Starting to resent nursing

[Amila]

I so don't want to feel like this but I do. I feel trapped. I know I will NEVER wean my 15-month old anytime soon, I want to give her at least two years of bm, but she nurses constantly. LIke 10-15 times per day. And all night long. It is getting to be really annoying and frustrating. We are trying to nightwean, but that has been a nightmare. She is up every hour, screaming, and she doesn't let up no matter how much cuddling, soothing me and dh do. And we cosleep so it is even harder. I want to get pregnant! Everyone keeps telling me "It musty not be time" blah blah. THat doesn't help. I offer her solids All.the.time. She eats, but still wants milk. I don't want to feel this way, but I really want to have them 2 years apart. I have started taking vitex, but have no clue if the amount is right. Sigh. Just wanted to vent.

[AnnieMarie]

Just wanted to give you a . I have days when I feel like that too!

[library lady]

My oldest daughter was like that at times. She was the kind of kid where the more I tried to cut back on nursing, the more she wanted to nurse. She has this sixth sense where whenever I need space, she seems to need me ten times more than usual. It makes things really frustrating. Once I figured out that she would back off if I backed off, things got better. I know how tough it can be when your little ones won't "cooperate" with your plans.

[My4Monkeys]

I can totally relate. My daughter is 16 months old and does the same thing. She wants it all the time, especially at night, and then she is attached to my boob all night long. On one hand, I love cuddling up next to her and listening to the sounds of her nursing, on the other hand (mostly when my right shoulder starts to cramp up from being in the same position too long, or when I want to cuddle up to dh) I would like it to be less. I know she really wants/needs the nightime nursing, so I haven't really tried to wean her from that, just trying not to let her lay there with my boob in her mouth all night. It's really hard sometimes when she cries for it and I am just too tired, so I give in. I also want to get pg, so all of this is a real challenge. Not sure I really helped you, just wanted to let you know that I am in the same boat. Good luck!

[alegna]

Personally I'm not comfortable TTC when the nursling is under 2yrs. They still really need that milk and comfort.

Hang in there.

-Angela

[hannybanany]

My dd was like that at that age, too Then at 16 months she started actually eating solids and my cycle started to normalize. I got pg 3 months later. I also was taking something like 1000mg of vitex.

[Linzie2]

In my experience with DD, just when something is getting totally unbearable, it will start to ease up. I also agree with the fact that she may ease up if you ease up. I know it is so hard!

Even if you were to wean (or even successfully night wean) it may still take you a long time to conceive. I hope it doesn't, but it's the truth. Maybe your DD is about to do something big or get a bunch of teeth...anyway, she's really needing you for some reason right now. I'd say if night weaning is horrendous, then back off and maybe try again in a little while.

Hopefully all you really needed to was to come here and vent! : for a quick conception!!!

And there is tons of resources here about Vitex. I take a tincture, 25 drops a day. It has shortened my cycles (were about 90 days) but no baby yet!

[Pica]

I remember those days! I wasn't ttc but some times I still resented it.

Do you still resent it when she's NOT nursing? I remember feeling annoyed & occasionally wanting to wean when she was latched, or when she was twiddling, but in the moments I wasn't nursing, I was so glad I didn't give it all up in a moment of irritation. There's no going back & no better way to soothe her!

We did wean at 26 months - shortly after DD told me my boobs were "broken"

Baby dust to you ...

FYI - we night weaned at 14 months for my sanity. It didn't change night wakings or my supply