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Poll Results: Santa Claus: yes or no

 
  • 61% (164)
    Yes
  • 27% (75)
    No
  • 10% (29)
    Other (not sure of what an other might be, but I'm sure someone has one!)
268 Total Votes  
post #61 of 160
Other- The Christmas Schnauzer comes to our house.

Dd came up with the idea a few years ago.
She also insisted on an Easter Beagle and a Dog Fairy (a Golden Retriever tooth fairy).
She loves dogs. :
post #62 of 160
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post #63 of 160
Nope not at all. Ds knows that polar bears and whales live in the north pole-not an old man with a beard and a crew of elves. I hate the lying aspect and I want ds to appreciate that mommy and daddy work hard to afford the gifts we give.

Just because you don't believe in Santa doesn't mean you can't have a magical or enchanting winter holiday.
post #64 of 160
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Definitely yes. I never stopped doing Santa as an adult. I always put cookies out and make my husband put out the presents after I go to sleep.
ME TOO

we put of Theo's stuff after he is in bed -- then i go to bed so DH and mom can put out my stuff -- i leave DH's stuff for mom to put out after DH joins me upstairs -- my poor folks are the only ones who don't get a surprise when they see the tree .... but mom seems to liek it that way -- and heck last year my dad did sneak some stuff in SOMETIME, maybe in teh moring before we all got up? he has always been the amazing on -- getting upa t 2 or 3 am to move things nad do things to add to the hosliday for mom after she and she goet things ready for me.

DH thinks i am silly -- but plays a long nicely
post #65 of 160
I'm not doing santa. I was let down when I learned that santa didn't really bring gifts, it was my parents. I felt lied to. I also didn't like how my parents would tell me I would get nothing but coal if I was "bad" before Christmas. I felt like it was held over my head, and then when the bomb dropped about santa not being real it was quite sad.
post #66 of 160
Yes, we absolutely do Santa. I don't believe that telling my kids a "lie" like this is harmful.

Could someone please explain to me the "credit" theory to me? For example, "I don't do Santa, because I don't want him getting the credit for presents that we buy." I genuinely don't understand that line of thinking.
post #67 of 160
I voted other, we clebrate Yule and the Yule Faeries come to our house. I don't lie to my children, I imagine with them. If I couldn't imagine and believe along with them then I couldn't play along with their imagination games either. What a bummer that would be.
post #68 of 160
no santa for us. i am jewish (though not religious) and i can't stand the consumer craze of the holiday season. also, when other family members spend their hard-earned money to buy the kids presents, i want them to know and appreciate who it came from and not think that some random white man just swooped out of the sky to magically deliver X at our doorstep. for us, santa is just another character in books, movies and our imaginations.
post #69 of 160
It's that time already, huh? In another 2 weeks there will be heated santa threads all over the place!

Yes, we do santa. Because it's fun, because it's one of the few postitive things I remember about my own childhood,and because I think that if ds grows up and feels hurt or betrayed by the "Santa Lie" and needs therapy for it, then he's done pretty darn well for himself. I worry more about the effect of day to day parenting and challenges than I do about a silly holiday tradition that he'll soon outgrow. I know there are lots of people out there who felt terribly hurt by their parent's deception, and I certainly am not invalidating those feelings, but honestly, every minute of every day is filled with infinite opportunities to screw my kid up. My hope is that when he's a dad he'll look at the things he didn't like about my parenting and choose differently.
post #70 of 160
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Originally Posted by moondiapers View Post
I voted other, we clebrate Yule and the Yule Faeries come to our house. I don't lie to my children, I imagine with them. If I couldn't imagine and believe along with them then I couldn't play along with their imagination games either. What a bummer that would be.
Right, but it's only imagining if both parties know the truth. I certainly imagine my days away with DS but neither of us is really trying to convince the other that it's real outside of the game. We're both in on it. With Santa it seems it's the adults pushing something that's not real as real and not letting the kids in on the game.

Some kids are sensitive to that. DS loves creating imaginary worlds with me but he's very sensitive to me making stuff up and trying to convince him it's real. He can detect that a mile away and gets very upset.
post #71 of 160
Daddy believes in Santa, mommy doesn't. We'll see what dd thinks, she's only 20 months.
post #72 of 160
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Originally Posted by Momma Aimee View Post
ME TOO

we put of Theo's stuff after he is in bed -- then i go to bed so DH and mom can put out my stuff -- i leave DH's stuff for mom to put out after DH joins me upstairs -- my poor folks are the only ones who don't get a surprise when they see the tree .... but mom seems to liek it that way -- and heck last year my dad did sneak some stuff in SOMETIME, maybe in teh moring before we all got up? he has always been the amazing on -- getting upa t 2 or 3 am to move things nad do things to add to the hosliday for mom after she and she goet things ready for me.

