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Do you drink while your kids are awake?

Poll Results: Do you drink while your kids are awake?

 
  • 18% (81)
    I do not drink alcohol.
  • 15% (68)
    No, I do not drink while the kids are awake.
  • 45% (205)
    occasionally
  • 16% (72)
    often
  • 3% (14)
    daily
  • 2% (10)
    other
450 Total Votes  
post #1 of 124
Thread Starter 
...And I don't mean a glass of wine with dinner...I'll sometimes have a beer or hard cider while cooking dinner or in the afternoon during naptime while the other boys are busy. I have to admit that I would have thought this was appalling with my first son, but I've relaxed considerably over time. Anybody else?

To clarify--I mean when you are home alone with the kids. I guess that's why I chose the SAHM forum for this poll. My husband is often home weekday mornings, but I'm talking about when you are the primary responsible parent.
post #2 of 124
I do. As a matter of fact, I just had a corona with lime.

Lisa
post #3 of 124
Well, I almost always have wine with dinner and sometimes have a cocktail pre-dinner. When we have guests for the afternoon and/or evening I've been known have more than one or two... However, I rarely drink when I am alone with the kids, just in case I should need to drive to the ER or something. And since my DH doesn't drink at all, there is always someone sober at home in case of an emergency. But that would be my only concern for light to moderate drinking. Now, if you are drinking a lot, every day, or because you "need" to, that would raise some other concerns.
post #4 of 124
Sure. Dh sometimes brews beer and we'll have some in the afternoon or evening. When we go to parties where alcohol is served, I'll "partake," but only one or two. Obviously, I'm not going to drink a lot while I'm taking care of my kids, but neither of us views moderate consumption of alcohol in front of the children as a problem. is that what your question's about?
post #5 of 124
I have no qualms with drinking alcohol when my kids are awake...or even in the same room.

I don't think there is anything wrong with occasionally drinking alcohol, and to do so in hiding from my kids, to me, would indicate that I think I have something to hide.

I want to be able to teach my kids that it is possible to enjoy "adult beverages" responsibly and that not everyone who drinks a beer is an alcoholic (as their dad's grandmother would like them to believe).
post #6 of 124
We often have wine with dinner, or beer at a BBQ or when friends come over for pizza. Some evenings I'll have a cider while cooking or dh will have a beer while watching tv. We certainly don't "drink to extremes", and those drinks aren't every night, but yeah... we drink while the littles are awake.
post #7 of 124
Sure do. Never saw a reason to hide drinking from children.
post #8 of 124
Alcoholism runs in my family so I avoid alcohol like the plague, because I'm so terrified of becoming an alcoholic. The few times I have drunk alcohol since being a mom, the kids were always asleep, at night, and it was social drinking (not drinking alone).
post #9 of 124
Never when I home alone with the kids...I just don't like drinking alone.
post #10 of 124
Quote:
Originally Posted by UnschoolnMa View Post
Sure do. Never saw a reason to hide drinking from children.
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Sometimes I'll have a glass of wine or a beer when cooking dinner, especially if the recipe calls for it.
post #11 of 124
I dont think there is any reason to hide alcohal from kids. I saw my parents/family drink wine with dinner almost every night, and I personally hate the stuff. That being said, I chose 'I do not drink while the kids are awake' because if I am going to drink, it is going to be hard liquer and it's for the purpose of getting a bit tipsy. On the very few occasions that dh and I go out or I go out with girlfriends (once since dd was born!) I will drink and even have a smoke (well, not now that I am preggo) and I only go out with them at night after dd is asleep. I dont drink beer or wine because I don't enjoy the flavor, but if I did, you bet I would have one in the afternoon!! I NEED one on days when dd isn't napping!:
post #12 of 124
I had a glass of wine while making dinner this week( I opened the bottle to use in a recipe)... My hubby was working late all week. Pretty tame I know!
Like Meowee, my folks are heavy drinkers. I don't like drinking that much either... besides I have stomach issues and even a drink or two sets me back a couple of weeks in healing.
post #13 of 124
Very rarely when not pg. I will have a beer or glass of wine on New Years or if the occasion calls. It's *really* rare, though.
post #14 of 124
Yes.

A beer sounds so good right now, too...
post #15 of 124
Occasionally. I don't drink all that often anymore in general, but I have no problem having a glass of wine or a beer if I'm alone with DS. I wouldn't have more than one though because I'm a lightweight.
post #16 of 124
I put "I do not drink alcohol". I used to, but I didn't the whole time I was trying to conceive, pregnant, and nursing, which ended up being over 6 years and my dh does not drink alcohol, so I just got completely out of the habit and never got back into it.
post #17 of 124

Interesting thread...

I, too, come from a family with alcoholic predisposition. I don't think I would be drinking at home, alone, while dd's up and around OR in bed sound asleep. If something happened... I don't want to imagine the consequences of having a blood-alcohol content if something happened (home-invasion, housefire, dd getting hurt accidentally, etc.)... and having to get to a hospital or being interviewed by police or something...

I was in a crash with dd when she was a baby (totally sober...) and the news reported that I was 'most-likely' intoxicated, even tho I hadn't even been tox-screened when they reported it. My family saw the news and actually started calling my hospital room when I was released from ICU into Trauma, ranting and raving about "What were you thinking?!" etc (hypcrites)... So, alcoholic-predisposition and THAT give me strong feelings about alcohol and drugs and kids... tho I recreationally partake on occassion and in very secure scenarios...

If we have guests over for a special dinner, we might have a bottle of wine among the 3-6 of us. Or it might be Corona with a special Mexican dish... soemthing of this nature.

I voted occassionally, since I have had a beer or wine while I make dinner, or something... but it's so rare. And dh doesn't drink but a glass of wine MONTH maybe, and only recently even starting acquiring a taste for it.
post #18 of 124
Quote:
Originally Posted by veganf View Post
To clarify--I mean when you are home alone with the kids.
I chose no because I don't do it while at home by myself w/ ds. I just dont' trust myself that incase of an emergency I'd be ok to drive after one drink (sometimes I'm so busy I forget to eat lunch... no drink on an empty tummy would not be good for me).

However, if DH is around I'll have a glass or two of wine, or a beer or whatever. But if you can handle a drink when you're by yourself, more power to you
post #19 of 124
Quote:
Originally Posted by ledzepplon View Post
Sometimes I'll have a glass of wine or a beer when cooking dinner, especially if the recipe calls for it.
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post #20 of 124
I voted "occationally" & then read your OP about wine with dinner. I'd say 90% of my "drinking in front of the kids" would fall into that category.

Very occationally, I'll have Bailey's in my coffee in the am & SIL have coctails together some evenings while the kids are playing. I hardly, if ever, drink during the day.
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