Originally Posted by alegna
BUT- a HUGE portion of the population doesn't yet know that anything is going on and are going to be offended.
Some people are very offended to have their world-view challenged. We can be gentle in our wording, but some of that is still going to happen.
I agree that people are often resistant to having their world view challenged, but if a woman is offended by this song, I don't think that's necessarily going on here. I think the offense may be coming more from a place of pain and feelings of being let down by the very establishment that promotes itself as the group who is there to help us through in case we cross harm's path.
I've had 2 c/s births. The first was absolutely unnecessary, I believe. The pain and trauma I went though with that was horrible and I lost a lot of faith in both my ob/gyn of 10 years and the medical industry as a whole. If I had heard that song anytime with in the first 2 yrs after that birth, I probably would have been terribly hurt and offended, as I was still processing the pain of my experience and I was not yet through it.
But that experience led me to a place of trusting my intuition and with my next pregnancy, and I planned for an HBAC. I didn't go into labor until 42.5 weeks, but it eventually happened and although I labored at home until I was completely dilated, my very anti-hospital birth MW advised I transfer due to dangerously low decels (50bpm). So I transfered. And I had another c/s. Something in my intuition told me he just wasn't going to come out on his own without some sort of serious trauma. I was right. The cord was not only compressed, but around his neck twice, in a way that my MW would not have been able to unwrap it properly. In that case, the c/s was necessary and the fact that I was in control of the situation and I made all the decisions made it an unexpectedly healing experience for me. I did trust my intuition and I did the right thing for my baby boy.
So now that I have been through all of that, I am able to hear/read a song like that and I am able to nod in agreement, even though I've never had a vaginal birth. But I can only do that because I've worked through my own pain and those wounds have healed.
But you know... you just never know why someone is offended by something. Because after writing all of that, I am recalling a woman I know who had an elective c/s because wanted to be "in control" of the whole experience. and she would likely be offended by the song, because it does challenge her world view. So I suppose Angela is not really off base. But that's not the only reason a person would be offended. Sometimes, there's just too much pain to be able to see the humor in something.