Teenytoona. My mum was shocked enough when i got pregnant at 21, I think 17 would just have been a little too much for her. Have you seen www.girlmom.com? (and the Ariel Gore/ Bee Lavender books as well.) It might help DSD out.I just had the puberty talk with an 8yo
They grow up too fast.
We always knew she'd have a kid earlier than later, but well when the news hits it sure hits.
: it was a rough time, too, even though she had TONS of help. she's only come into parenting in the past couple of years, though, and Chibi's relationship with mom is more of a parent/child than grandparent/child one. It's really difficult for me, because I'm a bit of a control freak, take-charge kind of person and I've been actively not parenting ChibiChibi for the past ten years. That's especially difficult when Chibi implores me to do just that (and she does so often, especially as she's approaching puberty-- she thinks of me as far more 'parental' and 'grownup' than her mother, and with good reason-- my sister was young even for her age, and I have always been an old person in a young body). So, Chibi and my sister... she's more like an older sister/cousin to her than a mother, and I'm still 'the cool aunt,' but the person she's most likely to run to for help when the sh** hits the fan, kwim?
