Fatigue? Baby Blues? Hormones????

[Plaid Leopard]

Anyone else feeling sad? I don't know if I am just super tired, but for the past few days I just start crying over insignificant things. I get sad thinking about how I am know longer pregnant and probably never will be again. I feel sadness about the birth, even though overall it was a pretty good experience. I feel sad when I think that Yann is already 2 weeks old (tomorrow) and how time goes byfast so fast. I feel sad about how I have not been been a great mom to my other 3 kids for the past month (at least). I feel sadness over- well, lots of things.
I don't remember feeling this way with the others.:

[EricaE]

I had some sadness that peaked at about 2 weeks post partum. I was just feeling overwhelmed and fatigued. Luckily it subsided shortly after that, and all is well emotionally now.

to you - I hope it subsides for you as well shortly. Having a newborn really truly IS overwhelming.

[Nibor]

Yup!!

When my midwife stopped by on Saturday for a check, she mentioned that it is very common to cry about anything/everything. For me, it's been when Evan has hiccups and it reminds me of the hiccups that he had in utero and...everything else. Watching a baby video, looking at Evan, realizing that he has already changed so much in 6 days, etc, etc.

My midwife suggested not watching the news for the next two weeks or so because of this 'emotional rawness'.

[kristen1978]

nak . . . more later, but i sympathize.

[mommajb]

completely, but I also have anger.

I can't bear to part with the outgrown newborn items. It is too sad just yet.

[mighty-mama]

I just have sadness stemming from my sister's death.. And anger/frustration that my back is not healing, nor my stomach/heartburn for that matter..

Sorry you are feeling sad too.

[Plaid Leopard]

I guess we need a group hug!

Wouldn't it be great if we all lived near each other and could support each other IRL?

[J-Bean]

You're not alone. My sadness was off and on but extremely intense when over-tired (all the time nearly) for the first 2 weeks. We seem to have just made it over the hill so to speak though. Baby is 17 days old today and I'm feeling partially sane now...though still tired. Hugs! And we're here wtih you!

[stefka]

Hang in there, mamas. I'm not experiencing the sadness this time around (yet, anyway), but I sympathize. As someone who has struggled with depression off and on all my life, I want to say please seek help if it goes on for long. A couple of weeks of sadness is pretty normal with all the huge changes mixed with hormones, but if it goes on for weeks it's more likely PPD, and some sort of treatment can help A LOT.

Lots of hugs and support for everyone as we adjust to our newly reconfigured families!

[mommajb]

I am so up and down right now and the feelings are so intense that I cannot even remmeber feeling the opposite in the moment. Just yesterday I posted about sadness and anger, then earlier today about how much better things are going and now I am just plain tired.

I just want an even keel and some down time.

[jazzybaby9]

The first few days were a little chaotic with visitors and constant stimulation, plus I didn't sleep for over 36 hours after giving birth...so I've been exhausted. The first 4 days I cried and cried over little things. How much I love DP and being so protective of the new baby...plus everyone passing her around and all I wanted was to be alone with the baby and DP. Maybe I've got a little of the baby blues and my hormones are still a little off...I could probably cry right now if I let myself. And it's not just hormones, we've had a lot of problems arise in the past week. Needing to get a restraining order on my aunt and her boyfriend..(long story) and our families clashing, etc. But all is well now and hopefully the dust will settle. I'm also stressed about attending school so soon...I start next Tuesday and I feel I haven't had enough time to really catch up on sleep or get any down time with the baby and dp. I'm just so happy and relieved she's so healthy and beautiful.

[jazzybaby9]

Originally Posted by Nibor

Yup!!

When my midwife stopped by on Saturday for a check, she mentioned that it is very common to cry about anything/everything. For me, it's been when Evan has hiccups and it reminds me of the hiccups that he had in utero and...everything else. Watching a baby video, looking at Evan, realizing that he has already changed so much in 6 days, etc, etc.

My midwife suggested not watching the news for the next two weeks or so because of this 'emotional rawness'.

This is exactly how I feel. I'm so sad about her growing so fast and I am missing feeling those wonderful movements inside me...I cry at night just staring at her tiny face. And I'm feeling VERY protective. Already thinking of the boys who will break her heart or the sadness and helplessness she'll eventually feel sometime in her life. I just want to shield her from everything and knowing I can't do that upsets me very much. But for now I will cherish every moment with her.

