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My husband and I are in the process of looking to to costs and legalities of step-parent adoption. Both my son who is 6 and my step son who is 5 have NO contact with thier bio parents.The choice of them (the bio parents)not us or my kids. IWe have decided we probably are going to go through with this. Since if anything happened to either one of us they the kids would be split up. My step sonw ould go to his mom my son to his dad and our tow daughters (our togehter) would go to their godparents. Everything that has been familiar would disappear in aheartbeat and that would crush me. Yes, it is hard to lov them like your own but sometimes you love them just as much just differently. they grew in your heart not your tummy as we say it at our house.