Ds has been potty trained (day trained) for about a year now. He's NEVER had accidents except in the car or when out and even that's been at least 6+ mos ago. All of a sudden he is peeing everywhere. On the couch, carpet, on a teddy bear. I know most would say it's a response to dd being born but I really don't believe so. He has done SO well with her. He has never shown any signs of being jealous at all. No anger, no frustration, nothing. He loves to talk to her, hug her, see her, etc. He freaks out if we leave the house without her.
I believe it is a response to stress in the house between dh and I and his job. Lately dh is a walking black hole of negative energy. That in turn is causing issues between us. Not to mention dh says nothing positive to ds and when he does respond to him it's usually with annoyance. Dh has stopped playing with ds. I've done all I can do with dh. He's got depression issues and some other things that I just can not help him with. He's got to work it out on his own. I've told him that ds is most likely responding to these issues but at the moment I don't think dh cares
Honestly my heart is just breaking over the whole situation because I can't imagine how bad my ds must suddenly be feeling with dh going from being a caring fun dad to a cynical mean one. I know he must be confused.
Anyways, right now I just put a diaper on him. I don't know what else to do. I am visiting my mom & dad with the kids at the end of October for 1.5 weeks and I am thinking of going earlier? Maybe I should be getting the kids out of this environment? It's not going to get any better for at least the next 6 weeks (which is how long the added stresser of dh's job is going to be). I told him after that we should probably do some marriage counseling although really I just want him to see someone and I need someone to open his eyes to how he is parenting and what he's missing out on. It's not helping that dh is deploying again soon so we'll barely get started and then have it interupted.
For right now I need help with the pottying issue. I can't afford to be buying him diapers and frankly I don't want to be diapering a 3.5 yr old kid.
Oh and I've talked with ds about it. When I ask where he should have peed he says "I don't know." When I tell him it should go in the potty he says, "No." When I ask why he says, "I don't know how." I told him next time he has to go just tell me and we'll go in there together and I'll show him and he says, "no, you showed me yesterday, I don't know how." (and no, I didn't show him yesterday). He FREAKED out about putting a diaper on but I can't be cleaning up pee stains all over my furniture, plus with dh doing this training thing he's basically not home and when he is he's doing homework so I have a lot more to do in a day than I used to (he always did all the housework).
I believe it is a response to stress in the house between dh and I and his job. Lately dh is a walking black hole of negative energy. That in turn is causing issues between us. Not to mention dh says nothing positive to ds and when he does respond to him it's usually with annoyance. Dh has stopped playing with ds. I've done all I can do with dh. He's got depression issues and some other things that I just can not help him with. He's got to work it out on his own. I've told him that ds is most likely responding to these issues but at the moment I don't think dh cares
Honestly my heart is just breaking over the whole situation because I can't imagine how bad my ds must suddenly be feeling with dh going from being a caring fun dad to a cynical mean one. I know he must be confused.
Anyways, right now I just put a diaper on him. I don't know what else to do. I am visiting my mom & dad with the kids at the end of October for 1.5 weeks and I am thinking of going earlier? Maybe I should be getting the kids out of this environment? It's not going to get any better for at least the next 6 weeks (which is how long the added stresser of dh's job is going to be). I told him after that we should probably do some marriage counseling although really I just want him to see someone and I need someone to open his eyes to how he is parenting and what he's missing out on. It's not helping that dh is deploying again soon so we'll barely get started and then have it interupted.
For right now I need help with the pottying issue. I can't afford to be buying him diapers and frankly I don't want to be diapering a 3.5 yr old kid.
Oh and I've talked with ds about it. When I ask where he should have peed he says "I don't know." When I tell him it should go in the potty he says, "No." When I ask why he says, "I don't know how." I told him next time he has to go just tell me and we'll go in there together and I'll show him and he says, "no, you showed me yesterday, I don't know how." (and no, I didn't show him yesterday). He FREAKED out about putting a diaper on but I can't be cleaning up pee stains all over my furniture, plus with dh doing this training thing he's basically not home and when he is he's doing homework so I have a lot more to do in a day than I used to (he always did all the housework).
