I'm a Mess and the doc insists on meds! - Page 2

[mommybytheWord]

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[mommybytheWord]

Wow! Thank you for all the support. My DH thinks it is worth the try but my mother is against any Mental meds. She makes me feel like a faliure if I give them a try.

Now I am soooooo worried that because of all the anxiety and depression my baby will be affected. Man, I should have tried them earlier. I hope I haven't messed her up. Poor, baby.


I am scarred that the side effects will be to hard for me to handle. I only remember mild diarreh before.

I really, really do not want to NEED them but I want to live life again. I miss not being anxious and depressed. Life just seems to pass me by.


I thought for years that the sickness I have been feeling for 5yrs,

Dizzy
Head Fullness
Ear fullness
Muscle bruning
Muscle fatigue
Vision problems
Depth preception issues

and tons more

were causing me to be anxious and depressed but my Doc INSISTS that it is due to the anxiety and depression and it will fade away after the meds.

[melissakc]

Originally Posted by mommybytheWord

My DH thinks it is worth the try but my mother is against any Mental meds. She makes me feel like a faliure if I give them a try.

I'm glad your DH is supportive. It's so sad that your mom is not. She must not be able to understand how serious the issue is. Try not to let her lack of experience or knowledge stand in your way. You are not a failure for taking medication for a medical problem!

[mama_b]

Originally Posted by mommybytheWord

Wow! Thank you for all the support. My DH thinks it is worth the try but my mother is against any Mental meds. She makes me feel like a faliure if I give them a try.

Now I am soooooo worried that because of all the anxiety and depression my baby will be affected. Man, I should have tried them earlier. I hope I haven't messed her up. Poor, baby.


I am scarred that the side effects will be to hard for me to handle. I only remember mild diarreh before.

I really, really do not want to NEED them but I want to live life again. I miss not being anxious and depressed. Life just seems to pass me by.


I thought for years that the sickness I have been feeling for 5yrs,

Dizzy
Head Fullness
Ear fullness
Muscle bruning
Muscle fatigue
Vision problems
Depth preception issues

and tons more

were causing me to be anxious and depressed but my Doc INSISTS that it is due to the anxiety and depression and it will fade away after the meds.

I had all those symptoms with my anxiety. I thought there was something physically wrong with me, but it really was just anxiety. As for the Zoloft, you won't be a failure if you need to take it. I personally am very anti-med (for myself), but I was at a point where I was staying with family because I couldn't take care of my dd by myself. I had to take the Zoloft until I could find something else. I'm really glad I did because it did help. I am now off the Zoloft, but if I needed it to be able to take care of my dd I wouldn't hesitate to take it again. As for pregnancy, no meds are really good for a fetus, but there are many women who take anti-depressants throughout pregnancy and their babies are just fine. I was taking Zoloft myself until I was about 10 weeks pregnant. I think you should take it if you think it'll help you.

[GinaRae]

To heck with your mom. Mine told my husband she is disappointed in me and feels she coddled me too much and made me weak. P'shaw. Others tell me how strong I am.

Originally Posted by mommybytheWord

I thought for years that the sickness I have been feeling for 5yrs,

Dizzy
Head Fullness
Ear fullness
Muscle bruning
Muscle fatigue
Vision problems
Depth preception issues

and tons more

were causing me to be anxious and depressed but my Doc INSISTS that it is due to the anxiety and depression and it will fade away after the meds.

I have gone thru all that and more over the past 4-5 years. Once I got a handle on things, wrapped my mind around a fibromyalgia diagnosis, accepted treatment for the issues and for hormonal imbalance from my acupuncturist, changed my diet, started receiving stressful things differently, realized I have major anxiety issues, etc, I am feeling SO MUCH BETTER.

If Zoloft will help you get there, just do it. Then you can begin working on the more holistic things and getting your mind wrapped around everything.

[mom0810]

You know, in another generation, people never admitted this stuff and just lived with it. How sad. Your mother comes from a different generation who did not admit to any kind of feelings, depression or otherwise. My mom was the same. Very anti meds. then, when she saw what they did for me, she changed her mind.

You know, housewives in the 60's took Valium regularly, or drank to deal with depression. Personally, I think it's much better to take something that actually helps the problem, like an ssri.

Don't worry about any adverse effects on the baby from your anxiety. When you know better, you do better, you know? I think start the meds and you will see a huge improvement and things will be so much better. You will also be better able to shrug off any criticism from your mom or anyone else once you start them and get to feeling better.

You are a wonderful mommy already just for wanting the best for your little one. And getting help and meds is the right way to get there.

Best,

[Curlita]

No one wants to need medication to feel okay.

I REALLY struggled with the decision to go on meds, and a few friends were not supportive because of their suspicion of the medical establishment. My husband was very supportive, but I was resistant to the idea for a long time. I felt like I should be able to be "normal" without meds, and that going on the meds meant that I wasn't normal. I didn't want to admit defeat by choosing meds. I thought that I was depressed because I had a lot of reasons to feel depressed (mostly physical symptoms and chronic pain -- which have improved or gone away since being on the meds).

Two things made up my mind. One was talking to a friend with depression and anxiety who has been on meds for 7 years. She was so open and hopeful about her experience that it made me believe that meds could really help.

The second was seeing a billboard that said, "The leading cause of suicide is untreated depression," and my first thought was, yeah, that's obvious! And then I realized that although my family acknowledges the fact that my grandfather committed suicide, no one ever acknowledges that it must have been because he was depressed. And depression runs in families. That made the potential seriousness of my condition very real to me.

Your mom might be coping with her own baggage surrounding your father's death that makes it hard to admit that you are depressed. You deserve to feel better than you do.

[Da WIC Lady]

My DH is so supportive of me being on meds that he told me after I got back on them that if I hadn't he was going to divorce me because it was that bad. I was on meds when we met, all through DD's pregnancy and then off of them after I had her. When I got pregnant again, it took about 6 weeks or so before I had medicaid and could get an appointment and get back on the meds. Heck, I didn't want to be around me, so I don't blame him. I'm just glad I was able to get in with the same doc I was with before. He understands that when I say I need meds, I need something NOW, and that when I say I'm fine, that while things might not be the best, meds aren't my only option for coping. He also understands that I know my body and what my limits are and listens to me. I just need to get in to see him sometime before the baby is born and his new office is wierd about answering the phone.

Anna