Originally Posted by Cornelia
WACAP is excellent for low cost, special needs adoptions. But, please remember these are children with significant special needs. As much as I personally adore special needs adoption and advocate for special needs children (we're in our third special needs adoption currently), no one should enter this arena merely to save money. I've seen far too many naive families step into special needs adoption to do good or to save money and find themselves completely overwhelmed by the needs the children they adopt.
Oh i absolutely agree with you....one should never choose a specific program just because its "cheaper"....however, from what i've read of the WACAP program, they are *not* all kids with "significant special needs"....for their Kazakhstan and Russia program, the special need is being an older boy, an even older girl, or part of a sib group where one of the kids is older. Of course, being an older orphan often means the child does have significant emotional needs, but not always. I would think that the risks arent much different than adopting an older child from the US foster care system (except if you adopt from the US you likely have alot more social and medical history, which might make a big difference.)
I agree totally -- I would only add that "special need" has no real set standard meaning, or "degree" .......... frequently the "special need" is that they are older, been waiting longer or part of a sib set. Granteed older children, kids in care longer, or kids that are part of sib set WILL have differnt and / or additional needs to your "run of the mill" (
as if such a thing exisits anyway
) infant adoption .............. but that "special need" may not be any more extream, or any differnt than many other kids NOT labled as SN ...... and within the realm of special needs .. there are various degrees, some controlable or correctable ithe medical care, some life long ....
However i totally agree SN is a special situation, and we should exam our hearts and see if we are able to be open to that specail situation ... if we can then we should do so ..... but given differnt families, some great and wonderful families are not going to be in a place to do so -- and they do the most good for all involved to admit that.
and it is my limited understanding that the fees can sometimes be reduced for a SN adoption -- be it a sib set, or a medal need, or whatever -- due tot he fact that there might be more $ needed to care for that child once they are home, and also to seepd the process up to get the kids the care they may really need.
I am innocent enough-- and i am NOT very innocent -- to believe people do not bargain shop for adoptions ... yues we all take into account the cost, as we want the most to spend on them when we get them home, and also we have to take into account the $ and if we do it now, next year or in 3 years ..... but i do not think anyone would ever really adopt a high needs child they diodn't really feel able to care for to save a few bucks