October Open Chat

[Jezzy]

Ok ladies, its October!!! I hope that you don't mind that I started a new thread and I didn't see that someone else was going to start it so I thought that I would

Isn't time just flying by!:

I hope that everyone is feeling great!

[True Blue]

Happy October everyone!!!!

I'm so excited, DH is advancing today to Senior Chief (it's a really big deal, it's mean he's second highest enlisted rank now). He is so excited, he can't believe he's made it this far so soon. It's like a surreal experience for him. At any rate, his boss and I are meeting at his ship this morning so we can both pin his new anchors on his collar. Pretty cool!

I also think we might find out where we are transferring next spring very soon...keep your fingers crossed for us that we get another ship in a decent location!!!

[flapjack]

My bottom is still broken I am exhausted because for some unknown reason I thought that a weekend with my mother would be a good idea- how wrong was I? I just signed up for an allotment at the local community centre, and I am, basically, knackered.

[Teenytoona]

Thanks for starting the new thread Jezzy! Happy October everyone!!

True Blue, how exciting!! Congrats to you and your DH! Woohoo!

for Flapjack, I'm sorry you're feeling so down. Geesh, broken bottom is no good. Take care of yourself Mama!

I am so excited, we finally met with a CPM this past weekend. She's our first interview, so we're trying not to get too excited, but really, we really liked her, and her rates were a good deal less than we expected. She's the only CPM, so she's got a slightly higher rate than the other two, but she recommended we talk to two other women, one who was on my list, and a new one for me. So I'm really excited, because it truly looks like we're going it at home! For real!

[Jlcampbellkidz]

True Blue: Congrats to you and your husband. You must be a very strong woman. It can't be easy when he is away.

I don't get to post often. Maybe once or twice a month. Just never have the time. But I always feel better after I come here. Something very nice about connecting with other natural mamas.

Had a 21 week apt. early last week. All was well but I left the appointment feeling like my birth was not going to be a good one if I continue there. I really feel like my choices are limited. Homebirth was our obvious choice in the beginning. Specially since our last birth was at home and went so smoothly and quick. But when we found out about the antiphospholipid antibody and started on the heprin everything changed. I feel like I have an internal battle going on in my head and my heart. I want to do whats best for me and the baby, but I don't want to sacrifice the peacefulness of it all that can be accomplished at home.

I do like and trust the midwife that I have chosen that delivers at the hospital, but she reminded me at this last visit that she is still help under the regulations of that hospital. I have attended births with her as the doula for clients and she is very hands off and patient and tends to let nature take its course. Withing the last month the hospital has changed some policies and is trying to have more monitoring. I'm not ok with that. I want movement, and to be in the water. She did say that I can still use the tub or deliver there if I choose, can still go without an IV or heplock and have intermittent monitoring. I totally appreciate her being honest and telling me right now. But how am I to know if the hospital with crack down even more in the following months. I am only choosing the hospital for that (JUST IN CASE) They have told me that my risk of hemmorage is much higher since I am on the heprin twice daily. No one seems to be concerned about the birth. Just after delivery. At my last birth I didn't bleed but maybe 1 cup of blood. That was weird, but I wasn't taking a blood thinner either. I just don't know. My intuition says play it safe, but my heart and head says, Iv'e attended so many births were the moms and docs were "playing it safe" and it ended in an unessasary c-section and lot's of unessasary interventions.

See the battle in writing.:

[Tenk]

Not in your DDC........

Hey Jezzy, it's nice to come in here and see that your pregnancy has gone so well. I was just thinking about you and thought I would check in here.

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and happy safe healthy delivery!!!

Love ~Teneal

[nausicaamom]

'morning all!

Teeny - great news on the CPM - I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you guys can find a provider that you click with.

TrueBlue - congrats on your husband's promotion - sending lots of good vibes your way that his new ship is in a great location for you.

Helen - I can't even begin to imagine how yucky you must feel. Here's hoping that you can get some rest and the boys can give you some nice TLC (well, as much as they are capeable of, or at least causing less mahem than usual )

Jlcampbellkidz - to you, I so sorry your having to deal with this stress and I really hope you can get the birth you want.

I just got home from my chiro and am feeling all nice and aligned. I'm at the point that I don't have to see him every week which is great 'cause my body is starting to hold onto the adjustments. The Bean is still breech and causing all sorts of pressure, especially some pubic pain - but thankfully it's very minor thanks to the adjustments I've been getting. It's been hard putting aside the money for it, but I am so thankful I did 'cause I'd be almost imobile at this point if we hadn't.

I can't stop looking at the two pairs of baby socks I blocked last night - they are sooo cute and it feels so cool knowing that I made them for the baby. If I can scrounge up batteries for the camera, I'll share all the wooly baby goodness I've got going.

