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post #21 of 51
I'll sub. My kiddos are 6 (nearly 7), 5 and 18 months. We basically unschool. My oldest is generally pretty easy. My 5 year old will be happily looking forward to an activity, then when we get there, she doesn't want to go in (despite having loved it the week before). Managing helping her work through it, while not encouraging the drama while keeping an eye on my little wild man is not easy. My 18m old has become quite a climber (and faller)-- my middle child fell off a chair and broke her arm when she was in this stage, and I don't want that to happen again. I'm a little tense. I yell more than I'm proud of.

I hate getting to the end of the day feeling like I didn't really do right by anyone.

On the plus side, even if I feel like we're hardly doing anything, my kids are all progressing well. But I really thought we'd have settled into our "school year" routine by now. :

We are way way over-scheduled, and that's a big part of the problem.

ZM
post #22 of 51
: Great idea for a thread! I've got a 6 yo homeschooler and a 13.5 mo crayon eater.
post #23 of 51
I have a 8 year old and 2 year old. I only work 3 days a week and DH SAH so it's not that big of an issue. A lot of what DS1 does is independent work that he does in his room.
post #24 of 51
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Originally Posted by zeldamomma View Post

We are way way over-scheduled, and that's a big part of the problem.

ZM
I've just realized this in the past week. I've decided to cut out some of our playgroups for now. I feel like we are constantly running around and DD's "schoolwork," the housework, and my sanity are falling behind.
post #25 of 51
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Originally Posted by homeschoolmama View Post
: Great idea for a thread! I've got a 6 yo homeschooler and a 13.5 mo crayon eater.
: I like that. My 18 month old doesn't eat crayons (often); she prefers erasers.
post #26 of 51
I'll be keeping an eye on this thread. I've got one about to turn four who is VERY interested in learning. We haven't started any official curriculum or anything, but he enjoys doing activites, learning about topics he requests, and even doing worksheets (he's got older cousins who go to public school and he proudly calls his worksheets "homework" as he plugs away.) We were doing great till baby brother got mobile about 3 months ago.. He's 9.5 months, so not a toddler (though the toddling isn't far away) but he's very demanding of attention... and if there's a moment where he's NOT demanding, then it probably means he's discovered something he shouldn't (climbing something, attacking the cat, splashing in the toilet.)
post #27 of 51
7,5,3 and 15 months here. I have a secret that makes it all possible. I have help. A lot of it--almost full-time. I live in Moscow, where basically it is very difficult to function without help (for example a big grocery shop for my family of six takes 5-7 hours with traffic and all the hassles associated with trying to do anything here) and where help is relatively inexpensive even if you pay someone well by local standards. Also Dh is always on the road so I need help getting everyone where they need to be, etc.

Otherwise I have no idea how I would do it. I could homeschool, but not get dinner out. Ever.

It takes a lot for me to confess this, but it is the truth. I'd love to be a superwoman, but I am not. Our housekeeper, cleans, grocery shops and makes dinner. She also takes my 15 mo out for a walk every afternoon while the bigs and I read. I'd marry this woman if I could.

I have a couple of tutors, too. For Russian language and math.

I don't know how this helps anyone, except that I think it shows that not everyone is able to homeschool a houseful single-handedly. Sometimes I think I'm the only one who needs help, but maybe I'm not.
post #28 of 51
Subbing, I've got similar issues, but we're only doing preschool right now, so when my youngest one is being really impossible, we end up not doing any, "school." Horrible solution I know, but we're still kind of just, "playing" school right now since it's preschool.
post #29 of 51
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I don't know how this helps anyone, except that I think it shows that not everyone is able to homeschool a houseful single-handedly. Sometimes I think I'm the only one who needs help, but maybe I'm not.
Oh no, no way! I think we ALL need help. We were not meant to be living in this crazy isolated nuclear family situation. What you describe sounds wonderful and sounds like what extended family and community would be doing years ago or in tradiitonal society.

We may look into hiring someone a few hrs a week, but I'm not sure how; we're struggling already financially.
post #30 of 51
I totally agree; I am hoping to trade tutoring of an older student for kid-chasing time. If I can find a nice teen/pre-teen who needs help with math and is willing to chase the kids for a few hours at the park, I could, you know, take showers alone and do laundry and stuff.
post #31 of 51
I have not read this thread yet (but will later).

I just have to say to you for starting this thread!

Homeschooling is easy but I was about to go completely insane doing with a toddler around. We've finally had to make school in the evenings when he's asleep, seriously.

I can't wait to talk to you ladies about the insanity.
post #32 of 51
I'm in!

