(It was suggested I cross post here, from the childhood forum)
My dd is 4 years and 3 months old. Strangers can't understand what she says the majority of the time. They can pick out bits and pieces but often not the whole concept of what she's saying. dd also seems to talk fast, skip words or parts of words completely, trail sentences off without finishing them, and say incomplete thoughts and random sentences out of context all the time. We have gotten used to a lot of what she does, but it become quite evident when we're out with others that she isn't intelligible all the time. Its almost as if she expects that you know what she's saying. When she only gives a piece of the sentence.
She often has trouble with even one step commands, she seems confused and takes a while and many repeats. "Hand me the pink shoe." can take forever for her to comply. She stares looking for it. Spins around in circles. Looks but doesn't seem to SEE whats in front of her. Since the pink shoe is right there on the uncluttered floor.. So two and three step commands are near impossible for her. She is stumped on one step. She listens but often doesn't hear. kwim?
If I tell her, "Look! A dog!" and point to the dog that you can see standing in the street. She doesn't look at where I'm pointing no matter how many times I try to point something out to her, she will look in every direction BUT where I'm pointing. I have to physically get down to her level, sight my arm with her eye.. and *point* the dog out to her again. And it takes her a few seconds before she can finally see it. We're not talking about something far away here or hard to see. My 20 month old was yelling "dog! dog!" because she saw it. This isn't isolated either. This happens daily. She will say "Oh I see" when its clear she hasn't seen the dog because I can still see her searching.
So I decided to write down a few things that dd says in an attempt to see if others have 4+ year olds doing this kind of language thing.
I do believe my dd to have sensory issues and will be talking with her pediatrician soon as there are a lot of concerns in that area. However I am concerned about her language. Specifically her ability to understand what I'm saying and formulate a response. Having a conversation just doesn't happen with her. She can't stay on topic.. she interjects conversations others are having with something about herself.. she commands attention when she's talking by grabbing at your face and making you look at her..but then frequently babbles incoherently with a few words you can hear in the middle. Her most favorite topic is Spongebob and she can go on and on and interject spongebob into any conversation she hears.
Me: Honey, are you going to go to the store later? I think we need toilet paper.
DH: Yes, probably after dinner.
Me: Alright let me know before you go. Oh! What did you want for dinner tomorrow?
DD: Squidward iz a pickle!.. an goes up!! ..around.. an zzzzzz*makes noises* ok Mama? MAMA! OKAY?!?! he does a booobaaayhooowe.
Me: Whats a booobaayhoowe?
DD: *shrugs with funny look* Wat you say?
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(My 20 month old took off her diaper and was standing naked."
dd laughs, "Piper not gonna get some diaper!"
"He's cold"
(she helps put a diaper on sister by holding her legs.)
Me; What a great helper! What did you help me do?
"I do dis." *points to her sister*
Me: what did you help me do?
"I be.. uh..good girl?" *moves hands while makes strange uncertain face*
"I do.. dis." *points again makes swirling motions with her fingers, gets up and walks away*
Later I told her we had to leave to get ready to go to playgroup soon. I asked her if she remembered what we did at playgroup last week.
"Playground."
Me: Yes, its near the playground. What did we do when we were at playgroup with the other kids?
"..go..an pway..I no wanna bye bye yet..an wif kids.. an stories..playgwoup." *hand gestures* "I tell you!"
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She also has trouble copying words that we say. If I say a word or two, she tries to repeat them but they sound nothing like what they should. Even with practice she cannot copy the sounds I'm making if the word is a new one for her. If she does learn a new word she can say, she often doesn't remember it. Even 10 minutes later she seems to have forgotten the word entirely.
Does any of this sound like a typical 4 yo?
I can only go by what I know her oldest sister did, and she was talking to me and having coherant conversations when she was 4. I simply cannot even imagine talking to dd the way I did her older sister. The comprehension is just not there. From what i can see in her interactions with other kids.. she does seem to be behind. Younger children often look at her with a puzzled expression because my dd isn't exchanging a typical conversation.
Random 3 yo girl, a stranger: Hi!
My 4 yo dd: Hes my fwiend mama *gets very close to the little girl and pats her hair*
Random 3 yo girl, a stranger: My name is Jessica.
My 4 yo dd: Daddy is got one an its dangrus!!!
Random 3 yo girl, a stranger: *blinks* How old are you? I'm 3!
My 4 yo dd: *stares*
Me: (prompting) How old are you Ivy?
My 4 yo dd: I bigger dan dis mornin. I waked up..an I be big. an we go.. and.... *trails off with laughter*
Random 3 yo girl, a stranger: *starts backing away to her mother*
My instinct says that her interactions are not completely age appropriate. The way she gets close to others is similar to the way my 20 month old might go up to another baby. However, a 4 yo probably should realize that the other person is uncomfortable with their space invaded so much. My dd has no clue, and gets angry if I try to pull her back a bit or remind her of personal space.
Any thoughts?
Does this seem typical of a 4 yo? Or worthy of bringing up to her ped? Can these speech/language issues go hand in hand with sensory issues? Or something else entirely?
