Is this your safe MDC haven?

[mittendrin]

I remember this has come up on some occasions...Do you post in other forums? I have really not gotten the best vibe lately in some other MDC forums. Like you're only allowed to really speak your mind if you're a regular poster, kwim?
I think I am really just gonna stick with you guys, there's some really radical people out there who are hardcore on one hand but easily offended on the other.
Sad, because when I found MDC 4 ys back it was different :

[2bluefish]

Right now it is - I don't feel strong enough to cut it in the other areas. I'm in a very special state of mind at this end point of pregnancy, and it feels like I have to hide from the real world - even if the "real world" is just other MDC forums.

[mama_daba]

i read posts all over and have been feeling pretty introverted and not posting much anyplace on mdc. i write posts and then delete them.
i do that here to though. i have just been feeling very sensitive and shy i have been trying to avoid mdc drama and mostly have stuck to pregnancy areas and life with babe

[Vicitoria]

I know what you mean. It's the end of pregnancy and the hormones are just racing and it doesn't take much to get ticked off. So many people have high expectations and ideals that I respect but there isn't a lot of leeway from them sometimes which is frustrating. I'm trying to keep a low profile. I'm so antsy I lurk a lot.

[Jenlaana]

I post a lot, but then I always end up feeling crappy about half my posts and the tone of the responses. I post here and in the UC forum without much fear, but the rest... its a crap shoot. When I'm not feeling "strong" I tend to not read anything but the threads/responses/PMs that I feel will cause me the least amt of stress.

[DoomaYula]

Meh, I still post wherever -- although I'm currently BANNED from "Talk Amongst Ourselves" for 30 days because I posted off-topic 3x in a year ::nocoment::

I post on the Mults board, although it's weird, there's so many "new" moms of twins and mine are getting close to 5yo now, so things are different. I barely remember the first year (although from pictures, it didn't look fun!)

I post on Birth and Beyond and on Birth Pros and I read UC and Homebirth, but a lot of days that moves really slowly. So I'm mostly here.

[firstkid4me]

I used to post a lot in Lactivism but after the militant ffers came on there and started yelling at us to think of their feelings I stopped going as regularly. This is definitely my safe haven.

[wildgarden]

This is the only place I post. I tried to join in my local forum, but they are so prolific I couldn't keep up and I am not sure if it is a good idea given my work situation to be public about certain things that I would like to post about. I did change my user name so that is helpful, but I still worry. I still read their posts weekly because they have so many good local resources that they are always sharing. They seem really cool, I wish I felt more comfortable posting there, I'd like to meet a lot of them and be friends. But who has time for that right now!

I love our DDC. I will be very sad when it is done. I appreciate all of the support and openess shared here!:

[bygones75]

Oh, does the DDC close after all the babes are born? That's sad. I'll miss you guys.

[mamabearsoblessed]

Originally Posted by YumaDoula

Meh, I still post wherever -- although I'm currently BANNED from "Talk Amongst Ourselves" for 30 days because I posted off-topic 3x in a year ::nocoment::

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I remember I got a warning for posting off-topic in TAO once and I felt all bad on that particularly sensitive day.

Bygones~~~ we can all just hang together in the Life with a Babe forum . No worries

[mittendrin]

Originally Posted by mamabearsoblessed

Bygones~~~ we can all just hang together in the Life with a Babe forum . No worries

That's right. Actually the mamas from my last DDC, May 2004 (!) are still very active in that forum but before I got pregnant this time I wasn't much on MDC and don't feel the connection with them, altho they're really nice.

[sadiejane08]

(Sorry to barge in on your DDC--I'm in April, but I can relate to this....hope you don't mind ) I've wandered onto other boards here, but so many folks seem to be so opinionated and to vilify anyone who's not 100% whatever it is they believe in. Some poor mom posted her anguish and agony about a difficult period with her child in which she let the child CIO (cry it out), and she didn't get support and hugs and good advice, she got LAMBASTED and all kinds of spooky-scary-your-child-is-screwed-up-for-life-now rhetoric. Oh, please.

I completely believe in diversity and tolerance (for normal human behaviors; no tolerance for child abuse or murder or whatever here ). And I believe that most of us are good people who make the best choices we can, AND, most importantly, that the right choice is different for different people, or even the same people in different situations. So I find it difficult to read in forums where people are so militant.

