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Poll Results: Santa Claus: yes or no

 
  • 61% (164)
    Yes
  • 27% (75)
    No
  • 10% (29)
    Other (not sure of what an other might be, but I'm sure someone has one!)
268 Total Votes  
post #21 of 160
Yes, because I love the tradition and I'm glad my parents "lied" to us! I wasn't bitter at all when I found out the truth and in fact, I wish I still believed!
post #22 of 160
Yes, because I'm a nostalgic sap. But he only fills stockings. No big gifts left here.
post #23 of 160
I answered "no". I'm split on this. I was raised with Santa & I have memories of getting excited & waiting up for him & being surprised about stockings, etc. & then after I knew the truth (about 5 1/2 yrs old), I pretended to believe so that younger sis's could hold onto that excitement for longer.

But I also have ideas that I want to teach a more genuine type of excitement about the holiday season & giving in general that won't be a fallacy (even if it was exciting before I knew the truth). Its challenging to explain.

I prefer them learning something about the general *spirit* of giving & how magical & spiritual that can be when you make the time & effort to do it & the mysterious feeling in the air around the whole holiday season in general... like families/friends getting together after a while of not visiting & the silence & feelings of peace that many people get excited about. Or the feeling of giving & helping people communicate & celebrate for whichever reasons they celebrate. & the traditions, whichwever they seem to love, I want to introduce many things then see which ones my family feels closest with. My sister has the tradition that they watch the whole Star Wars series including the remake! One of my other sisters spends a day with her dd making cookies & decorating the house. How gorgeous.

I'm not a mom yet, so I have time to ponder, this is how I feel now. I probably won't go too far into the Santa concept. I may introduce him as a *spirit* of sorts & leave it to stockings & giving, etc. However, I will try hard to explain Santa in a way that is accepting & respectful so if my kids friends do believe, mine will know that having that belief is cool too.

Ahhaha... all of you who have kids already are laughing at my naivete... I can feel it
post #24 of 160
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Originally Posted by number572 View Post
I prefer them learning something about the general *spirit* of giving & how magical & spiritual that can be when you make the time & effort to do it & the mysterious feeling in the air around the whole holiday season in general... like families/friends getting together after a while of not visiting & the silence & feelings of peace that many people get excited about. Or the feeling of giving & helping people communicate & celebrate for whichever reasons they celebrate. & the traditions, whichwever they seem to love, I want to introduce many things then see which ones my family feels closest with. My sister has the tradition that they watch the whole Star Wars series including the remake! One of my other sisters spends a day with her dd making cookies & decorating the house. How gorgeous.

Ahhaha... all of you who have kids already are laughing at my naivete... I can feel it
I don't think it's niavete. It's what we shoot for actually, but you said it beautifully!
post #25 of 160
I answered "other" because ds is only 21 months and we're not sure what we're going to do yet. I'm leaning toward doing Santa stuff, but making it clear that Santa is just a pretend character we use to make Christmas more fun.

I'm really uncomfortable with the rampant consumerism and greed at Christmas, and I kind of feel like telling ds that this man exists only to bring him all kinds of presents feeds into this. Dh and I have talked about having a family tradition where we each make one gift for each other, and it has to be home-made.
post #26 of 160
Yes, because it's fun.
post #27 of 160
No Santa here. We don't celebrate Christmas. We celebrate Yule or the first day of Winter.
post #28 of 160
I voted other because we, my dh and I don't talk about Santa, I mean Jesus is the reason for the Season. The only way that we explain the archtype of Santa is that he represents the three wise men and their gives to Jesus.

The ONLY reason that Santa is even a word in our household is b/c the ILs' are freaking bent on making him the reason for Santa.

Case in point, I have actually had to physically tussel with the SIL as she tried to take my dd out of my arms to have her sit on Santas lap. She thinks that we are being "unrealistic" about Santa b/c "sooner or later they will hear about him from their friends"....WTF!!!
post #29 of 160
As a Christian we do not celebrate the Christmas season as a Santa day. We do not 'do' Santa at all in associating with Christmas. We do a fun day on St. Nick day (I think it is Dec 10) and learn all about the real St Nickolas.

But for Christmas, we celebrate the birthday of our Saviour. And everything we do is focused on Him. As a child, we never did Santa and I have never regretting it for one moment. My children have 'magical' Christmases without any reference to Santa and I am glad.

Besides, if it were not a spiritual conviction, I would still hate the idea of lying to my children (and telling them that Santa is real and delivers gifts to all the good children of the world and that sort of stuff is lying to me since it is not true) and the commercializing of it. Making Christmas all about gimme, gimme, gimme and what I can get.

We do have gifts for my children, and we do enjoy opening them, and the children do tell us things they would like to have (not, "Hey, for Christmas I want...", but "Someday, can you get me..."). We also have gifts for the adults (it IS a birthday party after all!). But we do not focus on the gifts, they are just a part of our entire celebration.

