|Yes, we do santa. Because it's fun, because it's one of the few postitive things I remember about my own childhood,and because I think that if ds grows up and feels hurt or betrayed by the "Santa Lie" and needs therapy for it, then he's done pretty darn well for himself. I worry more about the effect of day to day parenting and challenges than I do in a silly holiday tradition that he'll soon outgrow. I know there are lots of people out there who felt terribly hurt by their parent's deception, and I certainly am not invalidating those feelings, but honestly, every minute of every day is filled with infinite opportunities to screw my kid up. My hope is that when he's a dad he'll look at the things he didn't like about my parenting and choose differently.
good point -- if my biggest screw up as a mom is that i lied about a popular fictional charcter -- i will count myself lucky.
I never felt lied to -- it isn't a lie as much as it is a game -- for a while i was on one side of the game , then i was on the other -- but the game is fun for all to play.
lies are big things intentionally meant to mislead or harm .... Santa doesn't hurt anyone.
Perosnally i think the concept of "hard earned money spent on gifts for you" is toooo mcuh for a child. yes, children should respect money, but they should NEVER EVER be in a position to worry about it -- as they grow up they will know that the gifts are really bought my mom or Grandpa and they will rspect the vaule of them .... it is a natural part of growing and understanding. however i would never want my son to worry about the money his aunts spend on his gifts
: I much more want him to knwo they were THINKING about him and got him a gift, than to know they worked hard for the moeny to buy the gift.