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post #21 of 178
Never have, however I did get a cop who thought my babywearing was "unsafe" at a mall a month or too back. She never showed her face again though.
post #22 of 178
NIP for 20 months

lots of positive expereinces.

Lady at a wedding, when DS was 19 months -- in my lap to nurse (helping slef) down to run, then back -- very wound as it was late......."I am so glad you are still nurseing him, and that you give him such freedom with so few limits to meet his needs. he is such a happy little boy" ( told her i was pregant too and she was even more happy) she was about 50 or so.

on plane when he was 11 month old -- and a squirmy mess -- the man covered his eyes across the alie, i tried to pull the sling up a little -- mainly to hold on to DS better and his wife said "oh don't you cover that baby up, HE can close his eyes or read his book./ he saw us nurse his 12 kids [points to other woman with her] he can handle it, he is the adult, the baby's needs come first." man says -- from behind book -- " you are the mother, take care of you child, i am an adult to care for myself".

theose are the best two -- but i get smiles and so on ...

never anything neg and we've nursed everywhere.

Aimee
post #23 of 178
me!!! dd is 2 now and i have yet to have a bad experience!!
post #24 of 178
Me either!! It was tough at first, I felt very self-conscious, and when I was feeling like that, I FELT like people were looking at me funny. But once I got comfortable with it, I never felt that way again. It's all been positive!
post #25 of 178
I nursed two kids, sometimes in public, and never had a bad experience.

Maybe I shouldn't say this, but, I knew a woman who was constantly having bad experiences. Her family went on vacation at a resort, and the resort managers asked her to please be more discreet. But the thing was, she really didn't make any attempt to cover herself at all, and would then become very hostile. So I have to admit that it's made me wonder when people say they've had a lot** of bad experiences. (I want to emphasize the "a lot" part here because I think anyone could have some bad experiences.)

I didn't cover myself with a towel or anything like that. But I never took my shirt off!
post #26 of 178
Me either, but I admit I don't nurse much in public. I have huge breasts which I have to hold for ds (he gets really peeved if I don't) and I'm really uncomfortable doing it in public. Also, he likes to shove my shirt up under my chin.
post #27 of 178
Admittedly, we don't go out in busy areas much, but we've never had a negative experience NIP. I was a bit concerned when I had to fly alone with ds when he was 8 mo and I didn't know whom we might be sitting next to and what they would say to my ds' antics while nursing. We were lucky - when I told the lady next to me that I'd be nursing my son in a moment, and hoped she didn't mind if he took up some of her space, she flashed her tye-dyed undershirt and said "hey, old hippy here, I think it's great your nursing, take all the room you need!"
post #28 of 178
All good here... I've actually had people come up and tell me how great they think it is that I'm breastfeeding!
post #29 of 178
I haven't had a bad experience but I am too nervous to NIP much. I'm slowly getting over it I'm definately too nervous to tandem NIP at all (except in a nursing lounge), although I did tandem nurse in front of a photographer with the full knowledge that the picture might end up on the front page of the paper : It was for a good cause And it didn't end up in the paper.

My boys are very squirmy and hate having my shirt touch their faces and are erratic latchers (get distracted and unlatch ALL the time)

I was called an exhibitionist feminazi for displaying a nursing pic on Myspace, but I don't think that counts.

Thanks for starting this thread... sometimes in the Lactivist forum it gets to feeling like the whole world is against us and the fear can start getting to me, so I'm glad so many women have never encountered problems.
post #30 of 178
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I nursed two kids, sometimes in public, and never had a bad experience.

Maybe I shouldn't say this, but, I knew a woman who was constantly having bad experiences. Her family went on vacation at a resort, and the resort managers asked her to please be more discreet. But the thing was, she really didn't make any attempt to cover herself at all, and would then become very hostile. So I have to admit that it's made me wonder when people say they've had a lot** of bad experiences. (I want to emphasize the "a lot" part here because I think anyone could have some bad experiences.)
I kind of wonder this, too. I have never used a blanket or anything but I feel like I have always nursed as modestly as possible. I also think that because I am comfortable with it, people pick up on that and it makes them more comfortable, too.
post #31 of 178
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Originally Posted by SusanElizabeth View Post
I nursed two kids, sometimes in public, and never had a bad experience.

