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post #41 of 137
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I believe tomorrow is National Coming Out Day. As much as I'd like to say I'm going to make some grand jesture... it's just not happening. I'll wear my rainbow tie-dyed shirt, but... it's been a shitty month. That's all I can muster.
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TECHNICALLY, it's a rainbow tie dye wife beater. I look rockin' hot in it. :LOL
I must live in a deep closet, I didn't even know there was a day... : :

I'm sorry about your crappy month Pynki. Sounds like that shirt is a good pick me up, though.

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I just had to post here because I know ya'll will understand my excitement.
That's fabulous! I hope you have loads of fun.

Well, ladies, I know I haven't been on much. Work has been : and its about the only place I can get on to read the boards. : Anyhow, I've been chatting we a lovely lady and it's really turned into something I would have never expected. She smart, funny, and beautiful, but even more, we seem to have some indescribable bond. There's so many similarities between us. The only problem is we live about 1500 miles apart. Still, I'm happy we found one another even if its so far apart. She's really added something to my life.

So I think we finally have our halloween costumes settled. Dd has finally decided on being a ballerina and Ds will be a prisoner. We already have most of the items, we just need some finishing pieces (a tutu for dd, a number for ds...) I can't believe we're almost half way through October! :
post #42 of 137
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I just had to post here because I know ya'll will understand my excitement. We started talking to this couple and they are the most amazing people and I swear we are all JUST alike!! You'd think we were clones of eachother!! Not to mention GORGEOUS! They are both Bi and not into the whole spouse swapping thing which is JUST like us!!

We are going out with them on saturday night since my mom is coming to babysit for us....Im so excited I can't stop thinking about it!!!!!!! She is amazing : We've had a couple of really great conversations the past couple of evenings! its all thats on my mind when I go to sleep and when I wake up! I can't beleive this is actually going to happen!! If anything we really think that a GREAT friendship will build out of this!


yyayayaayay!!!!!
let us know how it goes

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I must live in a deep closet, I didn't even know there was a day... : :

I'm sorry about your crappy month Pynki. Sounds like that shirt is a good pick me up, though.



That's fabulous! I hope you have loads of fun.

Well, ladies, I know I haven't been on much. Work has been : and its about the only place I can get on to read the boards. : Anyhow, I've been chatting we a lovely lady and it's really turned into something I would have never expected. She smart, funny, and beautiful, but even more, we seem to have some indescribable bond. There's so many similarities between us. The only problem is we live about 1500 miles apart. Still, I'm happy we found one another even if its so far apart. She's really added something to my life.

So I think we finally have our halloween costumes settled. Dd has finally decided on being a ballerina and Ds will be a prisoner. We already have most of the items, we just need some finishing pieces (a tutu for dd, a number for ds...) I can't believe we're almost half way through October! :
wow, you too huh? seems like everyones hooking up. in one way or another

If not for my online loves, I swear I'd go loopy (er).
post #43 of 137
So hey Pynki, you do anything today? I didn't even it was NCOD until I read this just now... I woulda work a rainbow to work or sumpin!!

{{hugs}} to you my darlin'.
post #44 of 137
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Wow, such happy news floating around here!
Really, that's very exciting to read about, definitely keep us updated.

And more to those that need 'em!
post #45 of 137
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And more to those that need 'em!
ohoooh! hug me!!!! all my dreams come true
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Since we are swapping myspaces!

Please ADD me !
post #47 of 137
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Originally Posted by Rhendi View Post
I just had to post here because I know ya'll will understand my excitement. We started talking to this couple and they are the most amazing people and I swear we are all JUST alike!! You'd think we were clones of eachother!! Not to mention GORGEOUS! They are both Bi and not into the whole spouse swapping thing which is JUST like us!!

