Hmm, well with my son I started with breastfeeding, but he never had a decent latch. That plus my need to have a breast biopsy done lead us to wean at 2 months.
Back then, breastfeeding was NOT easier. I'd struggle to get him to latch, he'd NEVER latch on the left, only the right. I'd feed him, pump the left, try to feed it to him in a bottle, he'd never eat it, I'd end up throwing it away, making formula, then washing TWO bottles and my pump. Not to mention the screaming and fussing and drama that went on...
Yeah it sucked, when we did just go to forumla it "felt" easier. Sure it WAS easier...we were skipping several steps. Was it cheaper? No. Was it healthier? Oh HECK NO! It was then we discovered my son's dairy issue (cannot at all consume) and his bowel narrowing and kidney issues, etc.
With my daughter I managed to breastfeed exclusive after we got her home (NICU stay, she was fed bottles, mostly my EBM, but some special preemie formula too). Easier isn't the right word for breastfeeding...it's even more than easier...it's the easiest!
Sure, every so often I'll get busy and get grumpy about having to get "out of my groove" to sit down and nurse her (she will only nurse in a sling if desperate...she's a wee bit stubborn
)...but in all fairness it isn't really that much time out of my day, and I enjoy the time once I get over my grumpiness at being interrupted.
As for nighttime...my husband and I agree, this is WAY easier than dealing with the screaming and crying until we can heat a bottle, 2 minutes or not, that 2 minutes at 3 am is rough to listen to your little one cry. It feels like forever, and sometimes it takes longer than 2 minutes. Not to mention it usually involves ALL of us being awake instead of me waking up enough to get her latched before falling back asleep (half the time she isn't even fully awake yet).
Not to mention the air they swallow while crying. Causing gas, causing MORE issues....ugh at least that's how it was with my son...
No...breastfeeding is the easiest
, so long as you are present to take care of the baby. When you're pumping all the time (especially round the clock) and washing bottles and pump parts, warming milk, etc....well maybe it isn't "easier" then (it is still healthier AND cheaper), but it sure is worth the effort.
So, I disagree with you, breastfeeding IS easier so long as it happens the way it is intended (baby at breast). When we start adding frequent maternal absences or frequent b ottle usage...well then it isn't really any easier...though it is still cheaper and healthier for the baby.
BTW, sometimes there are many reasons a mom may be away from her baby, they include NICU/PICU other hospital stays, or working, or several other reasons which do not make a mom NOT an attachment parent.