Originally Posted by Earthly_Joys
mtiger - I apologize. You have every right to be concerned and up in arms about the situation your children are living in. I'm pretty sure that no judge would support your children not being able to talk to you ALL summer. That is ridiculous. You need to contact a lawyer and pursue getting some of the fine details set in place so you can maintain your place in your children's lives. It is incredibly unfair of BOTH the stepmom and the dad to force that on you and your children. I hope your situation improves quickly!
Actually, it's not that bad at the moment. Dad pretty well lets them choose when/if they go to see him. The older one has spent.... hmmm.... 10 days since the start of the year there. The younger has been up a bit more. I do find it sad for all three of them, but at the end of the day..... it is what it is.
The summer phone thing was a couple of years ago, when they spent more time there. But honestly? The stage was set from the first day we met. They came together to get the kids, and I went out to say hello, introduce myself, etc. First thing she says to me is (and this is having spent 2 days w/the kids in total) "You know #1 is a very disturbed child. What are you doing about it?" (Uuuuuh, excuse me? You barely know this child.) But I got a half hour discourse on what was wrong with the kiddo.
Still and all, both of mine are old enough to have formed their own opinions. I've made a point to keep my mouth shut and allow them to do that - no one can accuse me of standing between them and their Dad/stepmom. Well.... I'm sure they could come up with something.
And I know not all stepmoms aren't like this. Just as all moms aren't terrible and evil, either.