How many children do you want? - Page 3

[smeisnotapirate]

Originally Posted by Stace

That's awesome! So many people that adopt don't want older children and the "problems" they come with. I feel so sad for older children that get lost in the system.

Yeah, it's something we've always been serious about. I went to school with a couple of girls who went into the system at 8 and were there until they got kicked out at 18 because nobody wanted an older child, and especially siblings. So that's what we'll do. Besides, DH is always much more comfortable around older children than babies.

[Traceyky]

It is so hard on the kids... yet you have to balance protecting your family too. I lived in a group home for 2 years and knew some of those unwanted kids. I always wondered what happened to them. We have adopted 5 children so far. Our children were 6, 9, 11 and 13 when they came to us. (they are now 23, 21, 18, 16,) a few years later we adopted their neice (5) who is now 12. It is a rocky road, but I would not change it. We tried to adopt again, but the local red tape is awful (we previously adopted in another state) There are kids we have said no to- because we truly felt they would endanger the children we are already raising. So... we keep it in prayer... and I do hope we are blessed through adoption again. TraceyKy Wife, mama, midwife

[junipervt]

This will be our 1st & I think we want 2. I always thought 3, but after being a nanny for a few families with 2 children it seems like a nice amount. Who knows?

[smeisnotapirate]

Originally Posted by Traceyky

It is so hard on the kids... yet you have to balance protecting your family too. I lived in a group home for 2 years and knew some of those unwanted kids. I always wondered what happened to them. We have adopted 5 children so far. Our children were 6, 9, 11 and 13 when they came to us. (they are now 23, 21, 18, 16,) a few years later we adopted their neice (5) who is now 12. It is a rocky road, but I would not change it. We tried to adopt again, but the local red tape is awful (we previously adopted in another state) There are kids we have said no to- because we truly felt they would endanger the children we are already raising. So... we keep it in prayer... and I do hope we are blessed through adoption again. TraceyKy Wife, mama, midwife

That's fantastic! What a wonderful way to build a family. I agree that you also have to keep in mind the safety of the family. Yours seems to be a great example of how to do it right.

[Carrie77]

We were married for 10 years before deciding we wanted a baby - we both had convinced each other that we were fine being childless.

While we were holding our little boy for the first time, we looked at each other and said "let's do this again!"

Since then, DH has said he'd like a dozen if they could all be as wonderful as our first. I don't think that is possible (or if he's even serious), since we waited so long to begin.

I've pretty much decided that this is the decade for babies. I spent my entire 20's avoiding pregnancy, so I'll spend my 30's letting whatever happen, happen. Maybe I'll be finished birthing babies by 40!

So - our number is however many I can have over the next 10 years! I haven't been on b/c since the birth of DS one year ago, and not pregnant yet.