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post #321 of 384
things I am grateful for today:

1) that my mom came to give me a jump start when I was stuck at the gas pump at safeway for an hour with five kids, one diaper, and no way home when my husband (seperated)couldn't care less that we were stranded in 49 degree weather.

2) that my mom stayed with me til 10 tonight after we got home and I almost had a nervous breakdown, she held the baby while I got dinner done, did dishes, washed a pair of longies, and actually got to read a story to the kids before bed.

3) that my mom talked to me on the phone for 2 hours tonight(after she got home from my house), talked me down from the craziness I was feeling about really doing this on my own for the rest of my life.
post #322 of 384
Hello everyone. I've never been in this forum before, and this thread seems like one I fit in on, sadly.

I should be asleep, so I won't get into things now, though. lol

Three things I'm grateful for
1) my kids dental surgery went well on Wednesday and they're both totally recovered today
2) h took both boys out to get some groceries at superstore and I got a couple of hours alone
3) both boys went to sleep really easily tonight

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Originally Posted by chely7425 View Post
Now I have a question... do any of you mama's make wraps or slings or diapers? I am starting the hunt for these things for my bean and I would love to buy from a WAHM and know I am supporting someone who needs it!!!!
I've made 3 mai tai's to sell. My mom bought the fabric and I'm supposed to pay her for it when I sell them. Haven't managed to yet, though. I've been trying to get dh to find the disk with the pictures so I can put them up on TBW.

Actually, I also have some diapers I started making about 6 years ago.
post #323 of 384
Sandygirl-----thyroid issues are SO hard. I almost lost my life 16 years ago, and did lose the life of my dd, because of thyroid disease. Check out Stopthe ThyroidMadness. Its a life saver.

Well, you would think my life couldn't be any more financially difficult......................................... .................................................. ...............................yeah, right.

:

I think my poverty defines me at times. And the discrimination is outrageous.

I feel a need to list three things I am grateful for:
1. my CSA share is so bright and colorful. It makes me happy just looking at it, let alone eating it!
2. My new thyroid meds are working! I feel physically and mentally better than I have in years!
3. Spoke with three of my professors this past week and they were all so supportive and understanding.

but!!!!!! I am almost out of TP and I have a gaggle of girls coming for a sleepover. I'll have to grab my largest purse........

I can't afford to buy my dd what I wanted to get her for her b=day

all my dd's friends are rich! their parents will be dropping them off at our little poor house. I am feeling SO exposed!

But her friends are fun little people.
I love my DD's
My animals keep me laughing, amused, feeling loved, and WARM!
If its all too much and I find a need to take to my bed, I put my favorite sheets on my bed that I dried on the line!!!! I can be depressed in yummy smelling comfort!

ediesmom
post #324 of 384
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Originally Posted by chely7425 View Post
Now I have a question... do any of you mama's make wraps or slings or diapers? I am starting the hunt for these things for my bean and I would love to buy from a WAHM and know I am supporting someone who needs it!!!!
NOt only do I make them I've got some sale prices at the moment. I have some rings from sling rings and they have changed up the size so I'm trying to get all my inventory up to date with what I can currently order. I would also highly suggest checking out the WAHM connection in the WAHM Well down at the bottom of the page. There are tons of listings there for WAHMs that post here on MDC.
post #325 of 384
I had some good finds last night while getting Halloween stuff. I just happened to pass a super cheap fabric table and found light blue cotton for under $1 a yard that dd said would be perfect for her Cinderella dress. The fabric store is right up the road from us and the full time employees know me. The only guy that works there reminded me last night that I really need to get some business cards done up as they have several openings on their display for putting cards in. My dh was also very sweet last night and ran to get me a slurpee as I am having trouble getting any liquids in. When I said I thought that might work he was out the door at 9pm. I also found some old 3T size pants of dd's that I had boxed up and couldn't find. They are going to work great for ds and now he only needs a couple more pairs of pants. Since we still have to figure out pants for dd that was a big help. It's a huge pain finding clothes that fit her decently so I may end up making her some cords again if I can find decent priced material.
post #326 of 384
s ediesmom ~ I had no idea.