[RachelS]

Originally Posted by Plaid Leopard

Anyone else feeling sad? I don't know if I am just super tired, but for the past few days I just start crying over insignificant things. I get sad thinking about how I am know longer pregnant and probably never will be again. I feel sadness about the birth, even though overall it was a pretty good experience. I feel sad when I think that Yann is already 2 weeks old (tomorrow) and how time goes byfast so fast. I feel sad about how I have not been been a great mom to my other 3 kids for the past month (at least). I feel sadness over- well, lots of things.
I don't remember feeling this way with the others.:

I am definitely there with you! My little one is fives weeks today and I feel like I am heading deep in ppd already! I tried talking about it with Dh the other day and I just do not think he gets it. He wants me to try a med.... I just can't bring myself to do it..... not yet anyway... Heres to hoping that it passes soon for all of us!

[maylea_moon]

You're not alone, mama. I was a complete emotional wreck until 3 weeks postpartum. I cried over everything and all I wanted was to go back in time to my life when I was pregnant. DD is a month old now and things are much better now that I have more sleep (she's getting into a schedule) If it lasts longer than a few weeks, talk to your dr. It's nothing to be ashamed about.

[sunshine's mama]

Originally Posted by mommajb

completely, but I also have anger.

I can't bear to part with the outgrown newborn items. It is too sad just yet.

Originally Posted by Plaid Leopard

I guess we need a group hug!

Wouldn't it be great if we all lived near each other and could support each other IRL?

Originally Posted by jazzybaby9

This is exactly how I feel. I'm so sad about her growing so fast and I am missing feeling those wonderful movements inside me...I cry at night just staring at her tiny face. And I'm feeling VERY protective. Already thinking of the boys who will break her heart or the sadness and helplessness she'll eventually feel sometime in her life. I just want to shield her from everything and knowing I can't do that upsets me very much. But for now I will cherish every moment with her.

Originally Posted by RachelS

I am definitely there with you! My little one is fives weeks today and I feel like I am heading deep in ppd already! I tried talking about it with Dh the other day and I just do not think he gets it. He wants me to try a med.... I just can't bring myself to do it..... not yet anyway... Heres to hoping that it passes soon for all of us!

I think it would be fab if we all lived closer!!!!

I had 2 weeks of cry at everything and anything and it went away gradually...

Then a week ago (didn't post about it bc i really didn't have words to post and it made it real...kwim?) my mom had a massive stroke and has been in the hospital since...It just brings up memories of when my first daughter was a week old and my grandmother died (the day before we were driving the hour for her to meet her new greatgrandchild) and a week after that my grandfather (dad's side..grandma was mom's mom) died but he had been sick for ahwile..Grandma hadn't...just died..called my mom that morning to say how excited she was to meet the baby (namesake) and then died an hour later....: So I just had flashbacks to that and how it happened to be the same timeline with my mom's stroke...

So I am tired from being up not being able to sleep bc of that...not poor Lilah who sleeps like a dream....

And sad bc I am not getting the help I need from daddy at night bc he's so tired from other things he says....I shouldn't have expected it bc he didn't really help with dd1 in the evenings....just wanna give him a swift kick....

I don't think I am heading down the ppd road but am gonna chat with my MW when I see her for the 6wk (WHERE DID THAT GO?) visit next week....just in case.

I didn't get the weepiness with dd1 so it kinda floored me when I got it this time...maybe bc she's the last and was never supposed to happen so it's even more magical she's here?????

AND WHAT MAKES ME SADDEST ABOUT IT ALL....(her, not mom)...

her sweet soft baby hair deciding it needs to thin out big time and leave her head....i can see her scalp now whereas 2 weeks ago, I couldn't see it at all..had to part her hair to look at her strawberry kisses.....

[Plaid Leopard]

Hi all-

Sunshine's Mama - so sorry to hear about your mother. I hope she is recovering.

How is everyone?
I am doing a little better, trying to get more sleep and process the birth. I think that is what is giving me the hardest time. You know, I had imagined a peaceful UC, or at least the MW sitting calmly by while I birthed the baby, but now all I can think of is the midwife sticking her fingers in me repeatedly, and forcing my legs open and yelling at me to PUSH PUSH PUSH!

