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post #21 of 153
I'm cool with it. Of course, I also let my daughter pee in public.

I notice *my* particular friends, who are generally progressive feminist mamas, are waaaay more uptight about their sons peeing or being naked in public than I am about my daughter doing the same. I am sure that is not the norm, though.

We only do it if it's an emergency, or if it's just really inconvenient to get to a bathroom. We obviously don't do it in concrete, populated areas... I'm thinking park, bicycle trail, etc.

About a month ago DD had to pee and I took her to the women's bathroom, but people were in the stall next to us. They didn't even take a break while a freaking *3 year old* was in there, talking away. Gross.

I may be more inclined to avoid public bathrooms near the playground in future, and just let her go in the grass.
post #22 of 153
All I can say is don't come to my house. At home my son will often sit up and yell "I gotta go peeeee" and then run outside and tinkle on a tree. :

I grew up on the beach and there were never any bathrooms so I learned at a very early age to pee outside and never dribbled all over the place. Once you were at the beach it was 15 minute walk home and no kid would ever make it. Never mind the days we 4-wheeled then even if everyone agreed to leave the beach it could be an hour long BUMPY ride home. You dealt with it and went in the dunes.

Granted out in public peeing on a tree is a last resort and by now my son is old enough to give us warning and can hold it when needed. However on long trips where rest areas don't have bathrooms, parks with no facilities, and playgrounds with no public bathrooms then a tree it is.
post #23 of 153
My boys and all of their friends did this. If DD wants to then she can cop a squat, too. I consider it minor. It's an innocent thing that they'll soon outgrow, not a big deal and IMO, certianly not "inappropriate, disgusting or gross". They're children for crying out loud.
post #24 of 153
I was watching my friend's son and he had to pee so ran over to a tree and pulled down his pants. I turned away to give him privacy, and when I turned back around literally only a few seconds later, my daughter had pulled down her pants and peed all over herself.

I thought that was pretty funny.
post #25 of 153
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If there's no toilet at the playground-- or if the toilet provided is actually worse than going in the bushes-- it just seems logical to me. I would not go into a store because their facilities are for customers. They are not there to be the official playground restrooms, KWIM?
Same here. Although our playgrounds all have bathrooms. My son knows when and where he can go outside and there are very few of those places. If there is a bathroom available, that's where he goes, if not, well if you gotta go, you gotta go. If I had a girl, she'd do the same.
post #26 of 153
Jumping in from the "new posts" list..

With little kids' bladder control, this is simply necessary sometimes, especially if you've got multiple kids in tow. Although to me it's the same for girls too.. All the little girls I know can pee standing up no problem. Their aim is as good as the boys'!
post #27 of 153
Mom of 3 boys and all of mine have done it as youngsters. When a 2 or 2 1/2 yr old boy says they have to pee that generally means 2 minutes ago. If we are at the park or yard the bushes are going to get watered.
post #28 of 153
If this is a regular occurrence in a particular park your playgroup goes to frequently, I would worry about child predators. There are all degrees of caring for your children, and teaching them to respect their bodies and to protect their bodies from other people is an important lesson. Any "dirty old man" could follow you home from the park. Your children can be very vulnerable if this is a regular occurrence. I'm no prude, but I also think children should be taught that their bodies belong to them and not to be shown to just anyone.
post #29 of 153
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Originally Posted by the_lissa View Post
That is why all girls should learn to pee outside. When I have taken my daughter pee outside in the event of an emergency, we have never had pee on her pants, feet, legs, or anything else. She squats and we have never had anything get on her either.
Same with Rylie. She pees outside at home all the time and never has any issues. I would let her do it in the park too, provided other kids were doing it. It's not ideal, but I wouldn't want to drag usall across the street and into a store just to use a bathroom.
post #30 of 153
My have done this occasionally when there are no bathrooms in the immediate vicinity. But we take a lot of care to make sure it is completely out of the way, hidden behind a tree or bushes.

I don't think it has much relevance to grown men peeing outside. There are plenty of things that are appropriate when you are a kid that don't carry over into adulthood.

(And the difference between peeing outside and peeing on the floor of a store - does this really need to be answered? Is the answer not obvious?)
post #31 of 153
We do this all the time, and I only have DD's. DD1 peed outside tonight right after dance class, when you are fighting for 2 bathroom stalls and over 40 children, outside we go! It's a dirt lot that is shared with a construction company so it's not like we are in the middle of concrete and offices. I generally shield her when possible, opening the car doors, etc...

