Originally Posted by the_lissa
I understand that letting go of preconceptions can help, but to say if one just doesn't think of it as pain, does hypnobirthing, etc, then it will be joyous rushes is dismissive and disingenuous.
: I came in here to say that my broken leg hurt more than any of my labors (It did. There was no point to the pain and it was sheer and nonstop with no time to catch my breath like labor has.) but wanted to agree with this. I think telling women that birth is only painful if they do something wrong is not only dismissive and disingenous but also disempowering (is that a word?). If women go into birth thinking "if only I do this and this then birth will not be painful, rather it will only be intense and filled with joy" then were is their ability to deal when it is also painful? How likely is it that when it does hurt ( a lot!) they will think that there is something wrong, that they are not as strong as other women, that they need drugs to get through this.
In my opinion it is more empowering to prepare women to face the pain, the intensity, and the joy; to teach them to recognize that their body is strong and amazing and can get through labor pains and intensity than to deny the existence of pain and leave them floundering in the end.