly good with the "planning" aspect of family planning (hence 3 kids in 4 years), so he has volunteered to have a vasectomy at some point in the next few months.

[Daisie125]

Depends on who you ask. DH wants a vas next year... I'm not so sure. We've got time though, so I don't feel like we have to make a decision now.

[mamas2atti]

We will probably have 1 more (for a total of 4) but right now is not a good time to ask me. I am soooo tired of being pregnant.

[sophiekat]

we'll have at least one more but i'm hoping there'll be at least two years before i get pg again

[IntuitiveJamie]

I'm pretty sure this is our last. And I feel pretty darn good about it actually. I'm sure I'll get baby fever at some point, but we are getting dh a vasectomy shortly after this baby arrives and everything is okay. I thought for the longest I'd like three, but two seems just right. I feel like we will be complete as a family of four.

[Brilliantmama]

no, we plan for a total of 3-4 kids. Whenever we are asked what plans we have for birthcontrol, and I say, breastfeeding until we get pregnant again, people freak out. "Don't youu know that you can get pregnant *while breastfeeding, even if you haven't gotten your period!?!"

Um, yeah that's how I got here, my mom never even had 1 period between my brother and me (2.5 yrs apart.)

It is just shocking and appalling that we would be ok with a pregnancy in a matter of months or years and don't feel the need to CONTROL every aspect of or family. (Like you can!)

[tsfairy]

I'm not sure. DH thinks so, especially after the drama we had after Logan's birth. Pregnancy is really hard on me, so I'd love to just be done with it, but I'm just not sure that our family is complete. We've talked about adoption, so maybe that's the route we'll go if we decide to bring another baby into our lives.

All that said, DH wants to go get "the snip" right away but I won't let him. Not yet.

[danaalex]

i'd love 1 or 2 more. i'd love to have 6 kids total. we'll see. DH is actually the one who decided that we'd have at least one more after this one i sorta left it up to him.

is it crazy that i'm already thinking WHEN we'll do this again?? i'd really like to deliver in late may early june so that i don't have to worry about any sort of conflict with new baby and schooling. we are probably going to have one in homeschooled first grade and one in public kindergarten and then one in private preschool LOL. so, ideally i'd like to NOT have to worry about any of that when the baby was born. SOOOOO, either i get pg when our newest is 1 yr old, or when she is 2 yrs old.

my OB said that my insides were "gorgeous" and everything, including my muscles, looked perfect for more babies so, it's up to us!

[sarahbay]

I am so so so done.

I LOVE babies in a major way, but then raising the kids as they get older is sooooooooo much work.

It's not like they stay babies forever, and that would be worse, as you get worn out so quickly caring for a baby. But it's not like they instantly grow up either.

Plus it's such a stress on the marriage, even the best one, to have more kids.

We are at #4 and I'm hoping we are done.

DH and I already agreed that permanent alterations to our bodies is maybe not the best idea though. SO I'm still not sure what to do about birth control!!!!!!

Yikes, and I am so friggen fertile. I'm the kind of person that really needs to have something permanent just for peace of mind. But I've read way too much on the negative consequences of permanent birth control. Too scared to do that to myself or my hubby.

SO I guess I'll be trying the pill again, or IUD or something. We hate condoms or I'd just do that as it is very reliable.