I just spent a ridiculous amount of money getting a cell phone because the company requires an insanely huge deposit, because my credit rating is so low ~~ I drained my savings and most of what I had left from my last financial aid check to cover it... BUT One huge thing I'm grateful for is that I got my next financial aid check!! So I don't have to worry about making it until next month. (I still don't know how I'm going to manage to save enough money to move when I transfer, but --- that's barely even on my radar at the moment... yk how it is )

I wouldn't have gotten one, except I no longer have anyone else I can rely on in case my kids get sick / hurt / whatever at school ~ the last one finally told me, "this is getting ridiculous, I'll just buy you one and pay your bill on it" -- and there's no way I could let him do that, because he's the type of person to use that as an excuse to get into all my finances, personal phone bills, etc. SO ~ hence why I shelled out way to freaking much money for a basic phone with the cheapest plan. Ergh.


Anyhow. :
post #327 of 384
OK, I still can't figure out how to multi-quote so let me just give hugs to all of you mamas that are struggling right now. Life stuff can be such a PITA sometimes.

DH did the budget last night and it looks like we're pretty broke again. It sucks never being able to get ahead. But I suppose things could be worse...
post #328 of 384
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}



Welcome new moms!



Ediesmom... just remember RICH does NOT = Out of debt, happy or better than you.

For all you know those little girls may think you are the greatest thing ever and wish they could live with you!

Maybe you will be able to get the gift in December.




Mamamoo.... BTDT How are you doing today?










My hubby's well paying contract will be ending next month, so we are not sure if he is going to look for a new one, do school again, or go back to FT self employed again.

Ooh and a near $500 per MONTH student loan repayments starts Dec/Jan. :

That's exciting.



Three things I am grateful for:

1.) That I have gifts for my middle son's upcoming bday.

2.) We have food and it's even yummy.

3.) That I won't need to pull out my "big" purse anytime soon. I did that ALOT when I was a kid/teen... too embarressed to ask family for help and I was alone alot.



More {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} to anyone I missed!



Anyone have any goals for November?
post #329 of 384
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Originally Posted by Aura_Kitten View Post
I just spent a ridiculous amount of money getting a cell phone because the company requires an insanely huge deposit, because my credit rating is so low ~~ I drained my savings and most of what I had left from my last financial aid check to cover it... BUT One huge thing I'm grateful for is that I got my next financial aid check!! So I don't have to worry about making it until next month. (I still don't know how I'm going to manage to save enough money to move when I transfer, but --- that's barely even on my radar at the moment... yk how it is )

I wouldn't have gotten one, except I no longer have anyone else I can rely on in case my kids get sick / hurt / whatever at school ~ the last one finally told me, "this is getting ridiculous, I'll just buy you one and pay your bill on it" -- and there's no way I could let him do that, because he's the type of person to use that as an excuse to get into all my finances, personal phone bills, etc. SO ~ hence why I shelled out way to freaking much money for a basic phone with the cheapest plan. Ergh.
Do you have a day or so that you can cancel for a refund? If so I HIGHLY recommend getting a Tracfone, they are the prepaid cells and they rock. It's all DH & I have ever had. No contract or credit check required. If you have a Walmart around (I imagine Target, Radio Shack, etc also sell them...) the phone itself should run you about $40'ish. We get the 1 yr of service/ doubler card for $100. That comes with a bunch of minutes. I'm still using my minutes from last year & I'm about to need to get a new card in a couplmonths. DH, who uses his phone constantly, gets a $20 card for 120 min (but really 240 since it's doubled!) every 3-4 months or so. I figured & it's about $20/mo for both of us and we use the phones all we want. We're not scrimping on minutes or anything.

Anyway, if you have a grace period & can pull out of the contract without loosing a lot of $$$ you might want to look into them.
post #330 of 384
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Originally Posted by Thystle View Post
Anyone have any goals for November?
(1) Finish up 2-3 sections on my MT training.
(2) Get the garage cleaned (currently our storage area...)
(3) Get organized for Christmas -- start making presents, buy a few things here and there are the budget allows, scour our storage for good stuff to regift...
(4) Finish winterizing our house before it snows.
(5) Start getting up at DD2's last waking (about 5am) and exercise, do my Bible study, prep for the day, etc while everyone else is still sleeping.
post #331 of 384
arghhhhh!!! I gotta vent!