Hope everyone has a great day!

[ScarletBegonias]

Thnkas Jezzy!

TrueBlue: sounds exciting!

flapjack: i can't believe your bum is still broken! poor mama!

Teenytoona: that is wonderful news! i am so happy for you!

JCampbel: i hope everything works out. your mw seems very supportive and up-front with you (probably because of your professional relationship). i think this makes a big difference. keep us updated.

naisucaa: i started on a hat for dd last night (which, given my frame of mind lately, is a HUGE accomplishment ) she is so into hats right now and it's getting rainy and cold here so it's time for me to get movin!


i'm impatiently waiting for beads all the beads that have arrived are sooooo beautiful and raw. i can't wait to put them together for everyone!

in other news, the home front should see a dramatic improvement with dh. i have been so depressed for the last few weeks, that i haven't been hungry i've been crying (i am *not* a crying person) and i've had no motivation to do anything except go to work. i gave dh a heads up a couple weeks ago, and although he has spent a *little* more time with dd, nothing else has improved.

i laid it on the line yesterday and let him know i was at the point where i didn't even know if we could stay married anymore. he seems to finally realize what's at stake and has vowed to come back from the dark side. we have agreed to start over, and let go of the past (with a 12 year history: ). i am not holding my breath, but will be supportive and do my part. if things don't change, well, i haven't thought that far ahead.

[nausicaamom]

ScarletBegonias - sending lots of hope, peace and healing your way.

[Jezzy]

Awwwww Teneal, you are so sweet!! Thank you!! I have been watching you too and : for you!! Hugs to you mama!

Jlcampbellkidz, sorry that you have such a decision to make. I see in your sigi that you are having a boy!! Congrats on that!

flapjack I guess that I missed something, what is wrong with you bottom?? Hope that you are feeling better soon!


Teenytoona, glad that you felt comfortable with your CPM !!

ScarletBegonias, I am sorry that you are feeling down mama! I hope that things get better soon!

[Steady101]

I can't believe it's October already. I have never posted in the ongoing chat before, but will try and remember to check in at least once a week to see how all you gals are doing.

[smokeylo]

Wow. I can't believe how fast this pregnancy is going by. It reminds me of when I was engaged and preparing to marry... once the engagement happened, it seems like time slipped away. Suddenly my canned goods were expiring AFTER my wedding (is it silly to check labels for this stuff??? I look at expiration dates and say to myself, "wow, these beans will be fresh long after I'm a mother!"). My husband keeps saying to me, "Oh my god, you're growing a person." Now that my belly is popping and I feel movement more often (usually evenings/mornings, not while I'm up and active yet) it seems like rediscovering my BFP. WE'RE HAVING A BABY - A REAL ONE! AGH!

Feeling movement has been great. Just little nudges and wiggles and the occasional big flop when I'm reading in bed or just waking up. I can't wait for DH to feel the baby moving, too.

My hips and ligaments continue to ache and I know I need to go see a chiro or MT soon, if only for the pampering.

We are hoping to start childbirth ed classes soon, but are despairing because the class we really want to take may not be compatible with DH's work schedule. This is a bummer -- I love the teacher and the location and the philosophy, but I'm not the one who really NEEDS CBE, DH is the one who knows almost nothing about this process and needs a place to ask questions. Boo.

[Jezzy]

Darn, I forgot about the leg cramps. I had a bad one last night..... anyone know how to avoid them?

[True Blue]

Don't point your toes in bed, like, EVER! LOL That's my best advice! Every pregnancy I have to retrain myself on how to stretch out in bed...flex those feet, don't point them!

[OldFashionedGirl]

I missed out on the Sept. chat, so I'm jumping right in this time!

The pregnancy is going well; nothing out of the ordinary. I'm just starting to feel "Little Suzy" (our name for the babe--instead of "It"--until he/she arrives and gets a real name) move around in there. It's a reassuring feeling.

I'm annoyed by the people in my life right now. Quick background: fiance and I are 24, both still living w/ our respective parents, until he can find a full-time job and we can move out. We plan for him to work full-time and me to work part-time. I am on medicaid and receive WIC.

So, my mom got on me today about finding a job. Her main reason? "Because otherwise people are going to think you're like Jane Brown* and no one will like you." ("Jane Brown"--I changed the woman's name for on here, but she's from my hometown and a bit of a, well, breeder. She has 5 kids, all from 5 different men. She's a lousy mom for a variety of reasons. And yes, she, too, receives gov't aid.) That upset me for several reasons: first, that my mom would compare me to this woman really hurt. Second, that I should do something only because "no one will like me"?

