She asked if I was disapointed?! wth?

[kleines]

An acquaintance happened to call today that I haven't talked to in more than a year. I told her I was due with a baby boy anytime. She asked if I was disappointed that I didn't get a girl, and said we would probably have to try again for that girl She said "two boys will be such a handful, really you should have had a girl!" Um, okay! I almost poo'd in my pants right there. Why on earth would I be unhappy. I feel so blessed to be able to HAVE children.

It was another time when I was just speechless. geesh.

[pbjmom1029]

some people are so funny about that !!!

we are personally thrilled to be having another boy - we were not keen on the thought of having a teenaged daughter living at home (with no other siblings) during our late 50's - I think for us that thinking (hoping for a boy) was due to us having a teenaged dd at home right now (with a 10 yr old sister too wise for her years trailing right behind). Our ds was SO much easier at this age (and much cheaper too!)

you are right - just having a child to raise is a blessing in itself - regardless of their gender - sheesh!

[Usually Curious]

I was disappointed to be having another boy. It didn't last long but I'm not going to lie and say I wasn't. This is my fifth child, my fourth boy. I have such a special relationship w/my dd (17yo) and really desire another girl for that reason. She will be grown and gone soon and I will be sorely outnumbered by four sons and a husband!

While I am happy to be having a boy, especially because my 20mos will have a fabulous playmate, I do desire another girl. My dd, on the other hand, was TICKED. She was mad for three days! She wants a doll to dress and teach girly stuff. Oy vey! I tell her that she'll probably have oodles of girls and that will be much more fun for her. And me too, I will only have to spoil and buy pretty, smocked dresses for granddaughters - she can deal with the yucky teenage stuff!

[mittendrin]

I was disappointed at first too, the third boy! But first of all, I got over it quickly, relieved to know it's not a puppy : and second it's mom's business how she feels about the baby when she finds out she's pregnant, finds out the gender, etc.... What do people think, just because the baby isn't out yet they have the right to know about you feelings, weight, discharge and financial situation? It seems like that to me...: :

Whenever someone tells me I need to try for a fourth because I "need a girl" or because "3 is not a good number" or any other BS they can come up with I get really mad. Sometimes I politely let them know that dh had a vasectomy. When they feel sorry about me having 3 boys I let them know that I think I am better off, cause from what everyone tells me boys are harder to handle initially but when they turn into teenagers the girls are getting crazy and the boys settle down. Which is just as idiotic of a statement than bringing up the issue of which gender is easier to raise in the first place but it so seems to satisfy people to be able to chat about stupid clichees (sp) it's just too amazing!

Then it also depends who's making remarks. If it's someone I know passing me on the street I am usually too baffled about their rudeness to reply anything but if it's people I know who are getting on my nerves I need to say something about it.

Btw, I am thrilled about having a third boy now, really!!!

[fihz]

For us, a fifth boy was a great thing. Although I would've loved the frilly stuff, I think all boys are a blast!!! My mom, OTOH, still asks me if I'm*sure* it's a boy... we'll see when he's born, but yeah, I'M sure!!

[Jenlaana]

I must have bad luck with boys. My DS drives me CRAZY lol. He's 12 and thinks he knows everything. He's always been in "boy trouble" with his attitude/bad language/tough guy act since he first started school (and its not like we ever lived in a "tough neighborhood" where that would be necessary) I just grounded him yesterday because it was the only tool I had left at my disposal (which is my last resort because I hate to)

My 2 yr old DD is an absolute gem though. I love both my kids, but while he was climbing the walls and already getting in trouble at daycare at 2 yrs, my DD can happily sit on the carpet and play for 20 minutes at a time without fail and is only hard to handle when DS gets her riled up rough housing or she's tired/hungry.

I'm having another girl, and was terrified that I would have another boy and someone would have to commit me because I'd go crazy here w/ the 3 of them, lol.

[kleines]

I would have loved a girl, but I also love my boys! Mostly I just meant that I feel so lucky to have children. I thought DS1 was a girl, so it was a little dispointment/shock to me. I got over that so fast though. This time, I knew it was a boy.. so I wasn't surprised. I just mean that I am happy with what I have and I couldn't ask for more. I thought it was rude to ask the way she did. If she would have asked "were you a little disapointed to not have a girl, or did you care?" I wouldn't have been upset. I guess it was the just the way she said it. IDK! I felt like she was saying my baby isn't wanted or something.

[Dena]

I hear you, Bonnie. Both my girls were conceived through IVF, and we feel so very blessed just to have them that nothing else really matters. I mean, yeah, I would have loved to have had a boy, but bottom line, as long as my baby is healthy, it just doesn't matter to me.

I think what got to me about your friend's statement was where she said you really should have had a girl. Like it was within your control and she expected you to be bitter or something. People are odd.

[JessicaDixon]

I understand your feelings, because boy or girl if the baby is happy and healthy etc, sex shouldnt matter....but on the other hand I have heard VERY wild stories...that I cannot even begin to wrap my mind around....

One of which was my ex MIL (my ex husbands mom) told me that she adopted my ex...which I already knew..but also went on to tell me that she was an aquintance with his biological mother...at the time my ex's adopted mother couldnt concieve....anyways the two (adopted & bilogical moms) were at a party for something when the biological mom told the adopted mom she was pregnant again, and that if it was a boy she was giving the baby up for adoption as she did not want a boy...The adopted mom told the biological mom if that was the case to call her because she wanted the baby, ended up being a boy and that is how my ex MIL adopted my ex...

There are many other stories like this that I have heard that I can not stand to hear...the ones filled almost with hate towards a baby that turns out not being the sex the parents want it is truly very sad.

*NOTE--I am NOT saying anything bad about those that are upset for a bit when they find out the baby isnt the sex they would have preferred...I am talking only of those that do not change their minds and do not get over it, to me I can not see how a parent could not love ANY child they made.

[mamabearsoblessed]

. Regarding your aquaintance OP...some people are just completely void of what is important.
Is she a parent?

Bonnie.

[gypsyfaery]

I get that too... the sad, sad looks when I tell people it is going to be a girl (our third). I am delighted with another girl and so is DH. I always try to respond with "thank goodness for girls, I wouldn't know what to do with a penis anyhow!!" and usually people are so taken back by my bluntness that it is dropped quickly.

I am also feeling just fortunate to have children!!!

PEOPLE! :

[firstkid4me]

Originally Posted by gypsyfaery

I get that too... the sad, sad looks when I tell people it is going to be a girl (our third). I am delighted with another girl and so is DH. I always try to respond with "thank goodness for girls, I wouldn't know what to do with a penis anyhow!!" and usually people are so taken back by my bluntness that it is dropped quickly.

I am also feeling just fortunate to have children!!!

PEOPLE! :

I don't know what to do with little boys either! The ultrasound tech said the baby is a girl (but looking at the pics, we're not convinced. The way things are laid out, 2 dots, leg blocking full view. We've always heard 3 dots=boy, 3 lines=girl, but what about 2 dots? LOL.) We're trying to prepare for a surprise. Honestly, our 2 year old is sooooo boyish! On Sunday, dh was watching a football game and Emily was pretending to play with them! (It was so cute, she was in a little Packers jersey, sunglasses on, she'd say "Ready!" put her head down, little fists up, "Set go!" and run across the living room.) She likes her princess stuff too, but we feel like we got our tomboy to do sports with and our little princess, so we have the best of both worlds