We are going out with them on saturday night since my mom is coming to babysit for us....Im so excited I can't stop thinking about it!!!!!!! She is amazing : We've had a couple of really great conversations the past couple of evenings! its all thats on my mind when I go to sleep and when I wake up! I can't beleive this is actually going to happen!! If anything we really think that a GREAT friendship will build out of this!


awesome!!! everyones meeting new people around here
post #48 of 137
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Originally Posted by happyhippiemama View Post
So hey Pynki, you do anything today? I didn't even it was NCOD until I read this just now... I woulda work a rainbow to work or sumpin!!

{{hugs}} to you my darlin'.
Nope. I got in touch with my masculine side and mudded some walls in our house we're trying to remodel. That was my excitement today.
post #49 of 137
I picked up a book about the Bi nation from the library! Its called "Bi America, myths truths and struggles of an invisible community" by William E.Burleson

I wish our library would carry more books on polyamorous/open marriges and Being Bi, as opposed to just the standard gay and lesbian books. They had 3 shelves of gay and lesbian, and one lonely book about being Bi. I would love to read about more familys and couples who are bi as opposed to just gay or lesbian. It could be just me, but I think theres a tottaly different dynamic and set of issues being Bi.
post #50 of 137
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I picked up a book about the Bi nation from the library! Its called "Bi America, myths truths and struggles of an invisible community" by William E.Burleson

I wish our library would carry more books on polyamorous/open marriges and Being Bi, as opposed to just the standard gay and lesbian books. They had 3 shelves of gay and lesbian, and one lonely book about being Bi. I would love to read about more familys and couples who are bi as opposed to just gay or lesbian. It could be just me, but I think theres a tottaly different dynamic and set of issues being Bi.
ITA
actually, I never realised there were bi books. of course, there must be... just shows how much of an invisible community we are.
and even I still struggle with identifying as bi, rather than a "real" lesbian
post #51 of 137
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ITA
actually, I never realised there were bi books. of course, there must be... just shows how much of an invisible community we are.
and even I still struggle with identifying as bi, rather than a "real" lesbian
I tryed the lesbian label, but........ I like men to much : or at least my man............ who am I kidding, most men. But I love women equally as much, so I could never call myself straight. And my sexual history is limited with both sides, dh is my first male all the way sexual partner (by choice, never felt like going all the way with other guys), and I have had 3 female sexual encounters, but they were when I was young, and it was a lot of exploration vs solid relationships, one was nearly a relationship but she got scared of the label/truth. So I'm not confused or looking to explore, I AM this way, there is no denying it, just like a gay male or lesbian can't and shouldn't deny who they are.

There arn't that many books out there, there might be online, just like alot of other alternative things, you always find more resources online vs irl. I do think we are an invisible community, I think the current media sexual climate has alot of "fashionable" bi-sexual women, who IMO are bi to turn men on or to get attention...... and that gives us a bad rap. But theres also the other side of the coin where some gay and lesbian people get mad at us being Bi because we wont "just choose a side already". There is no side we need to choose, we are our own side, we are our own group, with our own set of issues and thoughts and we deserve to be recognised as well.

sorry for the rant, I just get annoyed at the judgement I feel sometimes.
post #52 of 137
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I tryed the lesbian label, but........ I like men to much : or at least my man............ who am I kidding, most men. But I love women equally as much, so I could never call myself straight. And my sexual history is limited with both sides, dh is my first male all the way sexual partner (by choice, never felt like going all the way with other guys), and I have had 3 female sexual encounters, but they were when I was young, and it was a lot of exploration vs solid relationships, one was nearly a relationship but she got scared of the label/truth. So I'm not confused or looking to explore, I AM this way, there is no denying it, just like a gay male or lesbian can't and shouldn't deny who they are.

