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post #21 of 75
My mom is like this too. *SIGH* My daughter kisses us on the lips.
post #22 of 75
If MIL tried to dishearten DD, I would say to DD "Sweety, grandma is upset because she wants her germs/lipstick back, give her a biiiiig kiss". :

No kissing on the lips here but I can see your point.

I hate it when people endanger children's innocence and hurt their feelings. I was astonished when the mother of a male friend got upset because her son was late for lunch. He and I were wrestling playfully in the sea and she described it as a hideous sexual game. She dared ask if I liked the from behind. I didn't understand what she meant until years later. I still remember her mean look. I think I will slap her if I ever meet her again
post #23 of 75
Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeell,

I might get flamed for this, but, I think it's ok for G-ma to *calmly* say, w/o any sort of "this is wrong" implication, "Honey, I'd prefer for you to kiss me on the cheek/forehead/whatever."

I know it's completely innocent on DD's part, but, I do think personal boundaries should be respected. Think if it was the reverse, and DD was the one who wasn't comfortable with it...you'd want her to say, "I don't like kisses there, please."

When my DD tries to hug another little kid who doesn't like it, even though it's obviously innocent, I say, "Oh, it looks like X doesn't want to be hugged right now, so, let's (alternate activity)."

That said, I kiss my DD on the lips, and I *still* kiss (quick peck) my grandpa on the lips...it's just what we've always done (he's Russian - if that has any cultural influence on it, I don't know)
post #24 of 75
Oh honestly. I still kiss all my family members out to cousins on the lips, and so does DH's family. No biggie whatsoever!
post #25 of 75
my oldest DD is almost 9 and we still kiss on the lips sometimes. It's just a peck for goodbye or good night, and i see nothing wrong with it.

ETA - i agree that if grandma doesn't like it - that without saying it's wrong- she can let him know she likes her kisses on her (alternative location) instead.
post #26 of 75
There is nothing sexual about having that special intimacy with someone. I kiss DS2 on the lips, DS1 outgrew that when he was about 5.
post #27 of 75
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Originally Posted by Upside View Post
I almost don't want to post this because my MIL made me feel so weird today but I really want to hear from other moms. My DD is 2 and a half. She is not really cuddly, but does like to give kisses and hugs before bed and when someone comes or leaves. Sometimes she goes for the cheek, sometimes she goes for the lips. I never thought much about it because it's just a peck, sometimes its an air kiss. But when MIL was leaving, DD tried to kiss her on the lips and MIL got upset, like really bothered, like it was somehow sexual : .

Is it bad that I haven't discouraged kisses on the lips? I don't encourage it either, I usually give kisses on the forehead anyway. It's not like she's kissing strangers at all, let alone on the lips. I just don't think it's a big deal, she's only 2. Feel free to set me straight. I certainly don't want to be damaging my daughter!!

I think there's a really good way to deal with the incest taboo:

Don't have incest.

Kissing on the lips is not inherently sexual.

'Nuff said.
post #28 of 75
Kailey kisses family, friends, the dog on the lips, I never thought about it...sounds like your mil has some issues
post #29 of 75
Your MIL has major issues. Very sad.

When dd was two she would sometimes simulate a passionate kiss with dh and I, mostly with me. She'd close her eyes, cock her head from side to side, and stuck out her tongue a couple of times. I'd laugh and tell her she was silly, and say give me a real kiss now, please.

Good grief, they're babies.
post #30 of 75
I think I kissed my parents on the lips until I was 10 or so. I even remember wanting my mom to "bo" kiss me so I could see what it was like. (I was like 6 and was obsessed with "Bo" from "Days of our Lives" so essentially I was asking my mom to make out with me- lol) My mom of course said that was for mommy's and daddy's to do. - But this exemplifies the innocensce of our babies...
If you and your child feel comfortable kissing on the lips - no matter what age- it is completely acceptable. I mean when you think about it- what bond is more deserving of a kiss on the lips, than mother and child. Personally, I can't resist my 1 year old DD's little lips, nose, ears, etc.
Shrug it off- MIL's suck sometimes -lol
post #31 of 75
She's weird, your little girl is a Love Bug! My daughter actually grabs my head and gives me big smoochies and I love it!

My dad still pecks me on the lips sometimes, and I don't feel like he's trying to make out with me.
post #32 of 75
We are also a family of lip kissers. The mister and I both grew up without affection being shown and we are doing things differently.

FIL doesn't like the lip kisses and will direct the kidlets to kiss on his cheek. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. His discomfort isn't because of anything sexual but in how he was raised. And we respect that.
post #33 of 75
ita with everyone else - it's your MIL who has issues.
When DD (2.5) bites her tongue, she sticks it out and wants me to kiss her "owie" - I wonder what your MIL would think of THAT one LOL
post #34 of 75
I think kisses on the lips are fine. Even open mouth, drooly, with a hint of cheerios still stuck on her lips kisses from my 13 month old. Those might actually be the best ones.
post #35 of 75
My Grandmother kisses me on the lips. It's happy I have a grandmother around to kiss me. Both my DD and DS give me kisses on the lips. I love it. I think if she is uncomfortable with it then she should initiate the kiss and kiss DD's cheek instead.
post #36 of 75
Both my DD's ages 4 and 6 still kiss lips at least with me. Dh will sometime re-direct them to his cheek. I guess he thinks they are getting to old.
post #37 of 75
My whole family still kisses on the lips. Honestly, my generation is mostly female cousins, so now that we're all getting married, our spouses are a little taken back by it

I see nothing wrong with an adult gently directing a kiss to the cheek, but I think just absolutely freaking out about it is uncalled for. Your daughter did nothing wrong and I would never discourage affection. Your MIL (the adult) handled it wrong. Period.

With that said, my boys kiss everyone. They all started kissing very young. When they were in daycare, they were the first ones dropped off and Miss Michelle told me they wouldn't let any of the parents leave without a kiss. I think it's cute and especially since I'm raising boys and trying not to place importance on "being tough" I'm totally encouraging it.
post #38 of 75
Hey, ANY kind of baby kiss, lips or anywhere, is a HUGE gift! I always take it as such, even when DD had 2 handfuls of my hair so she can pull me in to kiss me. I think your MIL has the right to gently suggest to your LO how she would like to give/recieve kisses, but hopefully she can just see the bigger picture of getting that gift oof a precious baby kiss.
post #39 of 75
Yeah it's your MIL thats the nutter...but I agree with the previous posters, if she doesn't like it (and not in a "This is disgusting" sort of way) then personal boundries should be respected...ask Grandma to NICELY encourage DD to kiss her on the cheek. Make something up about lipstick or cold sores or something so DD doesn't feel wonky about it.

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Originally Posted by alaska View Post
ita with everyone else - it's your MIL who has issues.
When DD (2.5) bites her tongue, she sticks it out and wants me to kiss her "owie" - I wonder what your MIL would think of THAT one LOL
Same with my DS! Except his was his butt once and his penis another time...I'm sorry to say I told him no dice on kissing his penis (long story, he was running around diaper-free and fell on a toy and hurt his penis...asked me to kiss it...I kissed his leg.)
post #40 of 75
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Originally Posted by JamesMama View Post
Same with my DS! Except his was his butt once and his penis another time...I'm sorry to say I told him no dice on kissing his penis (long story, he was running around diaper-free and fell on a toy and hurt his penis...asked me to kiss it...I kissed his leg.)
Yeah one of mine requested a hurt penis kiss too and I declined - well actually I think I kissed my hand and blew it at the boo boo instead. Still worked, those magic boo boo kisses rock.
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