question re. leaving babe overnight - Page 2

[Redifer]

I 'left' both girls (3 and 4 months) with DH last night. I was technically there physically, but had a 104 fever and was passed out cold from 5 pm when he got home til this morning! (good news is, though, because of the rest I got, I woke up this morning in good health, with just a case of mild sniffles)

He's an excellant caregiver; I never have any worries about him with the girls. Sometimes he can be even more patient than me!

[Romana]

If not breastfeeding, I see no problem with just dad or dp overnight. What always seems odd to me (because it would feel really bad to me to do it) is when people leave their babies/toddlers with other family members for overnights. I don't understand why or how. But that's just me. I don't trust anyone but me or dh to care for dd, and I can't imagine a situation where I'd want to or would feel comfortable leaving dd overnight without one of us there.

I don't consider leaving dd w/dh to be "leaving" her. Dh is a SAHD and we're equal parents . . . she loves us both and misses us both when we're not there . . . but we are both capable of taking loving care of her and meeting her needs. I pumped for over 12 months for dd - if I had had to be away for an overnight, dh just would have used pumped milk if dd needed a night feeding.

[meggles]

I don't want to leave dd overnight yet, and she's 8 months. I can't imagine wanting to for a long time. I'm planning on breastfeeding for as long as she wants to, and so far, she wants to (and quite often at that)! She also won't take a bottle, so it's not like I can pump and leave. Plus, I don't think I'd be able to enjoy myself without her for that many hours.