I am at a total loss about how to help my son in this situation:
We belong to a group of young homeschoolers. we have been a part of it for a couple of years. There is one boy in the group who my son particularly does not get along with. They kind of fluctuate between being friends and enemies. Unfortunately, my son is the one who stands out as the instigator in most of the problems. I do believe it is the combination of the two of them, not just my son, that is the cause of these problems. However, I think it is fair to say that my son is much meaner this boy than this boy is to him. My ds has a lot of difficulty in social situations with other children around his own age. He misunderstands social cues. He gets angry, he makes huge scenes. He is in touble a lot. With that said, his mother and I are friends, and she has just come to me in tears and basically said she is unwilling to deal with her son and my son together anymore. She feels her son os treated badly. She feels he acts crazy around my ds in a way that he never acts around others. She feels my ds is mean to her ds. I agree with her. She is right. However, I do feel her ds is not an innocent victim, and I also feel I need to stick up for my ds as his mother. He is very intense, but he isn't a mean kid. I don't know why he is so mean to this little boy. So, the ideal solution would be to never see them. But it would basically mean me not doing anything with the homeschool group. We are both homeschoolers. Our sons are both 5. There is no way to avoid them. The option we came up with was to tell them they can't play together. Unfortunately, I really don't think this will work. One of them always seeks out the other in a social situation. Plus, they all share the same friends. I feel horrible about the whole thing. I also am very tired of always apologizing for my ds's behavior. What can I do to help him get along with this little boy?
We belong to a group of young homeschoolers. we have been a part of it for a couple of years. There is one boy in the group who my son particularly does not get along with. They kind of fluctuate between being friends and enemies. Unfortunately, my son is the one who stands out as the instigator in most of the problems. I do believe it is the combination of the two of them, not just my son, that is the cause of these problems. However, I think it is fair to say that my son is much meaner this boy than this boy is to him. My ds has a lot of difficulty in social situations with other children around his own age. He misunderstands social cues. He gets angry, he makes huge scenes. He is in touble a lot. With that said, his mother and I are friends, and she has just come to me in tears and basically said she is unwilling to deal with her son and my son together anymore. She feels her son os treated badly. She feels he acts crazy around my ds in a way that he never acts around others. She feels my ds is mean to her ds. I agree with her. She is right. However, I do feel her ds is not an innocent victim, and I also feel I need to stick up for my ds as his mother. He is very intense, but he isn't a mean kid. I don't know why he is so mean to this little boy. So, the ideal solution would be to never see them. But it would basically mean me not doing anything with the homeschool group. We are both homeschoolers. Our sons are both 5. There is no way to avoid them. The option we came up with was to tell them they can't play together. Unfortunately, I really don't think this will work. One of them always seeks out the other in a social situation. Plus, they all share the same friends. I feel horrible about the whole thing. I also am very tired of always apologizing for my ds's behavior. What can I do to help him get along with this little boy?
