Already thinking about the next one??

[JamesMama]

DH and I know we want a big family (4-6 kids) and ideally I will be done by 30-35 so we're thinking about WHEN we'll TTC#3 already. Anyone else lost their minds with me?

We're figuring on July-October 2009, that puts right around 2 years between pregnancies...bf'ing for 2 years is VERY important to me and my milk dried right up with this pregnancy and I worry about that happening again. :

I realize how silly this is to worry about considering I haven't even given birth to #2 yet. LOL

Anyone else with me?

[*Lindsey*]

We're open to as many kids as God gives us. I'm not thinking about when to TTC again after the twins are born, but mostly wondering when I'll get my cycles back (got it back at 3 months pp both times before).

I don't think you're crazy! A lot of people think we are, though. I can't tell you the number of people that have asked us if we're "done after this?!" :

[Momma Aimee]

ahhhhhhhhhh renea you are so like i am.

i too can't helop counting the calandar --

i knwo when we WOULD start TTC if we were going to again. We'd start with this baby was 9 months, like we started with Theo was 9 months (took us 6 months).

we really think this is our last plan and plotted pregancy. If God has other plans we will accpet with joy but we will not TTC again....... buttttttttt thent he other night DH commented that "well if we TTC as soon with this one as with Theo we would be TAHT old: ...... ::: he needs to stand storng in the no TTC cuz we all know i WON'T.

We do however fulling intend to continue to grow our family. and that is part of it, if we keep getting pregant, we can't adopt and we will age out of that.

we both soooooooooooooooooo wish we had met younger and started younger.

AImee

[JamesMama]

Aimee- DH also wants to be 'done' sooner than I want to be 'done' but he's 4 years older than me and he's Type 1 diabetic so I guess he ages worse than me. He says no way are we having another baby when I'm 33-35 because that'll make him 37-39 and he doesn't want a baby at that age. (with his diabetes, he says if he were healthy it wouldn't be an issue but he has to factor in for his diabetes).

I'm only 23 so I figure if I get pregnant in October 2009...baby born in July 2010...Pregnant again July 2012 baby born April 2013 that puts me at 4 kids by age 29. We'll see I suppose.

[oskie]

DH brought this up the other day and I almost slugged him. To be fair, he did mention it during a particularly tough BH when I wasn't thrilled with the idea of having #1, let alone any more.
We always said we wanted "2 with the option for a 3rd" as far as number of kids, and I think it's dawning on him that, hey, we're both going to be 30 this year, maybe time isn't as infinite as it seemed when we first started dating 5 years ago.

I'm guessing we'd wait a year and a half before TTC, to give me a little chance to recover and see if we get the hang of this parenting thing.

[GinaRae]

Oh heck no! Not conception anyway. I am done with pregnancy.

But were this to be my first or second, I am sure I would still be planning more

Here's to more healthy, happy babies for all of you!!!!

I swore in the beginning that all we want is a healthy, happy baby. And I stick to that. Boy or girl, I am okay.

But I have realized should this be boy #4, I know I would still want a little girl in my life.

Hubby is against having any more kids in any way, period. But perhaps someday I will get my little girl somehow. I mean, just yesterday I told him that I would still want a little girl in my life somehow and he really didn't say anything. I think inside he feels the same way, but he's more able to shut himself off to those emotions.

I do know pregnancies are done for me. And if I don't ever get my girl, I need to be okay with that too and move on to the next phase in life somehow.

[Momma Aimee]

Aimee- DH also wants to be 'done' sooner than I want to be 'done' but he's 4 years older than me and he's Type 1 diabetic so I guess he ages worse than me. He says no way are we having another baby when I'm 33-35 because that'll make him 37-39 and he doesn't want a baby at that age. (with his diabetes, he says if he were healthy it wouldn't be an issue but he has to factor in for his diabetes).

I am 35 NOW and DH is 41 NOW .... we will both have a birthday right after the first of the year.

Dh is mandatory to retire the Aug before Theo starts his senior year of high school while all the rest of the kids will be home.

DH has artiris (we think) in his hips and basically feels really old trying to play with a toddler -- though he normally does a greast job.

Scott truend 40 right after Theo was born and we gald to have a baby before 40.

Oh heck no! Not conception anyway. I am done with pregnancy.

But were this to be my first or second, I am sure I would still be planning more

Gina with your more challangeing pregancies I totllay understand -- and if this was baby #4 for us, I'd be a lot stronger in my "no more birth" stanse too .

We want to grow more of a family -- and i do so want to adopt -- and not agre us out of that, and also the larger the biological famliy the less likely you are to be allowed to adopt in some countries . DH and I agreed to adopt before he offered me a ring, so i know we will go there, so i know i am not done .....

BUT -- it is hard not to want BABIES

Too soon to worry about it --

Aimee

[marisa]

I feel so done with pregnancy too, but I definitely am open to adopting. I really want to adopt from Ukraine. And then maybe a domestic foster care situation when my bio kids are much older.

