I had a so-so experience with my midwife when DD was born. I went into heavy labor at Ikea while shopping with my (now) ExH, MIL and her mother. (I sat on a bed during a contraction, and the bed broke! Then I lost my mucous plug in the bathroom, and I started crying and begging my IL's to stop shopping because I had to go... they said it would just be a few more minutes! We called the midwife, found out that her backup was on duty that day. We got to the birth center and she tried to make me comfortable. It was probably around noon, I had been having contractions since 4:30 in the morning. ExH asked her how long it would take, and she said that she thought another 24 hours. I thought "there is no way in he** I am doing this another 24 hours!! She did a VE and I was between 5 and 7 (don't remember now) Then she tried forcing me to try to drink full glasses of water, but we didn't realize I was in transition, so I just threw it up. She went back to her office to do some paperwork, and she was gone for about 45 minutes. When she came back in, I was sitting on the toilet, pushing for my life. She screamed at me "What are you doing?!" I yelled back "I HAVE TO PUSH!" She had me get on on the bed. My water broke just as I was reclining and it was green/brown. She was great about this part, though. I freaked and asked what's wrong, she said not a big deal, just a little meconium. She had me birth DDs head, removed the nuchal chord, suctioned her, then birth the rest of the baby. She let us delay clamping and cutting of the cord, and showed me the placenta. But not 20 minutes after the delivery, she tried to put a catheter in me because she said I hadn't used the bathroom yet. I asked her if was even going to let me try to pee before she catheterized me. She got all huffy and said "I guess." I had no urge to pee though, so I had her turn on the shower, set up the shower stool and sat under the hot water until I felt the urge. So she was ok... calmed me down when I was getting scared, let me move a lot. But she tried doing procedures on me that I didn't give any consent to, she discussed inappropriate things with ExH, and left me unattended for too long without realizing I was in transition. Next baby will be either HB or UC. We'll see.
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10/15/07 at 1:48pm