Then, she tells me this gem of a story. Last Nov., i got laid off from my job at a gas station (I was 7 mo. preg, btw). He told me it was b/c business had been slow, and he couldn't afford to have so much help. Which, sounded fishy, but what could I do? Today, I found out what the real reason was: I had just applied for medicaid, and he had gotten some paperwork to fill out. He did want to mess with it, so he let me go. BUT THEN, after my mom tells me this, she points out that he is looking for help again, and now he has a bookkeeper, so maybe I should re-apply and point out that the bookkeeper could do the minimal paperwork. Um, I'm sorry; he made it pretty clear it was too much of a burden on him the first time. Why should I go beg him for my job back?

My future MIL basically told my fiance that I'm a bad person for wanting to be a SAHM. "Both parents should work!" she told him. She was apparently appalled by my desire. I know it's b/c we have different values: she grew up w/ next to nothing, and so she has made it her mission to work a ton and give her kids everything they could ever want. I didn't grow up with a whole lot either, but I think it's more important that my kids have ME, rather than the latest gizmo. I KNOW we just have different values. But it still hurts that she would say something like that.

There's more stuff going on all around that I don't feel like getting into right now, and I'm just feeling like everyone is "ganging up" on me at once, and pregnancy hormones are making me feel worse.

I SO needed to get all that out.

[ScarletBegonias]

electrolytes help tremendously in alleviating cramps pronto. i like emergn'c, recharge, and sharkies (yum!). also, try increasing protein, fluids and calcium/magnesium intake. calcium won't help alone, it needs (at least) magnesium for the body to be able to utilize it properly.

[SamuraiMom]

I haven't read through all the posts yet, but I just wanted to say Happy Autumn/October to you all! The cool air feels so very good, I am starting to feel like an incubator!

Went to see the play "Birth on Labor Day" in Boston this past weekend, it was beautiful, but it is sooo hard to sit still in a folding chair for 2 hours, not that it was ever easy!

I'll check in later!

[Angierae]

Happy October!

OldfashionedGirl so sorry about your family crap. Thats not something you really need to be dealing with right now. please come here and get it off your chest! I am back and forth between calling my mom and avoiding her...her advice is so often not helpful right now! And Dh and I just moved out of my MIL's house, I am really done with living with family for the moment.

I have been feeling really down the last few days. No reason really, just hormones I guess. But today I got the good news that my very close cousin had a baby girl on Saturday! She had a traumatic 1st birth and this one went sooooooooo well! She avoided induction and made her OB let her go 42 weeks despite grumbling. (She was going to consent to the induction on Monday.) She went into labor on her own and had the baby vaginally 6 hours later. Avery Blair is her name and she was 9lbs 8 oz! They were home in under 24 hours and had No interventions. She feels awesome and is so proud of herself! I am really happy for her. She needed a positive birth experience. She has been my homebirth sibling support person and kept comparing our births, disparaging herself. It broke my heart! She sounded so thrilled--I am on cloud nine for her! I needed to Share!

On a personal note..we have our lvl 2 ultrasound on Wednesday...I am really nervous the babe isn't going to be healthy. Anyone else have fears that turned out to be unfounded?

[nausicaamom]

Originally Posted by Angierae

On a personal note..we have our lvl 2 ultrasound on Wednesday...I am really nervous the babe isn't going to be healthy. Anyone else have fears that turned out to be unfounded?

Completely - I had half convinced myself that there was going to be some giant physical problem that required hospital bedrest for the remainder of my pregnancy. This was not helped by having the morning from hell that day - I seriously made sure to bring enough knitting and my gameboy with me because I was so convinced that my pressure was going to be throught the roof and I was going to have to spend at least the afternoon in the hospital hooked up to stuff.

Of course, everything looked fine and my pressure was great - Gotta love the hormones.

[OldFashionedGirl]

Originally Posted by Angierae

She avoided induction and made her OB let her go 42 weeks despite grumbling. (She was going to consent to the induction on Monday.) She went into labor on her own and had the baby vaginally 6 hours later. Avery Blair is her name and she was 9lbs 8 oz! They were home in under 24 hours and had No interventions. She feels awesome and is so proud of herself! I am really happy for her. She needed a positive birth experience. She has been my homebirth sibling support person and kept comparing our births, disparaging herself. It broke my heart! She sounded so thrilled--I am on cloud nine for her! I needed to Share!

How fabulous for your cousin! I'm so impressed that she stood up for herself and against induction. Everyone I've ever talked to (not on here, of course!) can't understand why I wouldn't want to be induced on my due date, if not sooner. And that the baby was 9.8 and vaginal!? Impressive! Darren weighed the same when he was born, via c/s, and my doc has made it sound like I may just produce babies too big to be born vaginally. (Which, of course, I realize is ridiculous, but it's still discouraging.)

Three cheers for your cousin!