There arn't that many books out there, there might be online, just like alot of other alternative things, you always find more resources online vs irl. I do think we are an invisible community, I think the current media sexual climate has alot of "fashionable" bi-sexual women, who IMO are bi to turn men on or to get attention...... and that gives us a bad rap. But theres also the other side of the coin where some gay and lesbian people get mad at us being Bi because we wont "just choose a side already". There is no side we need to choose, we are our own side, we are our own group, with our own set of issues and thoughts and we deserve to be recognised as well.

sorry for the rant, I just get annoyed at the judgement I feel sometimes.
I so relate to all that.
even when I was a 'lesbian', i hated putting that label on myself.
I've never really enjoyed being with men, though I'm lately learning to really appreciate my DP. But I'm not opposed to men as a concept () I always said "what matters is a person's heart and soul, not what bits they've got"

but somehow, in the physical practice, men just didnt do it for me. didnt stop me getting entangled with them from time to time
post #53 of 137
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I so relate to all that.
even when I was a 'lesbian', i hated putting that label on myself.
I've never really enjoyed being with men, though I'm lately learning to really appreciate my DP. But I'm not opposed to men as a concept () I always said "what matters is a person's heart and soul, not what bits they've got"

but somehow, in the physical practice, men just didnt do it for me. didnt stop me getting entangled with them from time to time
both are on the surface sexually attractive to me (but i dont like the big beefcake or manly type men), but for relationships on both sides, there has to be a connection and substance in our communication etc. Me and dh have an open marriage, but I may never be with another man, but I know in my heart I do want to be with another woman. If the right man came along, I wouldn't be opposed to it, but I'm not actively searching either one.

But on a (i hate to use this word, because it sounds like a bag thing) lustful level, both are attractive to me. I think to me, the beauty in any human body is attractive to me.
post #54 of 137
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beauty in any human body is attractive to me.
wow, wonderful line; can I get it on a T shirt?
post #55 of 137
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Originally Posted by wonderwahine View Post
There arn't that many books out there, there might be online, just like alot of other alternative things, you always find more resources online vs irl. I do think we are an invisible community, I think the current media sexual climate has alot of "fashionable" bi-sexual women, who IMO are bi to turn men on or to get attention...... and that gives us a bad rap. But theres also the other side of the coin where some gay and lesbian people get mad at us being Bi because we wont "just choose a side already". There is no side we need to choose, we are our own side, we are our own group, with our own set of issues and thoughts and we deserve to be recognised as well.

sorry for the rant, I just get annoyed at the judgement I feel sometimes.
Rant away! I completely agree. I'm wishing that we could step out from the LGBT umbrella and come into our own recognized group. I hate that the thought of bi is viewed more as a steeping stone in sexual identity. I'm not bi to "test the waters" or see if one day I'll become a lesbian. I just happen to learn that I can love regardless of one's gender.
post #56 of 137
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wow, wonderful line; can I get it on a T shirt?
feel free, Its just my mindless ramblings I'm just glad it made sense to someone.
post #57 of 137
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ohoooh! hug me!!!! all my dreams come true
You know you can always get hugs from me! :nana:
post #58 of 137
I've only read the foreword of "bi america" so far http://www.amazon.com/Bi-America-Str.../dp/1560234792

but in the foreword I found the name of another book, "the bisexual option" http://www.amazon.com/Bisexual-Optio...2352380&sr=1-1

and it also reccomended the site www.bisexual.org.

Just thought I would throw those out there for anyone whos interested.
post #59 of 137
thanksfor those links!
post #60 of 137
Okay, I have a problem...

I just got an IM from an ex GF...
(quick background: She's an american living in israel, I met her there, we dated for a little while, DP was trying really hard to be okay with that, she was being really nice to him, but in the end, it was just too challenging for DP and anyway it didnt really seem to be working out with the gf: she is just a 'city girl' and I'm a feral hippy. It was fun, we didn't really 'break up' but it just petered out)

Anyway, she just IMed me, asking how much is a plane ticket to australia... why does she want to know???
coz she's still madly in love with me, cant stop thinking about me and has to see me.

she even said she'd be nice to my DP, though she can't stand him (!)
of course, I had no idea she hated DP, and I didnt know she was so in love with me, even when we were together.

she said she thought I knew, and when she asked me to move in with her it was her way of saying she loves me...

anyway, now (more than a year since i've seen her) she says she's in love with me and wants to come here, and even mentioned having a baby with me.



Seriously, I dont know what to think.

help?
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