I applied for FS & TANF on the 20th at an expo, got a letter today saying my walk-in appt is the 5th!!!!! This is supposedly for expidited benefits????? If I had just waited until the 22nd, I could have done it all in 1 day anyways. I was trying to avoid going to this office - it's filthy and reeks of mold, not to mention it's crammed with homeless people {no offense meant} and I get sick everytime I go there.

I'm litterly pulling my hair out - I needed those FS NOW to pay for food that DD can eat {severe food allergies} and needed her medicaid to cover the rest of her perscription formula.

And the worst part of it is, drumroll please...........is that the food bank was the one who filled out and turned in my application. So the food bank cost me 2 full weeks of food for the 2 of us. And 99% of the local food pantries want proof on income/benefits before you can get anything.
post #332 of 384
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Originally Posted by sandygirl View Post
arghhhhh!!! I gotta vent!

I applied for FS & TANF on the 20th at an expo, got a letter today saying my walk-in appt is the 5th!!!!! This is supposedly for expidited benefits????? If I had just waited until the 22nd, I could have done it all in 1 day anyways. I was trying to avoid going to this office - it's filthy and reeks of mold, not to mention it's crammed with homeless people {no offense meant} and I get sick everytime I go there.

I'm litterly pulling my hair out - I needed those FS NOW to pay for food that DD can eat {severe food allergies} and needed her medicaid to cover the rest of her perscription formula.

And the worst part of it is, drumroll please...........is that the food bank was the one who filled out and turned in my application. So the food bank cost me 2 full weeks of food for the 2 of us. And 99% of the local food pantries want proof on income/benefits before you can get anything.



{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I have a friend here that found out the "emergency" food stamps can take up to TWO months to get!


Are there any medical food programs where you are at that pay for special needs kids? Is there a number for a Medicaid advocacy in your area?



Catholic Charities... Salvation Army? 211?
post #333 of 384
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Originally Posted by Thystle View Post
{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I have a friend here that found out the "emergency" food stamps can take up to TWO months to get!


Are there any medical food programs where you are at that pay for special needs kids? Is there a number for a Medicaid advocacy in your area?


Catholic Charities... Salvation Army? 211?

everything you've listed {and others locally} all want proof of benefits before they willl help.

I can get maybe 1 more sample can from DD's pedi - she gave me our current one and luckily we are only using it to supplement right now.

oh and it's going to screw up our WIC too - that appt is the 3rd. They want proof of benefits too Guess I'll be calling them on monday to get it moved back too.
post #334 of 384
Hi. I'm reading along... I've never really noticed this thread before (I tend to hide in places that are already known to be... less than scary) but I definately belong. Only, I have nothing remotely happy to say.. So I'm just gonna lurk a bit.
post #335 of 384
Welcome, sandygirl! That sucks about your food stamps. Are you sure that's expedited? When mine were I didn't have to see anyone at the office. Different places seem to have different rules, though. I hope you can make it until then. I would go to WIC and tell them you have the app't two days later for food stamps. You don't get Medicaid? Because that should be proof enough for WIC (unless you don't get it, I don' t know). I think you should try some charities and just explain the situation to them. It's gotta happen a lot, I would think. Good luck.

Well, the garage sale was a pretty big success today. I made almost $180, which brings me a lot closer to this month's rent. DD's grandpa also told me that he will give me the rest, so that I can pay my rent (that's her wacko dad's dad). So, between that and the scholarship that will be coming, I have some time to find a job that will work with my schedule (and dd's), pay enough for bills, but not too much for food stamps amd Medicaid (though I doubt I have to worry about that, I'm not qualified for a very good paying job.).

I might try to teach myself to sew, with a sewing machine that dd's grandpa (the awesome, generous one) tried to sell today. I have never tried before, btu figure it might be a good thing to do, right? It seems like a lot of mamas on here sew. I could make clothes for dd and I, maybe doll clothes, actually mend things.

