Should I feel like I do?

[Lovenest]

I just got my sons notes from the dentist he saw a few weeks ago.
Anyways in it they say:

Patient is homeschooled. Had prior bad experience at his dentist.

It also said:

Tell patients mom she can come back only if she is silent and knows I am the authority over the patient, she can only speak to patient if she asks me.

:

Ok, do you see why I am alittle upset?:
Why in the world did they put in there notes he is homeschooled? Would they put "patient goes to public school"? Also, does that sound like nuts about the authority thing? Geez....

Anways, he is not going back there as I set another appt as they told me they would not allow me back with him, I said see ya later.

[dove]

he sounds like a major control freak. : buh-bye.

[Lovenest]

Originally Posted by dove

he sounds like a major control freak. : buh-bye.

It was a lady about 30 years old. She said parent make the child feel like they can get upset and with parents gone they dont. Um ya, THATS NOT MY KID!
Ma, what is it with ped dentist thinking they can just take out kids without us? If a ped doctor did this parents would be in a uproar!

I just really do not get it.

[NotTheOnlyOne]

omg, its not that the kids dont get upset because you're not there, they are too terrified to move! No way.... nope. Thats making me angry and its just a message board!! I can't believe they wrote that either. Who gives a f*ck? That woman has some issues of her own.

[newbymom05]

Maybe the homeschooled comment is for scheduling purposes, ie you aren't tied to the school calendar? But the rest of it...what total and utter crap! I'm glad you found a better dentist. SHe sounds like she's nuts.

Had to come back and ETA-can you imagine if the receptionist told you that? "Um, excuse me, Ms. X, but you DO realize Dr. Y is the supreme authority, right? Oh, and you can't talk to your child w/out her permission." Crazy!!!

[Daffodil]

Originally Posted by doriansmummy

Tell patients mom she can come back only if she is silent and knows I am the authority over the patient, she can only speak to patient if she asks me.

Holy crap! I'd be furious!

(The note about being homeschooled doesn't seem like a big deal, though. Maybe it's just useful to know when they're chit-chatting. You know, so they don't try to make conversation by asking the kid, "How do you like school this year?" Oh, and I think schools in some areas give kids fluoride rinses, etc., so they might find it useful to know your kid wasn't involved in any program like that.)

[cravenab00]

i'd be pissed!

and WTF is up with the ped dentists being so wierd about parents being with the child during dental visits? Who is just going to say "here take my kid and do whatever!"

the authority thing is creepy.

[Ruthla]

Wow. What is it with all the "dentist won't let me go back with my kids" threads lately? I have never ever been to a dentist that didnt' allow that, and I never would. I wouldn't mind staying in the waiting room when my 12yo is getting her teeth cleaned, but my sensitive 11yo? No way, no how! She needs me with the dentist even more than the 5yo does.

[lindberg99]

The homeschooled comment wouldn't bother me. I could see them putting "Patient is kindergartener" or whatever or maybe it is so they know you could bring him in at less busy times or something.

But to tell a mom she has to ask a dentist before speaking to her child?? That is bizarre! :

[Lovenest]

Thanks you all for replying. Isn't this just all nuts?

I am glad you guys cleared up the homeschooling comment I just was thrown as it was right in the "medical part" of the chart... Like it was a condition.:

[SleeplessMommy]

We have a very good pediatric dentist ... he has a very well thought out and successful plan for interacting with the child during dental work. (For example, he talks trains with DS before the dental work)

The dentist explained to me the need to not talk to DS during the work - the attention needs to be focused on the dentist to follow simple instructions (breath through nose, open mouth, etc). They have a "routine" where each instrument is shown to the kid prior to use in the mouth.

I have observed many adults saying stupid things to DS after dental visits. "Did it hurt?" ... well DS had not idea to expect a teeth cleaning would hurt until you told him. : "Did you get an injection?" ... well DS got an injection before fillings and did not notice. He was shown the blunt end of the "tooth sleeper" during his procedure, not the needle end. : The dentist may be concerned that the parent will communicate fear during the procedure.

If you are feeling generous, the dentist's notes about homeschooling are "shorthand" to help him remember which kid it is. If you are not feeling generous, its shorthand for "chemical-fearing hippie".

Did he explain to you the need for no-parental communication during the work?

[ledzepplon]

Originally Posted by dove

he sounds like a major control freak. : buh-bye.

:

!!!!!!

Get a new dentist, pronto!

[cheery]

It was a lady about 30 years old. She said parent make the child feel like they can get upset and with parents gone they dont. Um ya, THATS NOT MY KID!

I wish I could say UNBELIEVABLE but ...
we had a similar experience, also with a woman about 30 ... I am not sure what they teach these new dentists. Fortunately we did not follow up with her but found a dentist who knows how to talk properly.