DH thinks i am silly -- but plays a long nicely

How lovely! I'm 32 and I still hope santa will bring me something. I think I'll have to do this for dh this year.
post #73 of 160
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Yes, we do santa. Because it's fun, because it's one of the few postitive things I remember about my own childhood,and because I think that if ds grows up and feels hurt or betrayed by the "Santa Lie" and needs therapy for it, then he's done pretty darn well for himself. I worry more about the effect of day to day parenting and challenges than I do in a silly holiday tradition that he'll soon outgrow. I know there are lots of people out there who felt terribly hurt by their parent's deception, and I certainly am not invalidating those feelings, but honestly, every minute of every day is filled with infinite opportunities to screw my kid up. My hope is that when he's a dad he'll look at the things he didn't like about my parenting and choose differently.
good point -- if my biggest screw up as a mom is that i lied about a popular fictional charcter -- i will count myself lucky.

I never felt lied to -- it isn't a lie as much as it is a game -- for a while i was on one side of the game , then i was on the other -- but the game is fun for all to play.

lies are big things intentionally meant to mislead or harm .... Santa doesn't hurt anyone.

Perosnally i think the concept of "hard earned money spent on gifts for you" is toooo mcuh for a child. yes, children should respect money, but they should NEVER EVER be in a position to worry about it -- as they grow up they will know that the gifts are really bought my mom or Grandpa and they will rspect the vaule of them .... it is a natural part of growing and understanding. however i would never want my son to worry about the money his aunts spend on his gifts : I much more want him to knwo they were THINKING about him and got him a gift, than to know they worked hard for the moeny to buy the gift.

Aimee
post #74 of 160
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Originally Posted by Pynki View Post
Yes there is a Santa at our house... However, he just puts candy canes on the christmas tree, and brings the stockings. No way am I letting a fat old elf get credit for our hard earned money. If it fits in the stocking, Santa brings it. Otherwise... nope.
ITA. Here he generally fills stockings and brings one gift for each.
post #75 of 160
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How lovely! I'm 32 and I still hope santa will bring me something. I think I'll have to do this for dh this year.
I would LOVE to get a box from Santa .... DH gets one each year I keep waiting.....

I had a boy freind once, and the best thing he did was leave a gift on my car from santa when i had to work Christmas eve over night ....

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With Santa it seems it's the adults pushing something that's not real as real and not letting the kids in on the game.
??????????? Santa is not some horrid mostster that will come get them if they are bad.......... he is not a boogy man to make them scared to stay out past dark.......

i don't get that at all
post #76 of 160
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Originally Posted by Momma Aimee View Post
Perosnally i think the concept of "hard earned money spent on gifts for you" is toooo mcuh for a child. yes, children should respect money, but they should NEVER EVER be in a position to worry about it -- as they grow up they will know that the gifts are really bought my mom or Grandpa and they will rspect the vaule of them .... it is a natural part of growing and understanding. however i would never want my son to worry about the money his aunts spend on his gifts : I much more want him to knwo they were THINKING about him and got him a gift, than to know they worked hard for the moeny to buy the gift.

Aimee
the $ part is MY feeling, not a part of any gift giving exchange. and i don't think that kids knowing that people work to earn money and that things cost money necessarily causes them to "worry" about it.
post #77 of 160
yes. it's part of my memory of christmas, and i loved it. i would have been sad if my mom and dad had told me there was no santa. instead, they let me believe what i wanted. they never forced me to believe, they just told me the story and i created the rest for myself. as i got older, i understood that santa was more symbolic and a legend, and that didn't make it any less special.
i plan on showing my kids other traditions too around that time of year as well...but santa was fun for me!

my dad was born on the acorean island of flores and they tell their kids that the baby jesus will come and leave you presents, or coal if you are bad. that always freaked me out more than anything...a little baby crawling around at night with coal...yikes!
post #78 of 160
No.

1. As a devout Christian, I'm celebrating it for Jesus' birth, not Santa, not elves, not mass amounts of toys.
2. I'm not going to lie to my children.
3. In the words of my dad, "I worked so hard to earn the money to buy presents for everyone, and I'm going to give credit to some mythical fat guy who breaks into peoples' homes in the middle of the night?!"

...BUT if their friends happen to take part in the Santa thing, I'm not going to shield them from it.
post #79 of 160
I voted other.
Last year, my kids were 2 and 3. My dd (who was 2) didn't have a clue, but my mom introduced the concept of santa to my ds (who was 3) and he was getting into it, but he asked me about it and I told him the truth. Santa is pretend, but it's fun to pretend. I gave him the option of pretending or not. He chose to pretend. When it comes up again this year, I'll do the same thing.
post #80 of 160
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Originally Posted by skyastara View Post
My parents never did that either.

I voted no.

I clearly remember being very skeptical of the whole thing from a very early age. My parents kept trying to 'keep the magic alive' or whatever, and I eventually (at age 4) had to basically trick them into giving it away. I did not enjoy being lied to, I felt betrayed and tricked and etc.

I don't lie to my kids. I think there is plenty of magic around that is not fictional. A butterfly from a brown dried up thing that used to be a caterpillar? Now that is magical.
I couldn't have said it better myself, especially the part about the butterfly!
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