SO my November goals, fo rnow, I'm thinking - find a job and learn to sew, oh, and keep up with school work. I turned in an embarrasingly bad paper the other day. SO bad, really. At this point, just passing the class would be great (and I'm confident that I will). Not so obsessed with getting As this term.
post #336 of 384
I am working on the whole learning to sew thing too!! I am hoping that maybe if I can prove to my mom I am semi-competent on her machine she will consider getting me one of my own this summer for my birthday... My HUGE positive for the day is that one of the amazing mama's on here (mommyddeville) is going to send me some fabric!!!! That and I am finally making some headway getting our room at my moms sorted out... I guess I should do 3 things I am thankful for:

1. My mom letting us stay here for nothing even though we try and help with groceries but it doesn't always happen
2. Free fabric!!
3. My boyfriend being great and willing to drive an extra 1.5-2 hours to work everyday so we can stay with my family and not be absolutely destitue
post #337 of 384
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Originally Posted by LankyLizards View Post
Welcome, sandygirl! That sucks about your food stamps. Are you sure that's expedited? When mine were I didn't have to see anyone at the office. Different places seem to have different rules, though. I hope you can make it until then. I would go to WIC and tell them you have the app't two days later for food stamps. You don't get Medicaid? Because that should be proof enough for WIC (unless you don't get it, I don' t know). I think you should try some charities and just explain the situation to them. It's gotta happen a lot, I would think. Good luck.
I will be getting medicaid, but that is in process too. I've got 1 or 2 places that might be able to help some - a local church runs a pantry but I've never tried them and with DD's allergy issues we tend to get a lot of misses for fod items.

Expidited for us is same day as appt/walk in. Thats part of why I'm Peeved because I could have waited 48 hours, went and stood in line all day, and got my benefits back on the 22nd. we could be eating good meals again, instead of beans and pasta with the cheapest meat I can find.

I'm going to try just going in monday to DHS and saying "Look, I have a walk in appt for the 5th. I need this now and I'm going to be out of town on the 5th anyways. Can I just do the walk in appt now?" I hope that works since I don't even have a caseworker yet - just the pooled ones.

Congrats on the garage sale - I've been trying to sell stuff on craigslist but had a lot of no-shows. I'm probably going to have a garage sale next weekend myself - I need the funds now more than ever.

And sewing is easy - if you want to learn very cheaply, check our your local county extension office {and yes cities have these too}. I learned for the grand sum of $5 for around 15 lessons, and we learned how to sew just about anything.
post #338 of 384
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Originally Posted by janerose View Post
Do you have a day or so that you can cancel for a refund? If so I HIGHLY recommend getting a Tracfone, they are the prepaid cells and they rock. It's all DH & I have ever had. No contract or credit check required. If you have a Walmart around (I imagine Target, Radio Shack, etc also sell them...) the phone itself should run you about $40'ish. We get the 1 yr of service/ doubler card for $100. That comes with a bunch of minutes. I'm still using my minutes from last year & I'm about to need to get a new card in a couplmonths. DH, who uses his phone constantly, gets a $20 card for 120 min (but really 240 since it's doubled!) every 3-4 months or so. I figured & it's about $20/mo for both of us and we use the phones all we want. We're not scrimping on minutes or anything.

Anyway, if you have a grace period & can pull out of the contract without loosing a lot of $$$ you might want to look into them.

Thanks but I had a tracfone, there is NO reception for it out here. It just doesn't work, period, in this locale ~ too far from their towers and too many hills plus crap service all around.


Thystle ~ goal for November: NaNoWriMo!!!! (Again ) (If you don't know what it is, check it out ~ nanowrimo.org )





I need a cup of coffee. Will be back later...
post #339 of 384
Three things I am grateful for:

That we made it to the end of the month without needing to borrow money.

That we still have quite a bit of food stamp money left for this month!

That my 9yo daughter is back home with me.. to stay!

Goals for November:

To start getting Yule presents for my kids

To keep up with the things I've worked hard to keep doing even as the weather gets crappy.... playgroup, the YMCA, library trips.

To start packing my hospital bag

To become involved with my dd's school, now that I'll be able to be an active part of it.
post #340 of 384
Aura_Kitten Have you checked to see what kind of reception the Go Phones from Cingular/AT&T have? We couldn't afford the deposit on a cell phone either, but really needed one when we were living in a hotel for far too long. We ended up with dh picking out a Go Phone online and getting a monthly plan on it. The money comes out of the bank account monthly, but you can also buy a card to refill the minutes on it. We had cell phones with BellSouth that became Cingular then didn't renew the contract. A couple years later we ended up with the Go Phone and it has worked really well for us. It's really a must for dh now with work although I still wish we could get by on less minutes, but I think we are on the cheapest monthly plan they have.
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