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post #101 of 103
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And, judges are not Solomon's. I'm sorry, courts just cannot be relied upon to wade through complex family relationship and "divide the child" equitably. Plus, litigation is so costly, and the one with the most resources, or backed by a politically active well financed organization (like say, one devoted to grandparents' rights), can win or completely exhaust and bankrupt the other side to the extreme detriment of the child. I do feel bad for GP who are loving and get cut out of their GC lives, and I hope to heck it never happens to me, but the courts just are not the solution.
post #102 of 103
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Originally Posted by Iris' Mom View Post
I do feel bad for GP who are loving and get cut out of their GC lives, and I hope to heck it never happens to me, but the courts just are not the solution.
That's it in nutshell.
post #103 of 103
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Originally Posted by mammal_mama View Post
First you say "Extreme cases make bad law" -- then you talk about extreme cases where parents are toxic and "the only sanity in a kid's life comes from the influence of extended family." Why should there be a law based on such extremes?

I think the "tough standard" should be that there are no pro-grandparents rights laws in effect. In the rare cases where parents are toxic -- that's child-abuse and should be treated as such.
I agree. When I first read the post about "the only sanity in a kid's life", I thought of an old friend of mine who was in that exact position. His grandmother was the only positive influence he remembers having as a child. It would have been sick to cut her off. But, if she'd wanted legal recourse, I think the fact that his mom abandoned him, and his father was neglectful (to the point of leaving the 4 kids home alone with no food, and sometimes no utilities, for days when the oldest was only 8) and abusive (verbally and physically). I absolutely agree that his grandmother should have been in his life...but I think charges for the abuse would have done a lot more good than fighting for access under some "grandparents rights" law.
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