My family knew that we were planning on a water birth at a birth center for our dd. They gave us a hard time about it, but eventually they got over it. When we found out that my dd had died, I had to go to the hospital to be induced. I hated every minute of it. They try to convince me that the hospital wasn't that bad, but it's not going to work.
They have known since we decided to get pregnant again that our new baby will be born at home. Before I was pregnant, all they did was complain about it. I have repeatedly told them that I am not sick and I am not high risk. It is perfectly safe to birth at home.
I have heard all sorts of things from them such as 'birth is dangerous', 'don't you want to be in the hospital where you know for sure that everything is safe?', 'what if something goes wrong?'. The worst thing I've heard is probably, 'I bet if you got cancer, you'd probably be one of those people who dies from not getting treatment because you want to try herbs instead.' Hmmm....birth=dying of cancer?
: Don't know what that has to do with anything, but ok.
I finally told them that I have spent the last year reading and researching everything I could about homebirth and natural birth. I told them that when they are willing to do the research to the extent that I have that I will be willing to listen to them tell me why its a bad idea. I also told them that if they can't support me 100% then they will not be welcome at our child's birth. That shut them up.
Now they have a problem with the fact that we won't circ. It's always something with them. God forbid they actually make an effort to educate themselves.