Rituals for adjusting to motherhood

[indigo_sue]

Can anyone suggest some non-denominational rituals that you have used (or heard about) for helping you adjust to motherhood?

I am a first time mom, and my son is seven weeks old. I am grieving my old life and feeling lost and unsure of myself as a mother. I wish that I had some way to reassure myself (perhaps my inner child) that I will not disappear in a puff of smoke now that I have a baby to look after.

Have you used affirmations? Routines? Any ideas would be much appreciated!

[Angierae]

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I had the same issues after my second was born. My easy life with one child was suddenly over and I felt so limited and so sad. I didn't do anything very ritual oriented, but I made a point of going outside every day, breathing fresh air and trying to appreciate the hope and promise that each day brings. Gave myself permission to be sad and let time heal.

I decided not to worry about getting the old me back, and to just try to get to know the new me. I also called friends a lot (even though it was the LAST thing I wanted to do--I wanted to crawl into a hole). There was something very grounding about talking to someone who's life hadn't changed at all. Making them tell me about their life, having them make me laugh, rejoycing that I could still make them laugh, that kept me in touch with myself.

Hang in there! your baby has a lot to offer...its ok if it takes time.