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Thank you so much for this! My first son(4th child) is 3.5. Last night he started complaining that his penis was sore. Today it has been a little red, a little swollen and more sore. I was getting concerned, since he has never had any issues at all. He's not retractable, so I didn't want to take him to the doctor for fear that they would try to force it. Besides, he is having no pain while urinating and part of the time it doesn't bother him at all. Thanks to this post I have learned about separation and that it can cause these very issues. I had no idea they could get sore as separation occurs. It makes sense now that I have read about it.

Thanks so much! Now I don't have to worry anymore. :
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I searched and found this thread again, I think we should have it up there as a sticky as well.
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Originally Posted by eclecticmama View Post
Thank you so much for this! My first son(4th child) is 3.5. Last night he started complaining that his penis was sore. Today it has been a little red, a little swollen and more sore. I was getting concerned, since he has never had any issues at all. He's not retractable, so I didn't want to take him to the doctor for fear that they would try to force it. Besides, he is having no pain while urinating and part of the time it doesn't bother him at all. Thanks to this post I have learned about separation and that it can cause these very issues. I had no idea they could get sore as separation occurs. It makes sense now that I have read about it.

Thanks so much! Now I don't have to worry anymore. :
Hey I am glad you found this thread and found it useful. I would like to prevail upon the mods to try and sticky this thread. I know it's been talked about so lets do it.
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I bumped this one up because a couple of days ago DH seemed to have some sensitivity around his penis. He was a little puffy and slightly pink, and a bit sensitive to the touch. Because I had seen a lump under his foreskin in the last month or so (and figured smegma pearl) I figured from that and from this thread that he was likely separating. DH honestly had NO CLUE what it was (being circumcied himself had no experience with this). Then, yesterday morning I changed him and found some tiny white granules in his diaper. Then, by the afternoon his penis looked completely normal again, and of course is still normal now.

I have to say, this thread (and this forum) is invaluable. It makes me sad to hear sometimes how some boy "had to be circ'd" because of ballooning, or because they had an "infection" when in reality balooning and releasing smegma pearls is part of the natural separation process. Their parents didn't know that what was happening was normal and had a deep sense of worry/panic. It's sad too that many doctors don't seem to know about the normal separation process and will be quick to tell them to circ.

Which is why this thread is so important. I know a lot about the intact penis, because of a lot of research I have done, and hanging out here. But, other parents I talk to don't do this research, don't have the knowledge of the intact penis and normal development. This thread and the previous one is invaluable to them, and no doubt has saved many boys from being unnecessarily circ'd.
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Many of us have been asking for a long time now to make this a sticky . . . I'm still not sure why it doesn't happen . . .

This information has been so very helpful too us too. In case it never becomes a sticky, let's just keep this thread alive. I don't want it to get *lost,* especially for parents coming to this forum for the first time. Let's try to keep it on the first page.

Again, maybe someday it will be a sticky -- one can hope!
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ITA! Before I found this thread, the advice I had been given by a doctor over the phone was that I should have been pulling back the foreskin and cleaning under it since he was born! I knew that wasn't right, so I came here looking for more answers. I looked for a sticky first and when I didn't find one, I did a search. I didn't find this thread in my search, but luckily found another thread where someone had a similar problem and they were linked to this thread. I am *so* glad I found this thread. I have had family pressures since my first son was born. My grandmother has worried since the day she learned we didn't circ that he was in for problems, since my grandfather "had to be circ'd" at age 7 due to problems. I'm willing to bet the problems were probably these same normal things that happen. I was getting pretty concerned myself before I found this thread. Sure enough, within 48 hours he was back to normal and no harm done. Had I taken him to the doctor, I don't know that they would have pushed me to circ, but had I taken him to his first doctor, she would have definitely retracted him. Luckily we now see a doctor that has two intact sons. I may have gotten the correct information from him, but it would have meant an unnecessary trip to the doctor.

Hopefully someday this will be a sticky, because it is truly invaluable information that I haven't ever read elsewhere.
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Bumping up for someone else who needs it!
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Thanks!
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I just stumbled upon this and what a great find! I just noticed what might be a little ballooning in my DS yesterday and although I had already kinda figured all was well, it was really good to read this as reassurance
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You rock OP
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