My dd is 4 years and 3 months old. Strangers can't understand what she says the majority of the time. They can pick out bits and pieces but often not the whole concept of what she's saying. dd also seems to talk fast, skip words or parts of words completely, trail sentences off without finishing them, and say incomplete thoughts and random sentences out of context all the time. We have gotten used to a lot of what she does, but it become quite evident when we're out with others that she isn't intelligible all the time. Its almost as if she expects that you know what she's saying. When she only gives a piece of the sentence.
She often has trouble with even one step commands, she seems confused and takes a while and many repeats. "Hand me the pink shoe." can take forever for her to comply. She stares looking for it. Spins around in circles. Looks but doesn't seem to SEE whats in front of her. Since the pink shoe is right there on the uncluttered floor.. So two and three step commands are near impossible for her. She is stumped on one step. She listens but often doesn't hear. kwim?
If I tell her, "Look! A dog!" and point to the dog that you can see standing in the street. She doesn't look at where I'm pointing no matter how many times I try to point something out to her, she will look in every direction BUT where I'm pointing. I have to physically get down to her level, sight my arm with her eye.. and *point* the dog out to her again. And it takes her a few seconds before she can finally see it. We're not talking about something far away here or hard to see. My 20 month old was yelling "dog! dog!" because she saw it. This isn't isolated either. This happens daily. She will say "Oh I see" when its clear she hasn't seen the dog because I can still see her searching.
So I decided to write down a few things that dd says in an attempt to see if others have 4+ year olds doing this kind of language thing.
I do believe my dd to have sensory issues and will be talking with her pediatrician soon as there are a lot of concerns in that area. However I am concerned about her language. Specifically her ability to understand what I'm saying and formulate a response. Having a conversation just doesn't happen with her. She can't stay on topic.. she interjects conversations others are having with something about herself.. she commands attention when she's talking by grabbing at your face and making you look at her..but then frequently babbles incoherently with a few words you can hear in the middle. Her most favorite topic is Spongebob and she can go on and on and interject spongebob into any conversation she hears.
Me: Honey, are you going to go to the store later? I think we need toilet paper.
DH: Yes, probably after dinner.
Me: Alright let me know before you go. Oh! What did you want for dinner tomorrow?
DD: Squidward iz a pickle!.. an goes up!! ..around.. an zzzzzz*makes noises* ok Mama? MAMA! OKAY?!?! he does a booobaaayhooowe.
Me: Whats a booobaayhoowe?
DD: *shrugs with funny look* Wat you say?
--------------------------------
(My 20 month old took off her diaper and was standing naked."
dd laughs, "Piper not gonna get some diaper!"
"He's cold"
(she helps put a diaper on sister by holding her legs.)
Me; What a great helper! What did you help me do?
"I do dis." *points to her sister*
Me: what did you help me do?
"I be.. uh..good girl?" *moves hands while makes strange uncertain face*
"I do.. dis." *points again makes swirling motions with her fingers, gets up and walks away*
Later I told her we had to leave to get ready to go to playgroup soon. I asked her if she remembered what we did at playgroup last week.
"Playground."
Me: Yes, its near the playground. What did we do when we were at playgroup with the other kids?
"..go..an pway..I no wanna bye bye yet..an wif kids.. an stories..playgwoup." *hand gestures* "I tell you!"
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She also has trouble copying words that we say. If I say a word or two, she tries to repeat them but they sound nothing like what they should. Even with practice she cannot copy the sounds I'm making if the word is a new one for her. If she does learn a new word she can say, she often doesn't remember it. Even 10 minutes later she seems to have forgotten the word entirely.
Does any of this sound like a typical 4 yo?
I can only go by what I know her oldest sister did, and she was talking to me and having coherant conversations when she was 4. I simply cannot even imagine talking to dd the way I did her older sister. The comprehension is just not there. From what i can see in her interactions with other kids.. she does seem to be behind. Younger children often look at her with a puzzled expression because my dd isn't exchanging a typical conversation.
Random 3 yo girl, a stranger: Hi!
My 4 yo dd: Hes my fwiend mama *gets very close to the little girl and pats her hair*
Random 3 yo girl, a stranger: My name is Jessica.
My 4 yo dd: Daddy is got one an its dangrus!!!
Random 3 yo girl, a stranger: *blinks* How old are you? I'm 3!
My 4 yo dd: *stares*
Me: (prompting) How old are you Ivy?
My 4 yo dd: I bigger dan dis mornin. I waked up..an I be big. an we go.. and.... *trails off with laughter*
Random 3 yo girl, a stranger: *starts backing away to her mother*
My instinct says that her interactions are not completely age appropriate. The way she gets close to others is similar to the way my 20 month old might go up to another baby. However, a 4 yo probably should realize that the other person is uncomfortable with their space invaded so much. My dd has no clue, and gets angry if I try to pull her back a bit or remind her of personal space.
Any thoughts?
Does this seem typical of a 4 yo? Or worthy of bringing up to her ped? Can these speech/language issues go hand in hand with sensory issues? Or something else entirely?






). She does get speech, ot, and lots of extra help at school.

All the other 3 & 4 year olds at playgroup today were cutting things out with scissors and my dd was trying so hard but couldn't do anything but a straight cut that was very crooked and cut off half her picture. (so, not even able to cut on a straight line.) She has had plenty of oppurtunity to do these things.. we've been cutting, gluing, coloring etc at home for well over a year. I'm sure I started right around 15 months with coloring and added the other ones as she grew.
I had no idea she was so far behind typical 4 year olds.



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