Just had another nasty consversation with dd's bio dad, in which he once again made lots of threats and demands. He said that it is about time he "took more control of the situation". Any time I try harder at asserting myself with him, he ups the ante in nastiness and threats. Nothing unusual about that I guess. And they're usually empty threats, problem is, I never know what to expect from him and never know when he'll follow thru on one.
On this go round, he has been bad mouthing me to dd (ie--telling her "your mom doesn't want you to see me" and when dd suggests that daddy move closer to us, his response is "then your mom would just move away" ). I have tried so hard to not badmouth him to her and not put her in the middle. She is so confused. So, I recently sent him an email, an assertive one, but not nasty, saying that he needed to stop badmouthing me, etc. that it is hurting dd. His response was to pretty much ignore this issue and launch into a whole saga (same one every argument) about poor him and how he never gets to see his daughter, etc, etc....Anyways, I'm getting off track. The point is, I'm concerned the badmouthing will worsen on this next visit (in 2 wks); and am tired of him bringing me down!! I am tired of feeling angry, and scared of what tricks he will come up w/ next, and worried about the effect he is having on dd and the effect all of this has on the whole family (including dh who is so sick of it all!!)....HELP????
On this go round, he has been bad mouthing me to dd (ie--telling her "your mom doesn't want you to see me" and when dd suggests that daddy move closer to us, his response is "then your mom would just move away" ). I have tried so hard to not badmouth him to her and not put her in the middle. She is so confused. So, I recently sent him an email, an assertive one, but not nasty, saying that he needed to stop badmouthing me, etc. that it is hurting dd. His response was to pretty much ignore this issue and launch into a whole saga (same one every argument) about poor him and how he never gets to see his daughter, etc, etc....Anyways, I'm getting off track. The point is, I'm concerned the badmouthing will worsen on this next visit (in 2 wks); and am tired of him bringing me down!! I am tired of feeling angry, and scared of what tricks he will come up w/ next, and worried about the effect he is having on dd and the effect all of this has on the whole family (including dh who is so sick of it all!!)....HELP????
: ), he's truly amazing. Anyways...Am keeping a journal, and trying think positive and store up strength for when it's really needed. Most of all, I think I need to keep remembering that dd will turn out ok despite all this. 