[gamitzer]

We're already thinking about the next one, but that's because we had to. After getting pregnant with donor sperm, we had to make the decision on when/if to buy more for our next kid. We ended up buying 4 more vials. It's unlikely that one vial will work right away, so we'll hopefully have at least one more, maybe two more. We'll take whatever we can get! We're 28 and 29, so we're getting older, but still have some time on our side, hopefully.

[mittendrin]

I always wanted 3 until I had 2. Then along came the surprise... I love being pregnant but seem to be too anxious and too easily stressed to have more kids. We're snipped and done!

[melissakc]

Not me! I'm too freaked out about just having two kids. I'm a wimp! I don't know how you all with 3+ do it. I'm scared to be outnumbered!

[scheelimama]

I don't think we'll be planning a 4th. But we are open to another. Neither of us are willing to take the plunge and cut off the option to have another child permanently. But this pregnancy has been so hard and with dh possibly being deployed a lot in the future, I dont' want to have another for a long time. And TTC was rather stressful. So, I don't think we'll necessarily plan another. But we will probably just be using a diaphragm and it's all too easy to get lax about that when one or the other is starting to have a desire for another child, so I imagine we'll end up with another at some point.

[veganjoy]

I'm already planning #2 (and 3, and 4, and...), as we'd started the adoption process before I got pregnant.

We'll probably resume the process once the baby arrives, and--depending on how insane being a mom turns out to be--adopt a year or so after that.

[Curlita]

My third will be a golden retriever. I'm with Annika -- I really like being pregnant and can see doing that again, but I don't feel like we can handle or afford more than two kids. Also, I'm coming up on 37 and even though I like being pregnant, and generally have easy pregnancies, I'm think the whole process will be harder on my body if we do it again... not to mention dealing with two kids while pregnant instead of just one. I don't know how some of you gals do it.

Ah, but the baby lust! I know that will continue, long after these two are grown into boys.

[welldone]

We, too, are open to God's plan for our family. We also use FAM to space pregnancies, as my periods came back at seven and three months post partum the last two times--too soon for me to physically handle another pregnancy! I hope and pray for a longer break this time, but I think periods tend to come back sooner each time, right?

I've always had dreams that I'd have two girls and then two boys. So far, we've hit three out of four! So, I wouldn't be surprised if we had another boy in a couple of years or less. Beyond that, it's up to God--we're open to a large family.

[sorteep]

I am sooooo done.. done done done,,, (do you HEAR me, ovaries??? DONE I say!!) I'm never having sex again .. really, I'm not.. my luck we would be a vas failure!

[Mama2 '05'06]

Add me to the 'crazt list'. I'd like the next one to be born in September and I'd like this one to be either 2 going on 3 (or at least going on 2) when its born so I'm getting it down to a science of when I want to TTC again.

[brooklyn_warbler]

we definitely have thought about when we want to try for the next!

we want three kids at least, but are open to more. actually i think we'd be aiming for four if i hadn't just turned 28 in august. i don't want to pop em all out in a row, so with our ideal scenario re: both spacing and when i'd like to be 'done' in terms of MY age, we'll likely end up stopping at three (though i think there is always the possibility of a fourth since i'll be around 33 or 34 at my third pregnancy if all goes well, and we'll just see how that feels when the time comes. plus, we are more than open to the possibility of adopting.)

with our various concerns right now in terms of career/school stuff, i'm thinking i'd like something like a three year gap between this baby and the next, which means we'll start ttc in two years, give or take.

however i have to admit i also love the idea of a real surprise baby so basically we're open to whatever happens. this baby was not planned per se, but because we were using fam i knew we were playing fast and loose that cycle and had a very good chance of conceiving, so s/he wasn't exactly a surprise, either.

[AKmomof2+1inNov]

I really wanted at least 4 and have thought about when to time the next one...but then I met this pregnancy! I know they are all different, but I feel so much older this time. I had DS at 29 and I'm 33 now-so really not THAT much older. But the caring for 2 while making a 3rd has kicked my butt. I was think fall of 2009 for number 4, but now my sister's wedding will be then instead of 2008. And that will figure into any planned pregnancies since my family lives so far away and that is a trip DH approves of. Fall of 2008 is too soon and I work in the summers, so I prefer to have a fall baby so I can be home longer. I won't make the decision while I'm pregnant though-too hormonal!

Ideally-I would have 2 girls and 2 boys. I want all those brother/sister bases covered since I always wanted a brother growing up. But I can't imagine my DD not having a sister since I have 3!

BTW Gina-My oldest sister has 4 boys and I'm sure she feels the same way as you. When I had DD was happy for me, but I know it hurt her too as now all her sisters have daughters.

[Valerieg]

We want four kids, all two years apart, born in the fall. So far we will have two. DD will be two in just a couple weeks and I'm having this next LO in just a few weeks after that (if that long).

AF didn't return until I was 12 mo PP with DD (due to BF) and this time I'm hoping it is the same. But I don't intend to take any chances until at least November of next year. I don't think I could handle any less than two years.

We've considered NFP and will likely use NFP once we have four. But the plan for now is to take them as they're given to us. I'm just hoping for my sanity that BFing works again this time!!! If not, I shall hide from DH.