So I just stick to the DDCs and pregnancy board.

[mittendrin]

Hello to the Netherlands from a german mama! Thanks for posting and I think you are right. What just amazes me is that different mods seem to have different guidelines of when to step in and take control of the situation when a thread is about to get hot and waiting to blow up.
You can go on some forums and get flamed and stoned, as long as no one uses bad language, it's ok. Go on another forum, use the word "stupid" and you need to edit. Even when nobody on the thread seems to notice, let alone be offended.

[Liam's Mum]

I mostly come here, and even that is not too often, I just find it really hard to keep up! This whole site is so huge. I will lurk in a couple other places and have gotten some good info, and I'll post if I think I have anything to add, I don't care too much if anyone agrees with me or not! It's funny, on another board I post on, I feel in the minority because I'm not mainstream enough or something, while here I feel like the mainstream one! But that's OK, I'm happy with being a "little bit crunchy, a little bit status quo". LOL

[thorn]

I mostly only post here and in my local tribe. I read all over though, there are a lot of great ideas on this site

[kleines]

I usually just post around here too. I read some of the other forums when I have time, and occasionally post. I am a lot more comfortable expressing myself here. Even if I get flamed here, it doesn't offend me as much. I guess I take it better from people I "know." Also, it seems that most of the people in this particular DDC are very tolerant and respectful. I hate to see people getting torn up for their choices anywhere.. esp when they come to ask for advice on how to do it differently! Did anyone else's mother tell them "You win more flies with honey than vinegar!!"

I feel sensitive right now, and I am just not into getting my feelings hurt by someone who is just intolerant/insensitive/disrespectful/ and doesn't know the true meaning of PEACE! :-)

Not to mention I just like our DDC b/c we are AWESOME!

[Hippiemommie]

I only come to MDC and I frequently come to our MDC DDC the most. I know that I don't have to constantly defend my birth choices and even if I do get a little heated in a discussion everyone here knows that I don't mean harm and it's the hormones or tiredness. I love our DDC!

[DoomaYula]

Originally Posted by sadiejane08

(Sorry to barge in on your DDC--I'm in April, but I can relate to this....hope you don't mind ) I've wandered onto other boards here, but so many folks seem to be so opinionated and to vilify anyone who's not 100% whatever it is they believe in.

I completely believe in diversity and tolerance (for normal human behaviors; no tolerance for child abuse or murder or whatever here ). And I believe that most of us are good people who make the best choices we can, AND, most importantly, that the right choice is different for different people, or even the same people in different situations. So I find it difficult to read in forums where people are so militant.

I think you might be missing the point of MDC though. There are tons of parenting sites out there that have info on all kinds of parenting practices, and you'll find much more diversity of parenting and tolerance toward everyone. MDC is all about AP/NFL, and you're just not going to find people who are supportive of CIO, elective c-s, choosing to ff, elective induction, spanking, etc. And most people here feel STRONGLY.

I would have vilified someone who willing did CIO, most likely.

[gottaknit]

I'm with YumaDoula on this one (surprise surprise )

If anything, I feel less comfortable in the MDC pregnancy/birth/DDC forums right now. It seems like there is a lot of mainstream OB worship going on these days, which I find frustrating and puts me in a bad mood. (OK, pretty much everything puts me in a bad mood lately. )

It's just annoying when every pregnant woman I know IRL (I know a LOT of pregnant women right now) is pro-scheduled c/s and induction, and the local hospitals don't "allow" VBAC, and then I come on MDC and see it here (MDC).... Planning a VBAC is hard enough these days without my "safe haven" being polluted, too.

[Banana731]

CIO-Is that "cry it out"? I'm so bad with acronyms...

I like this DDC a lot too. I also like UC, they are pretty tolerent too, but I guess you are by default laid back if you want to birth unassisted. Some of these boars kill me though! I went on a certain one a couple to times that I thought was supposed to help women like me(check out my sig) and I left each time feeling more doubt than when I came in! Who the heck needs that? I get enough talk of the "dangers" this birth from the OB at the Naval Hospital! :