I really need some advice on this because I am stumped. I am not a new doula and have had plenty of experience, but with this latest mama I am stumped, frustrated, surprised and just trying very hard to go with the flow.
The mom started out wanting my services and wanting to take my hypnosis for birth classes. She wanted an all natural birth as her last was horrible. She took three of the five classes and then said she was having panic attacks so she didn't want to take the class anymore. I told her I could help her with the panic attacks, but she said she didn't want to. That very same day she also informed me that she decided that instead of an unmedicated birth she was going for an epidural the second she gets to the hospital and that her doctor is going to start with a "light" epidural so she can walk and will increase as needed. I should say that in my area I have yet to see a light epidural, yet to see them let a mom out of bed once she has one, etc.
The mom then had a migraine the other day and went to the hospital. While there her bp went high and then low and then high again. The doctor told her he wants her to come to the office every other day for a bp check and that if it went up and stayed up she would be induced. He also told her that he felt that all of her issues were self induced and not a truly medical situation. She went to see the doctor today and her bp was 137/83 and she was still high, tight, 0% effaced and 0 cm dilated. He also told her that at 39 weeks he would allow her to have an elective induction. She talked with him about use EPO and he said that there was not enough research and that he felt it didn't work so he told her she couldn't do it.
I know this practice well and know that this practice has a high induction rate, high cesarean rate, and that they tell mamas whatever they want to hear while pregnant and when they get closer to their due date they change everything around. I tried talking to the mama about this way back when and all she keeps saying is that she trust her doctor 100%. In fact she e-mailed me yesterday and told me the same thing - saying she trusts him 100% that he will do whatever is best for her and her baby's health. I am trying very hard to respect her wishes and desires to have this doctor and keep telling myself that she chose him for a reason, but the closer we get the more I see this train wreck waiting to happen.
This is her second child and the last baby went to 42 weeks with a 4 day induction from you know where.
The mom started out wanting my services and wanting to take my hypnosis for birth classes. She wanted an all natural birth as her last was horrible. She took three of the five classes and then said she was having panic attacks so she didn't want to take the class anymore. I told her I could help her with the panic attacks, but she said she didn't want to. That very same day she also informed me that she decided that instead of an unmedicated birth she was going for an epidural the second she gets to the hospital and that her doctor is going to start with a "light" epidural so she can walk and will increase as needed. I should say that in my area I have yet to see a light epidural, yet to see them let a mom out of bed once she has one, etc.
The mom then had a migraine the other day and went to the hospital. While there her bp went high and then low and then high again. The doctor told her he wants her to come to the office every other day for a bp check and that if it went up and stayed up she would be induced. He also told her that he felt that all of her issues were self induced and not a truly medical situation. She went to see the doctor today and her bp was 137/83 and she was still high, tight, 0% effaced and 0 cm dilated. He also told her that at 39 weeks he would allow her to have an elective induction. She talked with him about use EPO and he said that there was not enough research and that he felt it didn't work so he told her she couldn't do it.
I know this practice well and know that this practice has a high induction rate, high cesarean rate, and that they tell mamas whatever they want to hear while pregnant and when they get closer to their due date they change everything around. I tried talking to the mama about this way back when and all she keeps saying is that she trust her doctor 100%. In fact she e-mailed me yesterday and told me the same thing - saying she trusts him 100% that he will do whatever is best for her and her baby's health. I am trying very hard to respect her wishes and desires to have this doctor and keep telling myself that she chose him for a reason, but the closer we get the more I see this train wreck waiting to happen.
This is her second child and the last baby went to 42 weeks with a 4 day induction from you know where.
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: I have been there done that and know how you're feeling. Those are some of the toughest situations and sometimes you have to dig SOOOooooooooo deep just to muster up the ability to be supportive. It's hard but she's choosing that path, you have offered the education and it is up to her to take it or not.
