My FIL is coming to town...

[HeatherB]

...and my house is an embarrassing wreck. I have an 11 day old baby, my DH is sick, and all 3 of my boys (including the baby) have colds. So guess who gets to do everything?

Other than being super tired and having a headache, I do feel fairly well. I can't stand up for too long at a time or I get weird achiness/pressure/swelling in my nether regions, but otherwise I'm mostly okay. But I'd much rather be snuggling with my tiny bundle of boy than cleaning my kids' room!!

Hopefully DH will be feeling a ton better tomorrow and will actually get stuff done. I hope. His main job is the kitchen and if it doesn't get work from dawn till dusk tomorrow, I will probably be suggesting his dad not come to the house. My job all day tomorrow will be trying to make sense of the kids' room. Yikes!

Okay, done griping for now.

[candyapplez]

sorry to hear everyone is sick, hopefully your fil will understand. Just close the door and he'll never know

Take care of yourself don't want you sick too!

[HeatherB]

Originally Posted by candyapplez

sorry to hear everyone is sick, hopefully your fil will understand. Just close the door and he'll never know

Take care of yourself don't want you sick too!

I wish we had a LOT more doors in this house!

[Banana731]

11 days pp?!? Tell your FIL that you appreciate that he is coming to help take care of things around the house for you and get some more rest!

[HeatherB]

Originally Posted by Banana731

11 days pp?!? Tell your FIL that you appreciate that he is coming to help take care of things around the house for you and get some more rest!

I like that idea!

I had NO idea when he was coming, because I was asked a few weeks ago if he could stop by on his way to or from the East Coast. The "to" trip would've put him right after my edd! (Would've been this weekend, I think.) And even so, the "from" trip is only a week after. Thankfully little one came early! But let's just say this was NOT my idea! I actually managed to schedule a 2wk check up for Judah and wrangle the office into moving a 3yr check up for Iain to the day he comes - DH finally told me yesterday or the day before when he'd be here. :

Thankfully it's not my MIL... She won't be here till Thanksgiving. :

[kleines]

I say not to worry about it! You just had a baby, if he can't understand that.. it's his problem! That is so much easier said than done though, I know that! Good luck with everything.

[gigismom]

please be careful not to do too much.... can you get someone to come in and help you? can fil just deal with the mess and understand your situation? you should not be expected to have a clean house and/or entertain anyone right now.... enjoy your baby, you deserve the rest

peace
jen

[Brisen]

Originally Posted by gigismom

please be careful not to do too much

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How sick can your dh be that he can't do the cleaning, while you at 11 days pp are looking after a house full of sick people and doing all of the cleaning? If it were me, I would set up camp in my bedroom and not come out while we had visitors.

[Dena]

Well, if it were my FIL, he wouldn't even notice a mess. Gotta love the guy.

I agree with the pps - please don't overdo. Men truly don't think places are as messy as we do, and really, if he can't understand what you are dealing with right now, too bad. I say make sure the dirty dishes are out of the sink and the dirty laundry is piled by the washing machine, and you are good to go.

[Jenlaana]

I did a lot immediately PP because I felt good, and I really regretted it. I had similar pains to what you've mentioned and I ended up with some serious bleeding from doing too much. This time I'm specifically refusing to leave my bed for 3 days, and then staying on the couch for the next 4, and then doing very small amts over the next week before going back to anything remotely resembling "normal". Its just so important to give your utereus that time to reduce and repair after birth.

My family is coming 4 wks after my EDD, but if I'm late and they get inside of my "R&R time" I'm just going to make DH and DS do the work and apologize for the rest. Its really not worth your (or my) health to over do it and then not be available for your babe and the rest of your family because of a complication.

I hope your DH gets better and gets up and spring cleans for you