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post #21 of 80
9/23/07 at 12:24pm
Withdrawl has always worked for us. But if you for sure do not want to get pg yet then I would use something. Dh and I can't stand condoms. We feel that since we are married there shouldn't be anything between us during lovemaking. I will not take hormonal bc again because I took it for 7 years and don't want to put anything in my body like that again. Since I'm pg with #2 at this time we aren't having to worry about getting pg and Dh is doing to have a vasectomy in the next couple of months. To us there really wasn't a great form of bc to use after having a baby so I know the place that you are in. But an unplanned pg can be very hard if you or your partner aren't ready to have a baby. Best of luck to you!
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post #22 of 80
9/23/07 at 12:28pm
It's worked for us for the past six months. We use FAM and during my fertile times he pulls out right before he ejaculates.
post #23 of 80
9/26/07 at 12:12am
ask me how i got pregnant this time. if your not ready for baby use a more reliable contraseptive as this method is not the most dependable.
post #24 of 80
9/26/07 at 4:19am
I think the most important thing about using this method is you must be able to accept the fact that you COULD get pregnant and you need to be okay with that. DH and I don't want anymore children but are in a position that we would be okay as well, KWIM?

We've been using it for about 4 years along with charting/avoiding and I'm not totally in love with it, I'm tired of him pulling out honestly. He's also active duty military and has been gone most of this year, so that makes it easier.

After DH gets back in May, he's getting the V.
post #25 of 80
9/26/07 at 10:07am
I totally agree with Susaninitaly! If you would be okay with getting pregnant in the chance that it didn't work, then you could use this method.

That speaking though (I may be a minority here), we have been using this method for a combined total of at least 13 years (yes, you read that right) and we have never had an accident! My DH is perfect with his method though AND we never double dip if you know what I mean after the first time.
I have often prayed that this method would fail us, but to date is still hasn't.

Good luck in whatever you decide!!
post #26 of 80
9/26/07 at 10:15am
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I was kind of dissapointed in the taking charge for your fertility site... Everything was pay! I'm going to google around for some free charting sites...

You can chart for free at fertilityfriend.com. It's a stripped-down version if you don't pay, but the features that you pay for are more for women who are trying to conceive, rather than women who are trying not to, so I would think that the free version of the site would be fine for avoiding conception.
post #27 of 80
9/26/07 at 11:35am
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Plus, it just seems like a really unpleasant way to end sex.
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Diaphragm?
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that's actually what I came to this forum abt. I wouldn't mind doing the pull and pray (and that chart says that it works about 85-98% of the time), most of the time, and then just not doing anything for about a week or so.
Keep in mind that the time that you are suppose to be abstaining, your body really wants to do otherwise. (My DH's favorite time of the month ). You may find that you still want a back-up method to use during your fertile time.
post #28 of 80
9/26/07 at 5:52pm
I've always heard that pre-ejaculation contains sperm. So if you don't want to become pregnant, I suggest a different method. Here is what wikipedia says about it: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coitus_interruptus

We can't use condoms with spermicide. Perhaps that's what caused your UTI? We've been using FAM and condoms for 10 years now, so of course that's what I would recommend. Get the book and learn to chart by hand first. Then when you know how to chart, you can switch over to the software.
post #29 of 80
9/27/07 at 6:51pm
Yes preejaculation contains sperm, but it doesn't contain everything else in semen to sustain the sperm. So unless you're quite close to ovulation and have lots of fertile cervical mucus, even those few little guys that get in haven't got a chance to make it. I wouldn't trust that method unless I knew I wasn't fertile at the moment, or was only casually avoiding but open to pregnancy.
post #30 of 80
10/4/07 at 2:12am
I think it also really depends on the man -- of course, i have NO scientific evidence to back this up, but i imagine just like some girls are more fertile than others, so are some guys.

I used the method together with FAM for five years with my ex-fi.. In short, he pulled out when i was fertile and did not pull out when I was not fertile, and it worked. For five years.