I have a 16yo who is gone to College, a 10yo who is highly distractable and a spirited 2yo who never knew the meaning of "nap". :

I will see if I can build a box of special activities for "school time" but I might just take my neighbour's offer to take my toddler for a few hours - the only thing that hold me back is that they are seniors and she can be very demanding and I wouldn't want to burn them
post #33 of 51
LOVE this thread... I had been meaning to post something similar, but never got around to it. I think the tempermant of your toddler/preschooler makes a big difference too. My 3y.o. ds is way more "spirited" (I'm trying to be positive here!) than his older brother was at the same age. If my 8y.o. ds and I are trying to read a book, he is trying to take it out of my hands and yelling "my book, my book!" If we are trying to do math with manipulatives he is trying to take his brothers, throwing them etc. (even though I give him some of his own). You get the idea... it is definitely a challenge!

So we did enroll him in a 2 day a week preschool at the local community center. He likes it, so it is working for now. My older son and I go to the nearby library or just bring our work to the community center and do work there. They also have an amazing pool there, so the three of us also go swimming one day a week.

To be honest, I also let my younger son watch a one or two shows on PBS some mornings when we are trying to work. I am really trying to limit other tv time so that I can feel less guilty!

I would love more ideas on things to keep him busy and happy while we are working.

ABand3, can you give us some more of the activities that are in the ziplock bags?
post #34 of 51
we've had a rough couple of days. We went to an exhibit at our science museum yesterday but I couldn't read anything to my 5 yo because my 2yo screamed every time I tried. And she kept running away and I'd have to go retrieve her. Today wasn't much better. We got lots of new books in the mail and my son wanted to look through them and read them but my toddler kept grabbing them and running away or climbing on him so he couldn't look at the books, etc. She did take a nap, though, so he was able to do an early reader (he read his first book today by himself!) and do some pages in his math workbook. We aren't having as much reading time together as we would like but we were able to do a bit. It's hard, though, because her nap is the only time that I'm not feeling crazy but my son needs my attention during that, because it is also his only time. And I think I'm suppose to be cleaning up the kitchen and making dinner but I'm not sure when that's suppose to happen. : :
post #35 of 51
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Originally Posted by mackysmama View Post
It's hard, though, because her nap is the only time that I'm not feeling crazy but my son needs my attention during that, because it is also his only time. And I think I'm suppose to be cleaning up the kitchen and making dinner but I'm not sure when that's suppose to happen. : :
This is what my day looks like, EVERY day!!!
post #36 of 51
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Originally Posted by muse View Post
Oh no, no way! I think we ALL need help. We were not meant to be living in this crazy isolated nuclear family situation. What you describe sounds wonderful and sounds like what extended family and community would be doing years ago or in tradiitonal society.

We may look into hiring someone a few hrs a week, but I'm not sure how; we're struggling already financially.

I couldn't agree more! Unfortunately, we don't live anywhere near our family and friends and I dream of moving back home to have that support again. It is so important and I know my kids are missing out because of our lack of "community" here.
post #37 of 51
Love the idea of this group. I have a 5 year old (kindergarden), a almost 2 year old, and one due begining of Nov. We do a very unstuctured schooling aproch, but it is still really hard some days.
post #38 of 51
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Originally Posted by b&c'smama View Post
ABand3, can you give us some more of the activities that are in the ziplock bags?
Rather than retype, I'm going to try to get a copy of the document listing the activities, which I can then email to those who want it. PM me your address if you want it (assuming I get a copy and can share).
post #39 of 51
Me to..I'm in! I have a 5 year old DD, 3.5 year old DD, 20 month old DD and 5 month old DS..I feel like life is crazy!!: We have been mainly following a VERY relaxed approach to homeschool kindergarten this year.. Lots of crafts, well they draw, do playdoh..The older 2 at least I have to keep Indigo from eating it or scratching her baby brothers face! We do the more "structured" stuff when the babies are asleep. I look forward to reading more on this thread! Oh yeah...I also struggle with field trips and such, how do I take them all along ??(hubbie works away Mon-Fri)
post #40 of 51
My 4 and 2 yr. old both love circle time in the morning. They get upset when its over, so I keep making it longer and longer and start incorporating the lesson into it. Then we break for some free play. 4y.o. doesnt like when the baby knocks his figures he's set up over. Or later, I'll try to read a story and 2y.o. will want to "read" one to us instead, making it impossible to finish the story and 4 y.o. I can tell is disappointed.

I dont know what to do about it, we just try to find a better time to do what we want to do when we can.
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