OK, here are my stats: SAHM, ds1 will be 3 in november, ds2 just turned 3 months. DH has a demanding career and in fact is out of the state for training until December 7th (except for Sundays off). we cosleep. ds2 nurses exclusively, ds1 would like to nurse exclusively 
. Since the baby came along, my days are so screwed up and I'm becoming one grumpy mama. DS1 won't sleep worth crap. He goes to bed between 6:30 and 8pm (depending on my ability to get him to finally go to sleep), he wakes up a few times a night wanting to nurse (he was nightweaned before ds2 was born
: ). he SOAKS at least a diaper (or 2) every night necessitating changes of diapers and linens in the family bed. he wakes up for good anywhere between 5:30 and 7am (which means he sometimes gets as little as 9 or 9.5 hours of sleep a day - he won't nap). he is ADDICTED to PBS and pitches a fit if he can't eat his meals in the living room. this started after ds2 was born and honestly, i ate every meal in my parents' house on a tray in front of the tv. we ate as a family, but the tv was always there. it's a hard habit for ME to break, but watching CAILLOU during breakfast, lunch, and dinner (we have DVDs, thanks to DH) is driving me INSANE!!!! putting him at the dining room table is recipe for a big ol' screamin' fit. but putting him at the coffee table means i have to put him back in his seat at least 10 times per meal and the average meal (unless i spoon feed him) could take him in excess of an hour b/c he wants to watch tv and play while he eats.
potty learning is not going well. he'll pee in the potty if naked, but not any other time and if he isn't in diapers, he holds in his poop. dressing him takes forever b/c he won't focus on the task (is this toddler stuff?) - it takes several requests to get him to step into one leg of his pants b/c he's too busy trying to get me to look at something or whatever. i cannot get him to set still for reading (even at bedtime). i feel like there's never any calm in the house until i finally get him to sleep at night. and i feel like my sleep is so crappy that i don't even want to get up and deal with the day.
add all this to a 3 month old and I'm going
:
please tell me how to strip this situation down and make it better...cold turkey on the TV? how do I handle the constant requests to nurse at the refusal of eating regular food (i.e. won't eat dinner then wakes and complains of hunger all night)? is his lack of focus normal?
please help. if you've read all this, THANK YOU SO MUCH JUST FOR LISTENING!
. Since the baby came along, my days are so screwed up and I'm becoming one grumpy mama. DS1 won't sleep worth crap. He goes to bed between 6:30 and 8pm (depending on my ability to get him to finally go to sleep), he wakes up a few times a night wanting to nurse (he was nightweaned before ds2 was born: ). he SOAKS at least a diaper (or 2) every night necessitating changes of diapers and linens in the family bed. he wakes up for good anywhere between 5:30 and 7am (which means he sometimes gets as little as 9 or 9.5 hours of sleep a day - he won't nap). he is ADDICTED to PBS and pitches a fit if he can't eat his meals in the living room. this started after ds2 was born and honestly, i ate every meal in my parents' house on a tray in front of the tv. we ate as a family, but the tv was always there. it's a hard habit for ME to break, but watching CAILLOU during breakfast, lunch, and dinner (we have DVDs, thanks to DH) is driving me INSANE!!!! putting him at the dining room table is recipe for a big ol' screamin' fit. but putting him at the coffee table means i have to put him back in his seat at least 10 times per meal and the average meal (unless i spoon feed him) could take him in excess of an hour b/c he wants to watch tv and play while he eats.potty learning is not going well. he'll pee in the potty if naked, but not any other time and if he isn't in diapers, he holds in his poop. dressing him takes forever b/c he won't focus on the task (is this toddler stuff?) - it takes several requests to get him to step into one leg of his pants b/c he's too busy trying to get me to look at something or whatever. i cannot get him to set still for reading (even at bedtime). i feel like there's never any calm in the house until i finally get him to sleep at night. and i feel like my sleep is so crappy that i don't even want to get up and deal with the day.
add all this to a 3 month old and I'm going
:please tell me how to strip this situation down and make it better...cold turkey on the TV? how do I handle the constant requests to nurse at the refusal of eating regular food (i.e. won't eat dinner then wakes and complains of hunger all night)? is his lack of focus normal?
please help. if you've read all this, THANK YOU SO MUCH JUST FOR LISTENING!
Whoa mama, I got 
