Originally Posted by gwerydd
i had an energency medically necessary c-section at 35 weeks due to pre-eclampsia. i am still heartbroken that i never got to go into labour let alone have the option of having a natural childbirth. i find this t-shirt to be hurtful and belittling.
This is kind of how I am too...not that it isn't an accomplishment to have an unmedicated birth, because it it. So mamas who did it, be proud! OTOH, I'd love to be lucky enough to get the chance to try for it. My body seems not to know how to carry a baby to term and grow him or her nice and chubby. It happened in my first pregnancy and is happening again now.
I'm sitting here right now trying to come to terms with the reality that I will possibly never get to experience labor and that I am very likely going to end up having another unwanted CS with a barely-term (if I am lucky), small-for-dates, fragile little baby who will then have trouble breastfeeding, who will be at risk for RSV, who will not fit into all the little cute little CDs I bought for him...
Uh...sorry. Got off on a rant there! My point is, it's not always the easier way out to go not-natural. I guess it just gets to me sometimes that I know how hard this all is (CS, nearly-preemie), because I've done it before. I am pretty much at a place finally where I don't feel like a failure personally because of this.
So yeah. I guess some of us (like me) are bringing some baggage to this conversation. But it helps a lot to see how many of the mamas here who did give birth naturally also feel that the shirt isn't funny and is potentially hurtful. I'm not in a place where it hurts me anymore, but I can see how it would have hurt me a year ago. And the pretty strong feelings against the shirt here affirm that most mamas are not walking around feeling superior to people like me. That makes me feel good!