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I justneed something interesting to read. I'm getting ored with what I have.
Don't know what genres you like, but my most recent reads from the library have been:
~ Anita Shreve -- Seaglass, Fortune's Rocks
~ Jan Karon -- the Mitford series, starting with "At Home in Mitford".
~ Frank Herbert -- Dune, Dune Messiah
~ back issues of fav magazines
~ Anne Rice -- Cry to Heaven
~ John Grisham -- A Painted House, The Testament, The Broker
~ John Le Carre -- The Constant Gardener
~ John Taylor Gatto -- Dumbing Us Down
post #202 of 384
Hi everyone,

I just wanted to join this thread with all of you, I think I fit in quite well here.

I'm Susan, married to Mike for almost 5 years, and we have 2 little girls - Bethany is 3 and Abby is a few weeks shy of being 2. Money is always tight in our house - DH is currently laid off, he was in the drywall business but doesn't qualify for unemployment. He does have a job interview on Monday with a different company, so I am hoping he will soon be employed again. I work part time for my dad, but our primary income right now is from a website I own.

We're in Minnesota - so getting ready for the colder weather that will soon be arriving.

Anyways, I look forward to chatting with all the wonderful mamas on here!!
post #203 of 384
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Originally Posted by mrskennedy View Post
From what I understand, there's a maximum per family size. But you can get less than the max, depending on your income.
I've been reading articles lately that say the average FS recipient gets only $21/wk! :

There is a maximum per family. But you can get as little as $5 a month depending on income and since it isn't a time limit program like cash assistance, you may as well take it, kwim? And the amount is not the same for every family, income as well as expenses makes it different for everyone.
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Originally Posted by LankyLizards View Post
No, food stamps vary based on your income, certain assets (I think), and how many they will be feeding. I'm not completely sure how they figure out the amounts, but when I was working I got more food stamps, because they gave me a child care deduction, now that I'm "just" a student I guess I'm not supposed to have child care costs (yeah...I wish).
What so you mean that you can see what they cover and not? What don't they cover? (Yeah, I get food stamps but have no idea exactly what I can and can't get with them....such helpful people at DCF to assist me with this.)

I think I'm going to look into waitressing. It would mean that dd would have to be watched by someone (prob. fraternal grandpa or uncle) at night until maybe late, but it could be just nights adn weekends and would mean I can pay all of my bills without having a heart attack every month. I'm regretting buyingthis computer, even though it's pretty much a necessity for my online classes. I'm wondering if I could have done without.

Mama, you can buy anything usually that is not prepared already with food stamps and no paper products. For example, you can buy chicken and roast it, but I don't believe you can buy a roasted chicken from the deli.

Hope ya'll don't mind me jumping in once in a while - I was a welfare case manager until last year so I have quite a bit of information. I love lurking in this thread for good ideas for our family.
post #205 of 384
Can I join you mama's and whine/vent for a minute? I'm freaking out here, thanks to our screw up of a mail lady my life is about to be ruined, My fin aid check from school was mailed last Friday, it should have been here by now. Our mail lady can't read and she's even been known to drop mail on the ground and leave it there. My neighbors deliver mail when they feel like it, one neighbor had my dd's medical records for a month before bringing them to me. I've gotten mail for up to 8 different neighbors on any given day. Yes, mail delivery is that bad out here. We complain enough and they give us a new mail person, I'm sorry but that person is just as big a screw up and we get a new one every couple of months. That said my car payment is now 30 days late, I'm worried the repo man is going to show up at any moment (no warnings from the bank but do they always warn you?) the rent is 3 weeks late which I'm not so worried about, I've been here 4 years, they know I'll pay. If the car gets repo'd though were SCREWED, we live in a small town where if you don't have a car you're in deep doo doo and with my kids special needs having a working car is #1 priority. Which reminds me, the car is now making a funny vibrating noise near the wheels inside the engines and I don't have the money to get it checked out. It sounds like something is lose, praying the engine doesn't fall out or something. Were supposed to be moving soon and without that check everything is on hold, I can't even go get more produce boxes to pack in because the car is on empty. The 1st months rent is already paid along with the deposit and if where not there to sign and move in we lose everything including the $ already paid on the place. We have multiple out of town Dr visits this week and I have no clue how were going to pay (gas $) for them right now. I need to wash clothes, I packed all the sheets up except for 1 set for each bed and my 7 yr old wet the bed last night (hasn't done that in at least 6 months) and I can't afford to wash right now and its cold, windy and raining out so I don't want to drag the kids to my mothers to do laundry. That's sad when I don't have $2 to wash laundry I'm exhausted, worn out and just feeling blah, don't have the energy to go cook anything, the kids are cranky and not feeling well and the baby is wanting to nurse non stop and making me feel resentful. I'm down to half a bag of sposies and I've asked a friend for my diaper covers back because I need them and she keeps forgetting and coming up with excuses but this is the 3rd week I've had to buy sposies and its really putting a strain on an already tight budget and its $10 in gas to go to her house in the 1st place (usually stop by on the way to the hospital with the kids). The utilities/internet and the phone are past due, I wake up every morning wondering if everything is still on and this check is now a over month later then is should have been, it got delayed by 2 weeks because my sitter decided something she has to do was more important (it really wasn't) so I had to reschedule the loan workshop appt and the next one was 2 weeks away then the school took there time processing the paperwork, the lender disbursed the funds over a week late and the school took over 3 weeks to mail the check and your not allowed to pick it up period. Its been 8 days since it was mailed and it should have been here in 2-3 days tops. I know that idiot mail person put it in the wrong box and if its not here by next Friday I have to let the school know so they can put a stop payment on the check and reissue another one which takes another 2-3 weeks! By then the car WILL BE repo'd! This move HAS TO HAPPEN! For a whole bunch of reasons, one of which is so I can find work because there is nothing here. I found us a decent place in a decent sized city were I should be able to find a decent job, especially since I can't rely on school fin aid the next 3 semesters since I'll only be taking 1-2 classes at a time doing the pre-reqs for the RT program.