And I am also having nightmares about the baby dying and I have these irrational fears of dropping the baby and falling on the stairs while I am holding him... not good.

Also, even though I am THRILLED to have another boy I was totally convinced it would be a girl. So I have to figure out what to do with the boxes of girl clothes that I had saved from dd, washed and put aside for this baby... yeah, I know I don't have to deal with that now but it's just another thing that is making me feel sad sometimes.

On another note, I have resolved to improve my diet. I think that will help...

[hazieluna]

This is my first baby so I'm not familiar with what is 'normal'. I am crying all the time, I feel overwhelmed and tired. I get really frustrated with Aidan especially if I'm alone with him and I can't figure out what is wrong with him. I'm feeling like a lousy mother and like maybe I should have thought this out better even though we ttc for months. Is this PPD? Anyone have practical advice on how to overcome this? I feel so guilty about it all already like Aidan deserves better than me... I'm worried I'm not bonding well with my son. How long do baby blues last? When do baby blues turn into PPD?

I wish I knew more mothers in Amsterdam so that I could meet up... I need to make the effort but I'm just so tired right now it all seems to be too much.

[mommajb]

I wonder how it is I haven't dropped the baby or fallen or anything when I loook at him and realize how completely dependent he is. I really worry about forgetting hm or somebosy else somewhere. I am constantly doing headcounts to make sure everyone is safe. I guess I stillneed to adjust to five.

Improving my diet has really helped me. Cutting down/out simple sugars and junk food while making sure I am getting enough protein makes a huge difference for me.

Hazieluna, what you describe is normal to some degree but should subside relatively quickly - like a couple weeks or so, especially if there are no specific problems (health, breastfeeding issues, etc). Watch your diet, get fresh air and some exercise to see if that helps. Have you looked for LLL or another mother's group to meet people? Walking through a park even if you don't play want to in the sand is another good way to meet other moms. All it takes is one woman that is a good friend or has good connections. As soon as you are ready the effort is so worth it (for me). I hope you are feeling better soon.

[Plaid Leopard]

Originally Posted by hazieluna

This is my first baby so I'm not familiar with what is 'normal'. I am crying all the time, I feel overwhelmed and tired. I get really frustrated with Aidan especially if I'm alone with him and I can't figure out what is wrong with him. I'm feeling like a lousy mother and like maybe I should have thought this out better even though we ttc for months. Is this PPD? Anyone have practical advice on how to overcome this? I feel so guilty about it all already like Aidan deserves better than me... I'm worried I'm not bonding well with my son. How long do baby blues last? When do baby blues turn into PPD?

I wish I knew more mothers in Amsterdam so that I could meet up... I need to make the effort but I'm just so tired right now it all seems to be too much.

It is overwhelming! Just last night I was getting so frustrated too because I just wanted to go to sleep but Yann was crying and crying. He didn't want to nurse, I had changed his diaper 3 times, he wouldn't sleep...I finally figured out he was too hot. Sometimes it just takes a while to adjust and get into the rythm, whether it is your 1st baby or your 4th (5th, 6th etc).

In any case you are not a lousy mother! And your son thinks you are perfect.

Are you napping with Aidan during the day?
Do you have a good carrier?
Getting fresh air and exercise?
Are you trying to do too much around the house? If you are then STOP!

I hope things get better soon.

[IntuitiveJamie]

Hazieluna- You are NOT a bad Mother! It def. takes awhile to figure things out. Remember, this is a whole huge world to them now. It's bright, it can be cold, or too hot. They are no longer in this safe cozy place inside of you. They are bombarded with sights sounds smells ppl. My babe is already into only wanting mama. He doesn't seem to interested in being held by other ppl, sometimes not even daddy. I think the biggest thing I can tell you is that remember babies cry sometimes. They just do. And at least if you are holding your babe and loving him while he's crying then you are doing a great job, the best you can. However if you sometimes need to put him down and walk away for a minute to breathe, get some fresh air, and some fresh perspective, that is okay too.
As far as crying and being sad goes. I think it can be normal, but if goes on for a long time, like many months then you might want to reconsider it. However, if you feel it's not right, and want to seek help of some sorts, I def. encourage it. I will try to find some websites for you. I'm almost positive LLL has good PP info.