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post #121 of 147
Hey operamommy, I'm here too. I figure the noise level alone qualifies us as a large family.

Phathui5, when you include the grownups then a simple sandwich lunch consists of 12 rounds of bread with filling, a quarter of a pound of cheese, nearly half a fruit cake and half a dozen apples cut into slices.
post #122 of 147
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Just found this thread! Does almost-four count as "many?"

Looking forward to getting some advice from other mamas. I feel like I run around like a chicken with its head cut off all day and still nothing gets done. I'm starting to feel nervous about how I'm going to cope with a new babe in the house too!

I hope so because that's me!


Did any of you watch tlc's show this week of the large family? I usually enjoy watching these families. I'm trying to pick up tips and such. This last family (the Winter's) was hard to watch. I felt like the mom was really a mom of 12 because they portrayed her husband as rather clueless.
post #123 of 147
subbing

Hi, I am a mom of 8 and trying for 9. we live in too much space to keep clean and live in chaos most of the time. Glad to see other moms wiht lots of children
post #124 of 147
mclisa - I saw that. The husband did seem very scattered.

zonapellucida - Welcome! How old are your children, if you don't mind me asking.
post #125 of 147
New member here: mom to 3 ds, (ages 9, 5, and 1) and dd (age 7). My kiddos are deep into figuring out what Halloween costumes they can create from the contents of the big ol' rubbermaid box that is "the costume collection" (say it like "the Adolfo collection" and it sounds right...) And I'm deep into figuring out how NOT to be tempted to dig into all that candy that will arrive on Halloween, not to mention the leftovers of our give-away bowl...

But on the subject of Christmas giving with family members, I have a similar experience to someone else on the list. With four children, I have THE big family in our extended clan. A few years ago, my extended family agreed to do only whole-family gifts for us, and we reciprocate. It started with my SIL telling us that she was planning on getting us a museum membership or a zoo membership, which would the kids prefer? It was that easy. We've given whole-family gifts of things like a DVD or a really interesting book to read aloud as a family, or membership to a museum in the area where the family lives. These seem to be well-loved.
post #126 of 147
Oh, me too! I want to join. Well, we have four kids of our own and at the moment, a couple of extra staying for awhile. I just tried to take a nap, but just when and I and the two youngest fell asleep, and I mean not thirty seconds later, my four yr old had to potty....then the baby woke up because I was out of bed. Sigh. No nap for mommy.
post #127 of 147
As one of five children myself, at christmas we all draw names for christmas eve at my moms. That has worked well for the adults, then we all buy for all the kids. That worked until I had twice as many kids as everyone else. I felt guilty because they all had to spend twice as much. There is also the issue of gift appropriateness. LIke the year my sister got my two year old dd a barbie video. that set my teeth on edge. (it quietly disapeared). Anyway, this year my mom had a brillant idea to copy my stepdads family. Stepdad is one of twelve and then they all have kids and many of the kids now have kids. WAAAAAAAAAy to many to buy for individually. They do a white elephant exchange and everyone brings one gift for each of their own children. That way, each child has one gift to open AND they get something you want them to have. I thought it was a great idea. Although the whole family gift is a good idea too. That takes care of my side of the family. I'm always trying to find inexpensive but still meaningful gifts for all my nieces and nephews on DH's side.I don't always feel like we can afford to buy for everyone, but if they do it for us, then I feel obligated and we have some relatives that do it no matter what you tell them. Is it selfish that I'd rather spend out limited budget on my own kids?
post #128 of 147
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mclisa - I saw that. The husband did seem very scattered.

That's an excellent way to phrase it.
post #129 of 147
We just have way too many Christmases.

My mom's siblings all get together on Christmas Day (a tradition that goes back to when their mom was alive). At one point we drew names for each other between aunts, uncles, and cousins. Then it was just the cousins exchanging gifts. Now all of the cousins are in their 20's and 30's and dropped doing that, but since some of us have kids there is this feeling that it wouldn't be Christmas without the kids opening gifts. (ummm, didn't they do that this morning with their parents?) So now we might have them exchange names. No one has brought it up too much because my cousin recently married and we haven't had a chance to get to know his wife well because they live across the state. She has 2 kids by a previous marriage and no one wants to step on toes...yada yada yada.

