So very very very not fair...

[Mindi22]

So I've been diagnosed with placenta previa, which may or may not move. But because of the previa, I've been put on pelvic rest, which means:
No sex, or anything inserted vaginally. (poor DH)
No internal exams (no big deal for that one)
But the worst one:








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NO ORGASMS. WTF??? This is so not fair!!!!

I'm just pouting and had to vent!

[trizzle]

absolute and total $&#*#$&! Not that you should not listen to the docs-- just that it is miserably unfair...

tell DH to practice up, that he will have to make up for lost time as soon as you get the go ahead.

[Steady101]

I have been attacking dh the last few days since I stopped puking.

[operamommy]

Yep, that sucks.

I mentioned to my ultrasound tech that I knew a lady who had placenta previa (didn't mention that I "know" you from the internet ) and she said that she tells ladies with it at this point (20 weeks) not to worry at all, that there's still a good chance it will move. She said the time to worry is 34 weeks, 'cause they don't move after that. Hope that gives you a tiny bit of comfort. *hugs*

[lovetobemama]

So sorry to hear...sounds terrible!
Hang in there!

[Angierae]

Totally Way NO FAIR!! Sorry Mama!

Now what if "something" happens in your sleep? I've been having these fabulously vivid dreams (thank you pregnancy) lately and I'd be sooooo stressed about that last rule right now!

Here's hoping its moves over!!!

[ScarletBegonias]

aaawwwwww:

no orgasms?!?!?!? sorry, but no sex and internals i could be okay with, but no orgasms? that is truly torture (btdt):

you need a i'm sorry mindi, that really sucks.

[nolonger]

UGH! Mindi, that is horrible. Normally I couldn't really sympathize, but during pregnancy I totally get how awful this is! Do you trust your OB completely or is it worth it to you to look into a second opinion or at least do a bit of research on your own?

I've been celibate since ds was conceived (over 16 years), but the no orgasms part I just couldn't do unless I was absolutely sure it was necessary.

[flapjack]

[Teenytoona]

OMG, I don't know what I'd do. Well, I do... I personally would test the waters, because I just don't think that having none would work for me... but don't do as I say! You poor woman. Too bad you can't take donations in this department...

[SamuraiMom]

Oh, that hurts, I am so sorry mama, that is totally & completely unfair.

[applecore]

That sucks, and I don't have any restrictions, but don't really have orgasms during pregnancy, so I'm there with ya!

[mishaj]

Hi Mindi22,

My thoughts are with you. Hopefully both our placentas will move north very soon. When do you have an ultrasound scheduled to check on yours?

Sending love,
Mj

[sunkist33]

Sorry!
I have the same diagnosis, you have to take it easy just in case. And orgasms may stimulate the uterus to start contracting. It is very hard especially since I seem to be the horniest I've ever been in my life! And I keep having very strange sex dreams & I swear had an O in my sleep! But really there's no way to prevent that, right?
Hoping yours moves (and mine as well!)...will you have another ultrasound @ 28 weeks?
Stacy

[isra1986]

Awww... I hope everything is ok with you and it moves on it's own. I don't think I could go without for the rest of the pregnancy!

[CalebsMama05]

Originally Posted by Mindi22

So I've been diagnosed with placenta previa, which may or may not move. But because of the previa, I've been put on pelvic rest, which means:
No sex, or anything inserted vaginally. (poor DH)
No internal exams (no big deal for that one)
But the worst one:








<wait for it>











NO ORGASMS. WTF??? This is so not fair!!!!

I'm just pouting and had to vent!

omg i would DIE. I wouldn't mind telling dh no sex but i have to have an orgasm before I can sleep at night (weird pregnancy tmi for ya lol)

[nolonger]

Jami, I don't think it's weird at all, I just think it's something we don't normally talk about. My baby was conceived via artificial insemination and under ordinary circumstances, three months without orgasms wouldn't be a hardship for me at all, but pregnancy isn't normal circumstances; it doesn't take much imagination to figure out that orgasms are an excellent toning exercise to prepare our uteri for labour, and I also think the increased intimacy with partners helps strengthen the bond between coparents and even between baby and father (or nonbio mom).

Besides, it just plain fun being able to feel my big, strong uterus so easily and nothing else makes it seem quite so powerful.



Mindi, I hope you'll get some good news really soon, either another ultrasound letting you know on no uncertain terms that the placenta has moved or else a second opinion/more information negating the doctor's original recommendation.

You're one strong mama and that is one very loved baby. You too, sunkist33.. There's nothing silly or trivial about what you two are going through.

[lilyblossom]

I'm with you!

Mindy22 - I had the same thing happen! My "droopy" placenta has caused me to be on the dreaded Pelvic Rest. I've barely been able to keep my hands off my DH but my problem gets a bit more interesting...my body isn't cooperating.

I keep waking up at least 1-2 times a week having orgasms! I feel terribly guilty but there is not much I can do to control it. I'm just hoping it doesn't compound the problem, February is a long way off and it'll be at least 6-8 weeks after that, EEK!:

[ellymay]

that sucks! I am always majorly horny when preggo and dh can't keep up w/ me so I have to do what I have to do about that LOL.
((((HUGS)))) I wonder why no O's that is kind of strange, I get the not having actual intercorse but unless they are worried about preterm labor then why not O????

[flapjack]

There's very little research done on what causes the cervix to start dilating at the end of pregnancy, and especially for multiparas, the cervix is never at a 0 anyhow. Theoretically, any dilation could pull the uterus away from the placenta and cause a bleed. That's why Sex can start labour, therefore don't have sex in pregnancy. Or eat curry. Or drive over bumpy roads. Or... you know?