Maybe I shouldn't say this, but, I knew a woman who was constantly having bad experiences. Her family went on vacation at a resort, and the resort managers asked her to please be more discreet. But the thing was, she really didn't make any attempt to cover herself at all, and would then become very hostile. So I have to admit that it's made me wonder when people say they've had a lot** of bad experiences. (I want to emphasize the "a lot" part here because I think anyone could have some bad experiences.)

I didn't cover myself with a towel or anything like that. But I never took my shirt off!

What if you HAD to take your shirt off? When I first began tandem nursing my twins, I had to take my shirt all the way off, undo the flaps on my nursing bra and then pick them up and get them latched on. So, I never left the house. I honestly didn't take them anywhere alone until they were three months old because I was terrified of what would happen if they got hungry while I was out. Even after that I would only do really short outings (which is REALLY hard with my twins). If I hadn't had my husband to help w/ running errands I have no idea what I would have done.

I hope that someday women will be able to comfortably nurse their kids in public in any way that they need to without getting scorn from anyone.
post #32 of 178
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Originally Posted by mommymaemae View Post

I was called an exhibitionist feminazi for displaying a nursing pic on Myspace, but I don't think that counts.
Oh, I don't count the nutty things people have "said" to me on YouTube.
post #33 of 178
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What if you HAD to take your shirt off? When I first began tandem nursing my twins, I had to take my shirt all the way off, undo the flaps on my nursing bra and then pick them up and get them latched on. So, I never left the house. I honestly didn't take them anywhere alone until they were three months old because I was terrified of what would happen if they got hungry while I was out. Even after that I would only do really short outings (which is REALLY hard with my twins). If I hadn't had my husband to help w/ running errands I have no idea what I would have done.

I hope that someday women will be able to comfortably nurse their kids in public in any way that they need to without getting scorn from anyone.
I rarely left the house when my twins were small, either. I didn't have to take my shirt off, but there was no way to nurse discretely or even comfortably in public. I do believe our culture has a long ways to go in normalizing breastfeeding, but I personally don't think we need to be so extreme as to make it legal for women to be sitting around topless in restaurants or public places. That is just unnecessary. We need to be accomadating, but not THAT accomadating.
post #34 of 178
Never had a bad experience, had lots of positive experiences in 26 months of not-particularly-discreet nursing. Maybe it was all the scaaaary tattoos revealed when the shirt came down...
post #35 of 178
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Originally Posted by mommymaemae View Post
What if you HAD to take your shirt off? When I first began tandem nursing my twins, I had to take my shirt all the way off, undo the flaps on my nursing bra and then pick them up and get them latched on. So, I never left the house. I honestly didn't take them anywhere alone until they were three months old because I was terrified of what would happen if they got hungry while I was out. Even after that I would only do really short outings (which is REALLY hard with my twins). If I hadn't had my husband to help w/ running errands I have no idea what I would have done.
Hmm. I have to admit that a woman completely taking off her shirt in public does give me pause. The previously-mentioned woman I knew who took her shirt off actually had other mothers angry at her because it was at a public PTA meeting. One mom was upset that her husband was staring at breast-feeding mom's breasts.
post #36 of 178
no bad experiences here either. i get more smiles and positive comments.
post #37 of 178
Nope - never a negative experience NIP over my 4+ years of doing so.

By baby number three I was almost hoping for a comment since I had so many sarcastic responses at the ready after years of reading at MDC, but, happily I guess , I never got to use any of them!

I nursed all over the place too - ice hockey games, movies, restaurants, walking around the grocery store, big brother's elementary school, . ..
post #38 of 178
I live in Los Angeles and I never had a bad experience in public. Everyone was supportive and kind. I tend to think people in California are more accepting of such things. However, I had my mother nagging me in private about why I was still nursing a 3-year old!!
post #39 of 178
No issues here, either. But, I am a bit of an imposing person, presence wise. Something about the way I carry myself...anywho, we're all good, never a wary glance. More weird looks for baby wearing. Of course, I'm the girl my bffs joke got pgs so I could have a reason to legitimately get my boobs out in public. : I have "cleavage" issues!
post #40 of 178
Nearly 5 years and counting of nursing my 2 and I've never noticed so much as a dirty look. I have had several people make positive comments.
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