Originally Posted by dubfam
I think that literature saying bfing is the easiest thing ever is setting women up for failure. With everyone always talking about how simple it is, no wonder women think they can't breastfeed when they are having a minor problem. They are hearing everywhere they turn that bfing is so easy and natural. So when it isn't easy and natural for them, they think there is something wrong with THEM.
I wanted to quote this to make sure everyone reads it again.
It is beyond me why so many people on this board refuse to get this point. I have had this same argument here before and been accused of promoting formula.
It infuriates me to hear people out there telling new moms, "oh, it's so easy, just pull up your shirt and latch him on!" because for so many of them, that's not how it works - and they think they have to give up because it's not working.
I was supplementing for a while with this baby while my hideously cracked nipples healed up and I ep'ed. We're back to ebf now and yes, it is getting easier. But this was my experience when we were supplementing:
Formula feed - dump powder and water into bottle, shake bottle, feed baby, burp baby, get spit up on.
Breastfeed - Get into position on the couch. Arrange pillows. Set baby on pillows. Attempt latch. Repeat until nipple is bleeding. Try other side. Attempt latch again. Try cross-cradle hold. Switch to cradle hold. Try football hold. Offer up a prayer that he finally latched this time. Try not to scream out loud in pain, because that will make him unlatch. When he's done, burp him, get spit up on. Then put Lansinoh on bleeding nipples and remember to use nursing pads, so you don't get blood on all your bras.
Does anyone here seriously want to argue that a new mother who's been told repeatedly that breastfeeding is easier, and who hasn't been warned about this kind of difficulty, would be able to get through that stage without feeling like a failure - or like she'd been lied to? Does anyone honestly think that you can convince someone in that kind of situation that breastfeeding is EASY?
It's not always easy. It hasn't been for me. It's worth it, but it's not EASY.