Fast forward to this very week -- new fella, more vigorous sex life, we triple dipped (did not know that pre-ejac is MORE LIKELY TO CONTAIN MORE SPERM if you have already had sex, but apparently it does, and after three days on the internet, i damn sure know this now), and I was fertile. He pulled out. And now I'm a prayin'. Wouldn't mind being pregnant -- and all signs point to the fact that I am -- will let you know in a few days -- BUT its really too early in the relationship for all of this -- but it will be ok. . . .

Even better, just get a chuckle out of this: he's 36; i'm 32, we're both professionals with post graduate degrees, i told him i was probably fertile, he said it would be "okay" -- that he was "good", and here's the kicker, there were condoms on the bedside table. Somehow, its so much worse than if I were 16 and didn't know any better

My advice: figure something out that works best for both of you. If you are not ready to get pregnant yet, then the stress of this method is not for you.
post #31 of 80
10/9/07 at 3:30am
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post #32 of 80
10/10/07 at 4:40pm
It has worked for us for over 7 years. The only time it did not was when we did not want it to, however DH is very self-controlled.

We started when I realized that I really disliked birth control pills and injections and did not really trust anything else.
post #33 of 80
10/10/07 at 6:59pm
Its been more reliable for us than hormonal birth control.The times we haven't used it have been when I concieved.
post #34 of 80
10/14/07 at 2:24am
pulling out worked for us for as long as we've used it (8+ years). now we don't even bother because we a)been ttc, b)have been pg (purposely), or c) were bf'ing. after this baby is born we will be using FAM. i can't do hormonal bc, barrier methods either ruin sex completely or give me chronic uti's. although i am pretty sure i'll be combining charting with herbs. one, because i *really* don't want to get pg again, and two, because i have pcos, so charting can be tricky.
post #35 of 80
10/14/07 at 2:31am
It will work for most couples IF AND ONLY IF:

The man has EXCELLENT control.
He has not ejaculated recently.
He urinates beforehand to flush the urethra out.
post #36 of 80
10/14/07 at 2:44am
Well, unless you are allergic, you could use spermicide by itself. That's what I used. It's like 95% effective if used correctly, and I used it correctly. (yep, my daughter is a spermicide baby).

Her father & I used pull & pray or some variation a few times, we used spermicide not as carefully as we should, I used the rhythym method. Then I decided that was entirely too risky, and started using spermicide every. single. time. Yep, that was the month I got pregnant! (I was always extra careful about using spermicide correctly when I was fertile, and that last month I was extra careful anyhow.)

I still the rhythm method would have worked for me if we abstained for that time. I did't know about charting, so what I did was take my longest cycle, figure out 10-14 days before that, and add 3 days either side. Then I did the same with my shortest cycle (oging back a year, at least). That gave mne time frame every month. So about 10 days a month. I was very regular though.
post #37 of 80
10/14/07 at 2:48am
I have a friend who is a big believer in this method. . .










She's due in December with her 3rd babe in 3 years!!!! (Yet, she tells me she thinks it is an ok method. ... .)
post #38 of 80
10/14/07 at 9:49am
We used this method for a year before trying to get pregnant, and it worked well for us. At the time I had no idea what was going on with my body. (As far as ovulation and whatnot.)

We didn't try this method after DS#1 because we intentionally conceived DS#2.

We've been using the method again since becoming fertile (3 mos PP) and it coupled with my knowing my fertile days we haven't had any problems.
post #39 of 80
10/15/07 at 12:52pm
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Sadly enought, I think DH knows more about how my body works than I do...

I was kind of dissapointed in the taking charge for your fertility site... Everything was pay! I'm going to google around for some free charting sites...
Than get the book from your local library and photocopy the charts in the back of the book. I would not depend on the pull and pray alone but I would with charting properly. Taking charge of your fertility is a great book to help you learn about how your body works.
post #40 of 80
10/15/07 at 11:09pm
P-n-P worked for us for almost 10 years! To be honest, it was more like pull and pray and be a little more "creative" during what I guessed were my more fertile days . In fact, that worked so well that both hubby and I were a bit concerned that we had fertility issues since in all that time we had not gotten pg. Thankfully, once we decided to actively try to start a family we got pg right away, and then right away again when we decided to have another baby.

Of course I would NEVER suggest P-n-P as your birth control of choice unless getting pg is something you could handle right now.