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Toddler wants to kiss on the lips

post #1 of 75
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I almost don't want to post this because my MIL made me feel so weird today but I really want to hear from other moms. My DD is 2 and a half. She is not really cuddly, but does like to give kisses and hugs before bed and when someone comes or leaves. Sometimes she goes for the cheek, sometimes she goes for the lips. I never thought much about it because it's just a peck, sometimes its an air kiss. But when MIL was leaving, DD tried to kiss her on the lips and MIL got upset, like really bothered, like it was somehow sexual : .

Is it bad that I haven't discouraged kisses on the lips? I don't encourage it either, I usually give kisses on the forehead anyway. It's not like she's kissing strangers at all, let alone on the lips. I just don't think it's a big deal, she's only 2. Feel free to set me straight. I certainly don't want to be damaging my daughter!!
post #2 of 75
Dd is six, and we still kiss on the lips. (Or cheeks, or forehead, or whatever). Honestly, if your dd isn't bothered by it, then I don't think it's a big deal. Your MIL maybe has some issues of her own to deal with!
post #3 of 75
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Originally Posted by Upside View Post
Feel free to set me straight.
It'd be your MIL I'd be setting straight!! Good grief, that kind of nonsense makes me crazy. When DD wasn't around I'd give her hell for demonizing such and innocent and sweet gesture. I'd make sure to tell her in no uncertain terms that she should consider herself LUCKY to get kisses from MY daughter.
post #4 of 75
I kissed my mom and dad on the lips till I was 9-10 somewhere in there. I remember some family members commenting on how they should not allow me to kiss them on the lips but neither of my parents ( who were divorced when I was 3-4) paid them any attention I stopped kissing them on the lips on my own.
post #5 of 75
umm... hello american prudishness. A lot of other countries, it's no big deal to kis on the lips. I don't care as long as it's not MEANT as something sexual. Sounds like MIL has issues :
post #6 of 75
Your MIL needs a talking to. My grandparents, aunt & dad all kiss on the lips, still and I'm in my thirties. There is nothing sexual about it, I kiss ds on the lips, I kiss my nieces, 7 & 8 on the lips as does their father (my brother).

I would talk to your MIL so that she doesn't impose her issues on your dd.
post #7 of 75
Thread Starter 
Well, thank you all for responding so quickly. I'm normally pretty confident in how I parent but this issue just caught me off guard. In my family, no kind of affection was shown AT ALL! I never saw my parents hug or kiss or anything. I am totally not raising my children this way, I love to show affection, but this seed of doubt got planted this afternoon. It's good to know we're not weirdos!
post #8 of 75
we kiss on the lips, too. It's only weird if you make it weird.
post #9 of 75
My dh still kisses his parents on the lips once in awhile.

-Angela
post #10 of 75
Sounds like your MIL has some issues she may need help with, there is absolutely nothing wrong with toddlers giving lip kisses. I smooch mine on the lips all the time, it's his favorite form of kissing
post #11 of 75
I kiss both my parents on the lips too.

Sometimes I question, "hmmmm, is this weird?", (I think when I'm around other people who don't) but usually I don't even think twice about it.

I agree it's only weird if you make it weird, kinda like people who are freaked out by breastfeeding.
post #12 of 75
We are all lip kissers here.
post #13 of 75
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Originally Posted by goodheartedmama View Post
we kiss on the lips, too. It's only weird if you make it weird.
Yeah, we kiss on the lips, too. I'm not sure at what age I stopped doing this with my own parents, but I don't think it's inherently weird.
post #14 of 75
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Originally Posted by Juvysen View Post
umm... hello american prudishness. A lot of other countries, it's no big deal to kis on the lips. I don't care as long as it's not MEANT as something sexual. Sounds like MIL has issues :
My family is French Canadian, and all family members out to cousins kiss "hello" and "goodbye" on the lips, adults as well as children. I kissed both my parents on the lips until the day they died, in their seventies.
I realize there are cultural differences about this, but I can't imagine any of them applying to a two year old!
post #15 of 75
I love baby kisses on the lips! I dont see how anyone can turn that into a sexual matter! I love it when my children kiss me on the lips, never thought of it the way your MIL has. It is a sweet innocent show of affection.
post #16 of 75
It isn't weird until they try and stick their tongue in your mouth because....daddy does it to mommy.
post #17 of 75
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Originally Posted by its_our_family View Post
It isn't weird until they try and stick their tongue in your mouth because....daddy does it to mommy.
true, true
post #18 of 75
Another vote for kissing on the lips being normal. DD is 3.5 and sometimes we kiss on the lips, sometimes on the cheek sometimes on the leg (or whatever piece of anatomy is closest ).
post #19 of 75
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Originally Posted by its_our_family View Post
It isn't weird until they try and stick their tongue in your mouth because....daddy does it to mommy.
So true!
post #20 of 75
Your MIL is the one with the problem.
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