Susiek, every mom is different, some need lots of help with 1 and then I have a friend with 6 who has never had any help (and she's still sane!). I think the most important thing is do what works for you and your family. The whole point of homeschooling surely is to shake off the comparing. Personally, I also have help with a sitter who comes a few hours a week and I still don't get any school done
! (Not kidding).
I would just like to be reassured that it will work out OK and my eldest dd is not suffering for being home. She is very bright and she is not stretched to the best of her ability because I DON"T HAVE THE TIME! Will that improve as she becomes and independant reader and doesn't need my imput for everything?
So far, as much as I can tell from homeschooling for a year the most important factor is mom. If mom is good, then everything is good! In fact sometimes I feel like I AM
my children's curriculum and the most essential thing is for them to see me happy, relaxed and enjoying being with them KWIM?
And if you lose your sense of humor then you are under too much stress, so make sure you laugh and enjoy yourself. (Especially with toddlers around).