UGH. Am I overreacting? - Page 2

[sandiegokristi]

I would keep one or two for when your sister comes to visit or at least send a picture of her wearing one of the outfits and then return the rest. Sometimes it is so sad when they have a massive blowout in their pink frilly outfits and the stains would not come out. : I used this excuse once.

[veganjoy]

Commiserating here: I registered for cute, gender-neutral stuff, plus some less femme pink-and-brown combinations. It seemed very clear that I wasn't interested in really girly stuff, but nearly all of the clothes I received were obscenely, offensively, pink. It's so odd to write thank yous that read: "The 'Princess' onesie you got our little one is absolutely adorable!" but I'm doing it.

I plan to keep the stuff around in case of "emergency," but I'll probably try to return it once the baby arrives. Last weekend, I raided a thrift store and got plenty of clothes I like for about $15. That made me feel much better about the loads of stuff I just won't use

[Googy]

I would have the same reaction, maisiedotes. I do dress DD in pink sometimes, but tasteful pink. No princesses any of that junk. I do NOT like the message that the princess stuff sends, and "stripes are slimming" would totally send me over the edge! Do we really need to train our girls to think that all that is important is what they look like right from birth!? :

If I were you, I'd smile and say thank you and then donate the stuff to a shelter. I've done that with several things that have been given to DD.

[brooklyn_warbler]

i 100% agree with jessica on this one.

i think we are going to have some major conflict with extended family (my immediate family knows me better than to buy me pink frilly anything or blue truck anything) but this is something i feel very strongly about and while i'm not going to bitchy about it, i also intend on 100% standing my ground. i mean, all i think/write/read about is race and gender, pretty much, and it would go against all my beliefs to ever dress a tiny baby girl in something that said "i love to shop" or a baby boy in "boob inspector" (i've seen both!) or whatever.

my sister and i saw that pink "daddy's little princess" onesie at old navy and she totally joked about buying that for me ONLY if i had a boy (see, my immediate family knows me well). i told andy and surprisingly he cracked up and thought it was awesome. he was like "i'd love to dress a tiny baby boy in that so when people are like 'she's beautiful' i can get all pretend offended and be like 'he's a boy!'" my husband is so weird.

[LittleLlama]

While I'm not against pink in it's entirety, I will not be buying any for this little one... because I know the Grandmas will be filling that gap. (ETA: though MIL commented the other day that she has been looking at things that aren't pink because she has noticed that while I always dress femminine, I've never been girly- major compliment!)

As far as the things with logos and dumb phrases... ditch em. IME, people who give in bulk never track exactly what they gave you. If there are a couple items you can keep and bring out for show a couple times and let her know "Oh, look at this cute thing you gave her" and let her know the thought was appreciated, I think that will be enough. Baby does not have to be dressed 100% in things she gave you while she is around.

I think I get "dressing your boys like children". I only had a couple of really cutesey outfits for DS. I want him to be treated like a little person, not a baby. Same goes for a girl... I don't want her to be treated like I know a lot of clothes project.

So, yeah, take things back, get even partial credit and buy things that you actually want... and maybe even tell your aunt that's what you did! "Yeah, I took a few things back that weren't really our style and exchanged them. Check out this dress you enabled me to get!"

[Momma Aimee]

DS is almost 2: how did THAT happen -- I SEARCH and search for cute clothes that, be it GN or more boyish, still little and CUTE -- not like a micro version of his daddy -- bluch.

I do NOT want to dress him in little blue jeans and little polo shirts, i do not want to dress him in little sweater vests and tan slacks.

I want one peice outfits, and cute colors or silly animals, or even a truck or two ..... We are not Amish (in disrespect intended) DS does not need to dress like a small version of an adult.

They are young sooooooooooooooooo soooooooooooooooo short a time, my God just look at my son -- and this time is soooooo priceless. I am not going to waest what little time I have to dress him cute putting him in little jeans and tees !!! Trust me tha tis all he will wear at 5 or 10, so at 2 i get to choose and by gosh it is gonna be babish and cute.,



AImee