Anyways, that is my reasons for no Santa.
post #30 of 160
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Originally Posted by cdnmom View Post
Case in point, I have actually had to physically tussel with the SIL as she tried to take my dh out of my arms to have her sit on Santas lap. She thinks that we are being "unrealistic" about Santa b/c "sooner or later they will hear about him from their friends"....WTF!!!

Do you mean DD... b'c I could truly commisserate with your "dh" giving an objection about HAVING to take a sit on some weird guy's lap, yk?!?!

Well, actually I could commiserate with your DD as well... if she objected.
post #31 of 160
I love Yule.

DD is 4 and we've never "done" Santa with her. She knows about him in general because we have some some Christmas books - Dr. Seuss' Grinch book and a board book of the Night Before Christmas poem. DD likes them (the poem's rhythm can actually make her sleepy ).

My parents always send little wrapped gifts (weird little things like lip balms and packs of gum and fancy colored emery boards, pencils and little sticky-note books). They send them for DD, for me and for DH. So we end up doing stockings kind of, but don't do any big Santa thing.

Though DD recently found a photo of her older cousin as a baby sitting on Santa's lap -very cute of course - and thought it was her. So if she asks to get a Santa picture, maybe we'll do one just for fun. There is an open-air mall near us that has a dog-friendly Santa photo-booth.

I don't feel right pushing the myth onto her, but I also don't want to deny her the fun of things.

I would like to start celebrating Yule again. Christmas Eve for our family is usually more of a time to make yummy Middle Eastern food (falafel, lamb kabobs, homemade hummus, etc.) and hang with good friends. Christmas day is more of a sit around in jammies and maybe watch movies and eat popcorn and just enjoy being with each other.

I'm trying to become a reformed bah-humbug though. (I grew up in an alcoholic family with wonderful Christmas traditions and anticipation which usually ended up in a terrible screaming match and me having a panic attack and wanting to run away or turn invisible. So I'm working with baggage here.) Guess I've gone way OT now too. Sorry. All the Christmas stuff is woven together for me I guess.

Last year we had a wind storm knock out power to our house/area for 8 days during a cold spell and we couldn't even stay at our house. We didn't really do anything. We got power back the Christmas Eve and just ended up enjoying having heat again and being thankful for the family we'd just met who took us in - dog included! We didn't even decorate the tree we got.

Sorry about the . I don't get out much.
post #32 of 160
A shaky (and hypothetical) no because we're not Christian, we're certainly not into the corporate entity of santa (developed by coca cola) and we're not into the deception element of it.

Of course we don't have children yet and we have debated a lot about this but, as it stands today, no. (with a reserved right to change our minds)

My mum finally had to tell me that Santa wasn't real when I was 12. I believed for as long as I did because we were really poor and I knew mum couldn't afford presents from Santa too.
post #33 of 160
Yes, because it's fun and magical, but I do feel that it is technically lying and I feel a bit uncomfortable about it. But there it is.
post #34 of 160
Santa PWNZ! and thats why I do santa......
post #35 of 160
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Originally Posted by number572 View Post
Do you mean DD... b'c I could truly commisserate with your "dh" giving an objection about HAVING to take a sit on some weird guy's lap, yk?!?!

Well, actually I could commiserate with your DD as well... if she objected.
Oh God yes, but this way is just soooo much funnier....I laughed so hard that I actually passed a little bit of pee....
post #36 of 160
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Originally Posted by number572 View Post
Well, actually I could commiserate with your DD as well... if she objected.
And yes, she really objected!!! She was screaming NO but the B!tch of a SIL continued pulling her from my arms saying "You'll like it when you get there".
post #37 of 160
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Originally Posted by ColoradoMama View Post
I don't think it's niavete. It's what we shoot for actually, but you said it beautifully!
mmm, thank you... maybe it could really happen the way I would like.
post #38 of 160
Other!

No problem with Santa as long as it's approached in a "character based on a bunch of different stuff...including this really cool guy back in the day" way and not a "real guy who can see you, and will actually deliver presents to your house" way.

I am entirely uncomfortable with presenting him as an actual currently living (even if "magical") person that will come on Christmas. I do enjoy the history and the celebratory spirit that the Santa character embodies though, so we can do that.
post #39 of 160
Yes, we do Santa. It's fun.
post #40 of 160
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Originally Posted by number572 View Post
Do you mean DD... b'c I could truly commisserate with your "dh" giving an objection about HAVING to take a sit on some weird guy's lap, yk?!?!

Well, actually I could commiserate with your DD as well... if she objected.
Oh, I completely forgot about the mall santa lap sitting thing. I do not and would never consider that. My kid on a stranger's lap? nope.
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