Someone just crashed literally. That's not good right before bed.
post #130 of 147
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mclisa - I saw that. The husband did seem very scattered.

zonapellucida - Welcome! How old are your children, if you don't mind me asking.
DS 18, dd 16, dd 10, dd 9, dd 6, dd 4, ds 2, ds 1 yep thats it! My name is Heidi if you would like to use it
post #131 of 147
Heidi: do you homeschool? What do you do differently now then you did with your older couple of kids.
post #132 of 147
I HS and I cloth diaper which I didn't do with my first two kids. I am much more of a hippie now than I was: ebf, co-sleep, un-poo, homebirth and live as nauturally as I can. When I was going to Smith it was all about image and now I could care less. This Chritmas Everyone is getting Toys form Hyena Cart, LOL and my 16 a tatoo. No more plastic.

I get more radical evry day
post #133 of 147
Heidi - glad to see I'm not the only one getting crunchier by the second (much to the chagrin of my teens - "God, Mom, you are SUCH a hippie...)

With my first two, I was very influenced by the opinions of other people about my parenting philosophies...I actually had my first son circumsized because my father told me that if it was good enough for Jesus...

I was 18...and still did what my father told me. I have 3 more boys - none of whom are circed...A sidenote: someone once asked me if the boys minded that my oldest was and the rest weren't. I said, "Of course not, and if someone has boys who are standing around with their pants down comparing penises, then they probably have a larger issue to worry about!"

I hardly think the fact that one boy has a circ is a reason to make them all suffer!:-)

Anyway - thanks for your post!
-Mish
post #134 of 147
Toys form Hyena Cart

off to go look that up!
post #135 of 147
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Hey operamommy, I'm here too. I figure the noise level alone qualifies us as a large family.
Oh my gosh, the NOISE. Sometimes I feel like I have 20 kids in my living-room between dd crawling around barking like a puppy, ds1 complaining that ds2 took his Star Wars ship (again!), and ds2 just generally being a loud toddler. It really makes me wish we had a second family room or play room sometimes!

Does anyone have any laundry tips? We've figured out that currently (this includes diaper laundry) that I need to do 3 loads per day every day in order to keep up. Most days I don't get that done, so we always have a huge mountain of dirty clothes in the basement. I don't even want to *think* about the amount of dirties once the new guy arrives.
post #136 of 147
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OMG the NOISE. The screaming. All talking at once. Everyone crying, yelling, arguing. Especially while I'm on the phone.
post #137 of 147
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Originally Posted by operamommy View Post
Does anyone have any laundry tips? We've figured out that currently (this includes diaper laundry) that I need to do 3 loads per day every day in order to keep up. Most days I don't get that done, so we always have a huge mountain of dirty clothes in the basement. I don't even want to *think* about the amount of dirties once the new guy arrives.
My only tip is this: purge the clothes. You may still need to do 3 loads per day but you won't also have a huge pile of stuff waiting for processing as well as clean cothes in drawers taking up space.

There are some big od threads on MHM about this. I'll see if I can find one and post a link for you
post #138 of 147
I haven't posted much lately but I wanted to chime in on the noise. It is so loud here even when noone in particluar is loud or practicing piano. I have actually thought about dropping lessons just so that I can have less piano playing loudness.

I also agree with purging the laundry. Easier to organize and no piles of it sitting around. I often have loads in both the washer and dryer and on the lines but even with 5 children we all use one hamper plus diaper pail. The diaper pail fills daily though hopefully soon it will take 2 days. When the hamper is a bit over full I have two full loads (darks and lights). I do sheets and bath towels on an as needed basis but we definitely reuse them between washings. Any wet/swim laundry is done right away so I don't forget about it. Kitchen towels and washrags are done about twice a week, when I smell the basket the dirties are kept in (on the dryer).

What I need tips on is how to find a small, daily chunks of down time so that I can replenish myself. I am always multitasking, thinking ahead, preventing problems, etc, and I am so exhausted all the time. The littlest thing is so big to me in this state. Like right now, I am listening to piano practice, nursing the baby, monitoring a 2 yo in panties (day 10), simmering a spag sauce, and timing a shower to make it sure it doesn't last too long. Oh yeah, and typing to you guys. Maybe I should just get off-line?
post #139 of 147
No- use the computer to time the shower, put the 2yo in the shower with the big kid, buy a crock pot or put the spag sauce in the oven and make yourself a cup of tea and ENJOY talking to us

Laundry- I dunno. I have four baskets full of dirty clothes that I raked out from under my bed, so I'm not really someone to pass advice. (I do have two full baskets of clean clothes, though.
post #140 of 147
I like the way you think. The tea is tasty.

Noise and laundry always, always multi-tasking may be the downside but always having a 3 or 4 yo in the house means there are so many cute stories to tell.

"Does that sign mean you can't plug anything in at that house momma?"
"What sign?"
"The one that says NO OUTLET."
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