If there is a clean bathroom right there then we go in it, it one is not available then yes we pee outside. When DD1 says she has to go, we have 3 minutes before she HAS to go, that doesn't always give us enough time to find a bathroom.
post #32 of 153
I understand why mothers allow their kids to do this. It's easy. But I think it's inappropriate. It's disrespectful of everyone else who has to see it going on, smell it later, explain to their own kids why they're not allowed to do the same, etc. etc. And where do we draw the line? Can 5-year-olds do it? How about 6? How about older? How about adults? I know there are lots of things that little kids can do that become inappropriate at older ages....but I think it's appropriate to teach children to respect public property and other citizens' feelings, and that means using a toilet, not any tree you feel like.
post #33 of 153
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Originally Posted by attachedmamaof3 View Post
My boys and all of their friends did this. If DD wants to then she can cop a squat, too. I consider it minor. It's an innocent thing that they'll soon outgrow, not a big deal and IMO, certianly not "inappropriate, disgusting or gross". They're children for crying out loud.
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My toddler has only been potty trained since August, so he often needs to pee NOW. I let him use a tree. My oldest is nearing 5 and he only pees outside now if there's no restroom available and he can't hold it, which isn't very often.
post #34 of 153
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Originally Posted by NicaG View Post
I understand why mothers allow their kids to do this. It's easy. But I think it's inappropriate. It's disrespectful of everyone else who has to see it going on, smell it later, explain to their own kids why they're not allowed to do the same, etc. etc. And where do we draw the line? Can 5-year-olds do it? How about 6? How about older? How about adults? I know there are lots of things that little kids can do that become inappropriate at older ages....but I think it's appropriate to teach children to respect public property and other citizens' feelings, and that means using a toilet, not any tree you feel like.
It's not any tree you feel like. And it's only if there is no bathroom.

Lots of parents let their kids take their shoes off at the playground. I don't, and I deal with a lot of "but they have their shoes off." It never occured to me to blame the parents who allowed it of their kids. I just tell my kids that different families have different rules, and mine is that shoes stay on at the playground.

I don't know where we draw the line - common sense I guess. I've peed outside myself as an adult when I was about to burst and could not find a bathroom to save my life. I of course made sure I was private about it, but hey, pee is sterile. It's not like I'm letting them poop outside.

People let their dogs pee outside. Besides the fact that we make sure we are far away from any populated area (we often walk inside of large bushes or low tree overhangs), what's the big difference?
post #35 of 153
my ds pees outside if there are no appropriate facilities available (if i can find a private place). i have no problem with kids (or anyone, of any age fwiw) peeing outside as long as they find a private spot away from other people or play areas.





my dd will do the same, as she sees fit. i see NO reason why a boy can pee outside but a girl cant.
post #36 of 153
I have my DS pee outside all the time. I usually open my car door put him next to the car and stand behind him. Nobody can see him so there's no reason that it's unsafe. If we're at a family gathering (our relatives mostly all live in the country) DS pees outside every time. If we're somewhere that it's not reasonable for him to pee outside next to the car we have a special container that I bought online and he pees in that.

I avoid public bathrooms, I can't stand them.
post #37 of 153
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Originally Posted by homemademomma View Post
my ds pees outside if there are no appropriate facilities available (if i can find a private place). i have no problem with kids (or anyone, of any age fwiw) peeing outside as long as they find a private spot away from other people or play areas.





my dd will do the same, as she sees fit. i see NO reason why a boy can pee outside but a girl cant.
My girlfriends and I squat all the time when we're camping.
post #38 of 153
We are in the midst of potty learning with our son. We just don't go places we don't have the bathrooms scoped out. Since I was recently pregnant I have a mental map in my head of where the closest restrooms are from practically anywhere in town. And we do skip the park that is 3 blocks from us because it has no bathroom, and we go to the one nearly a mile away because it does have bathrooms.

No peeing on trees for us.
post #39 of 153
I take DS to pee on trees. Ones that are out of the way of normal foot traffic. Dogs pee wherever they please, human pee is no worse.

If he has to go when we're out, that's what we do. If we're in a store we'll use their bathroom, but sometimes DS will be too uncomfortable and we'll duck out to the bushes if there are any- he can relax and just go easier.

I should say that we make it a private affair. We go out of view or at least turn our backs and take care of business quickly. It's not like he walks up, drops his drawers and lets 'er rip wherever he pleases.
post #40 of 153
We do this with our 3 yo ds at a playground that has no restroom facilities. We take him to the edge of the woods and he goes.

When ya gotta go, ya gotta go!

I don't see what the big deal is..
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