ugh, wishing the magic money fairy would come by and wave her magic wand and say here's your check! Now go make something of yourself! yeah I know, wishful thinking. This could have all been avoided if the dang PO would just hire people who can read and actually do read the addresses on the mail. If you got this far then thank you, I just needed to get this out before I started screaming in frustration
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Oh I just want to send hugs to the various people who need them. It seems like the crap never ends. We all need to win the lottery LOL!
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Oh I just want to send hugs to the various people who need them. It seems like the crap never ends. We all need to win the lottery LOL!
: The lottery would be nice...

Oh wait... Then we'd have to pay taxes on it, and so we'd only end up with half! :

, mamas!
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Satori! I wish I could say something to make you feel better... But I can't think of anything Just know you have support here!
post #210 of 384
Hi Susan!
Keeping my fingers crossed for you, hoping all goes well with DH's interview! :HUG
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Great news, s_kristina! Glad to hear some things are improving for you and your family! Medicaid approval is a big thing, I know... :

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Hey mama Satori,

Will it be a better option for your family if you get a P.O. Box? This way there will be no more mail lost or dropped. Goodness, mail is pretty important to have it "dropped"!
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Originally Posted by mrskennedy View Post
: The lottery would be nice...

Oh wait... Then we'd have to pay taxes on it, and so we'd only end up with half! :

, mamas!

Oh yeah you are right. That would just be aweful.
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I totally relate. If only most people could do their jobs correctly most of the time (we all are allowed a few bad days right?), I swear I'd have half the anxiety!
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Originally Posted by mrskennedy View Post
: The lottery would be nice...

Oh wait... Then we'd have to pay taxes on it, and so we'd only end up with half! :

, mamas!
Plus, the stats on lotto winners that declare bankruptcy are staggering!
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Satori.

I am so sorry! That just sounds so stressful! Do something that you like to relax! Take a bath, read a good book, watch bad tv....whatever it is that makes you feel a little better!
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Originally Posted by chanibell View Post
Hey mama Satori,

Will it be a better option for your family if you get a P.O. Box? This way there will be no more mail lost or dropped. Goodness, mail is pretty important to have it "dropped"!
Its on my list of things to get/do but I need the $ from the check first
post #218 of 384
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Originally Posted by JesseMomme View Post
I totally relate. If only most people could do their jobs correctly most of the time (we all are allowed a few bad days right?), I swear I'd have half the anxiety!
: I believe that the people responsible for getting us our FS, CashAid, Financial Aid, etc should not get paid until they complete the job of getting people the benefits they qualify for & need (and have applied for). Maybe then there wouldn't be so much, oh I just didn't get to your file yet OR I lost that paystub yo gave me & need another one. :
post #219 of 384
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The problem is DSHS has problems getting skilled workers. Most of the people working for DSHS are grossly underpaid (at least in this state) that they qualify for benefits themselves so know one with the skills wants the job.

When I graduated from college a zillion years ago, I got hired as a Social worker with DSHS. The pay was so low, that I could not pay for before and after school care which was not that much plus I would qualify for food stamps and I had to sign a contract that I would get my master's in 3 years. Yes, I passed up the job. So they get a lot of unqualified people working for them.

Personal experience, I was a Family Advocate and State lobbyist for children and low income people. My pay sucked but I loved the job. One of the things I did was teach classes on how to apply for Food stamps, survive on the money that you got blah blah (because you all know its a hard system to figure out) anyway I had this woman in my class and OH MY LORD she was not bright at all. She could not understand the simplest things. Fine we cannot all be Einsteins and I never held it against her. Anyway, I ended up having emergency surgery and the hospital did not get the HMO to sign off on it and I wound up with a $32,000 medical bill and between my husband and me we made $16,000 that year. so I applied for help at DSHS and guess who my case worker was??? This rock that I had in my class 6 months before got hired by the state. I swear she could not add 2 plus 2 with out a calculator and that would take her an hour to figure out how to turn it on. She messed up my case so badly. It took about 12 months to sort everything out.I had to appeal everything. It was so stressful. The thing was I had the inside scoop to her boss etc. because this is what I did for a living so I knew everyone personally for the county I was in and even knew people at the state level and it took a year to straighten up. If you are Joe Smull off the street with no inside help what the heck would you do?

Anyway the state needs to pay people a living wage so that they get qualified people to work for them in turn can help the people that need the help to get them back on their feet. Its a win win situation. I use to have numbers and pretty graphs too in the long run how much the state would save in 10 years and how much better off society would be.
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